If the society is a big river, then the kindergarten is definitely a small river, many unspoken rules parents do not know, so it is easy to encounter, so the child is very lonely and helpless, Xiaobian is not alarmist.
01, the child went to kindergarten for more than 1 month, the teacher let the test iq
A colleague's daughter has only been in kindergarten for a month, and the teacher always says that the child has a problem, and sometimes it is particularly direct, saying that the child may have social barriers and should measure the IQ!
After the colleague heard it, he felt very angry and aggrieved, could not show it in front of the child, after the sadness came to xiaobian to say this situation, said that the teacher also reflected that he wanted to change a kindergarten for the child, xiaobian knew that he was very angry, because the daughter of the colleague was very well-behaved and obedient, how could this possibly be related to intelligence?
After that, Xiaobian asked colleagues to understand what was going on, and the feedback was:
Unsociable, uncooperative, other children have quickly adapted to kindergarten.
Separation anxiety is serious, go to the kindergarten to hug the parents and do not let go.
From just kindergarten to school has been crying, coaxing bad.
Poor language skills, unable to communicate with teachers and classmates normally.
After seeing the feedback, I have to say that there are really many problems in children.
The colleague panicked and also suspected, after a long time of entanglement, the colleague took the child to the test, and finally found that the child in addition to some problems with language, other normal.
But just feel very anxious, because the child's IQ is not a problem, why are there so many abnormalities?
In order to help colleagues, Xiaobian invited her sister-in-law who was a kindergarten teacher, and after learning about it, she said that it was not an IQ problem, but some behaviors that violated the unspoken rules of kindergartens.
02, these 3 types of children, easy to violate the kindergarten "unspoken rules"
The teacher not only has to manage the child's eating and dressing, but also deals with peeing pants and pulling, to take a lot of time, once or twice is fine, if this continues for a long time, the teacher will criticize the child.
After criticism, children will resist kindergarten, so parents should train their children's self-care ability before their children enter the kindergarten.
Children who do not speak and children who are too lively will make teachers feel headaches, but now children are treasures in the palms of their parents' hands, and they are injured, and teachers are not easy to explain.
Therefore, children who are undisciplined and like to beat people will be arranged in the last row of the classroom or locked up in a small black room.
According to studies, at least 80% of children will have anxiety about entering kindergarten, and the rest are mild symptoms.
I never cried, and I never stopped crying until I left, and it was useless for the teachers to take turns to comfort me. In fact, in addition to crying, children who do not pay attention to hygiene will also be ignored by teachers, and those with dirty hair and clothes and black nails will choose to ignore automatically.
03, parents take the baby to prepare in advance, after entering the kindergarten, the baby will not suffer
According to the situation of the colleague's daughter, the sister-in-law also recommends accompanying the child to prepare for entering the kindergarten, there are many ways, specific through the picture book, the sister-in-law recommended this set of "I Love Kindergarten" series to colleagues, in which the scene and narrative are very substitutionary.
There are six themes, each of which is different, is aimed at measures, the protagonist Pippi is a child who has just entered the kindergarten, and like many children, there will be anxiety about entering the kindergarten.
Unfolding with the protagonist Pippi, it portrays the delicate emotions of the kindergarten, makes the children full of resonance, soothes the anxious heart, and lifts the resistance to the kindergarten.
When her daughter was more than 2 years old, she accompanied her to read the complete set of picture books, and replaced the name of the protagonist with her daughter's nickname, not only focused, but also serious.
The colleague's daughter likes this set of picture books, and through the guidance of the story, she learned to eat and go to the toilet independently, and she is not so resistant to kindergarten!
Xiaobian suggests that there are children who are about to enter the kindergarten and children who have already entered the kindergarten, you can look at this set of picture books, take the children to understand the interesting things about the kindergarten, enhance the enthusiasm for entering the kindergarten, cry less nose, and the mother is more at ease.