At what age is it appropriate for a child to attend kindergarten? 3 or 4? What exactly does the standard answer look like?
Many parents always want their children to win at the starting line, and before the age of 3, they can't wait to let them go to kindergarten and learn all kinds of advanced knowledge. As everyone knows, this kind of behavior is tantamount to "pulling up seedlings to promote growth", but it will affect the healthy development of the baby.
Professor Li Meijin once said: Now on the issue of children's education, parents are anxious, and children are more anxious. Obviously, they are still at an age where they don't understand anything, so they are sent to kindergarten early, not only can not see things but will harm children.
Isn't that the case? The neighbor's Xiao Mo, who just turned 3 years old, was sent to kindergarten by his parents, and he could learn some new knowledge and make a few good friends by entering the kindergarten early. After working hard to enter a good private kindergarten, the result was less than 1 week, and he was "dissuaded" by the school.
Although Xiao Mo is 3 years old, he does not speak fluently, his self-care ability is relatively poor, he will not eat, wear clothes, go to the toilet, nor remind the teacher of defecation, and will urinate in his pants almost every day. There was really no way, the director could only gently suggest that she take the baby home and wait until September or next year to enter the park.
For the time when children enter kindergarten, many senior kindergarten teachers have said that children go to kindergarten not only depend on age, but also on whether they have certain abilities, such as basic self-care skills, good social skills and so on.
01, basic self-care ability
Kindergartens are not nurseries, and teachers cannot take care of every child in every way like nannies. Moreover, there are many children in each class of kindergarten, and the teacher cannot focus all his energy on one child.
My son goes to a public kindergarten, there are only 3 teachers in each class, but he is responsible for 40-50 students, usually can look after the children, do not let them bump is already very good, how can you take care of them like a nanny?
For the sake of children, it is recommended that before going to kindergarten, parents are best to help them develop basic self-care skills, such as eating by themselves, dressing themselves, going to the toilet by themselves, and so on.
[Parents do this] Usually take the baby, try to let the children eat by themselves, dress themselves, and go to the toilet by themselves.
Take eating, don't be disgusted that they eat everywhere, just pick up the spoon, put the food in the mouth, eat into the stomach, is a good progress. In addition to the basic self-care ability, parents also have to guide children to dare to speak, can express, many children who have just entered the kindergarten will not go to the toilet by themselves, but as long as they can express and bravely tell the teacher, they can solve the problem of peeing pants.
My baby was 3.5 years old in kindergarten, when the weather was very cold, wearing more clothes, the child is difficult to go to the toilet by himself, worried about the discomfort of peeing pants, I will tell him every day: when you want to pee, you must be brave to tell the teacher.
For children who have just entered the kindergarten, the teacher is also very attentive, and will ask them every once in a while: Do you want to urinate?
02, good social skills
Kindergarten is a place for children to adapt to collective life, if the baby has no social skills at all, blindly sending them to kindergarten, it is likely to have the opposite effect, and even affect their psychological development.
Xiao Mo is a child with poor social skills, perhaps always staying at home with the elderly and not going out, Xiao Mo does not like to talk, nor does he like places with many people. In kindergarten, I hardly communicate with children. Once, a child touched his brick and was bitten by him fiercely.
Many parents think that it is normal for children to be too young and have poor social skills, and it is good to wait for kindergarten.
But in fact, if the child rushes to kindergarten without the corresponding social skills, and there is no one to guide him to help him, he is likely to fall into a vicious circle - isolated and excluded, more and more withdrawn, and then there are social obstacles.
[Parents do this] It is very common for the elderly to bring a baby, but it is best to change some not very good habits, such as some elderly people who are more at home, watch TV and listen to dramas at home every day, and do not take the baby out for several days.
This is a very bad habit of life, children are born with a strong curiosity, and if they want to explore the world, they need to go out more and explore more, and contact some children of similar age. Look at people more, contact people more, children will naturally find the trick to communicate with them.
Before going to kindergarten, parents can often take them to the kindergarten door to play, see the children who do activities inside, and tell the children about the interesting things about the kindergarten, which will improve the child's familiarity and intimacy with the kindergarten, and then enter the kindergarten can be easily integrated.
Dingma Message:
Children in kindergarten can not only look at age, but also depend on whether they have these two abilities, it is best to consciously cultivate children before they go to kindergarten, to help them prepare for kindergarten.
【The pictures in this article are all from the network, and they are invaded and deleted】