On June 22, a fire in Hangzhou's Blue Qianjiang Apartment killed a family of three, the cause of the fire was the deliberate arson of the nanny in the family, this case just happened less than a month ago, yesterday there was a nanny robbery incident, suddenly the nanny has become a "high-risk" consumption. But the child has no one to take care of at home, the best choice at present should be to send it to the kindergarten, how old is the child suitable for kindergarten?
Let's first look at how parents in other countries do it
Enter the park from 6 months to 2 years old
Some countries in Europe and the United States even provide 6-month-old children with escort care in order to facilitate both parents to participate in social work. For such a small child, the main role of the kindergarten is to help with feeding, as well as to give basic care and companionship. This is determined by a country's social welfare and cultural traditions.
Entered the park at the age of 3
Many countries, including ours, stipulate that the age of admission for children in small classes should be 3 years old. From the perspective of psychological development, the child enters the stage of 3 years old from the binary mother-infant relationship to the three-yuan parent-child relationship. From the age of 3, it will gradually transition to the stage of development of pluralistic social relationships.
Entered the park at the age of 5
In some countries in Northern Europe, the social welfare is very good, and their parents can continue to take care of their children at home without working, so the child's enrollment time is from the age of 5.
So what are the effects of these three situations on the child's development?
The impact of entering the park before the age of 3
Sending into kindergarten too early is a harm to children. A new study in the United States found that no matter how good kindergarten is, children who stay in kindergarten earlier or longer are more likely to engage in aggressive behavior and disobedience throughout their elementary school years.
Professor Lamb's study of 3,000 young children also found that the level of the stress hormone cortisol in children in the first nine months of kindergarten was twice that of children of the same age who did not enter kindergarten. Simply put, the younger the toddler in kindergarten, the greater the stress value! Therefore, sending children to kindergartens prematurely, once children cannot adapt to collective life, they will leave scars in the depths of the soul and affect the healthy growth of children.
The impact of entering the kindergarten at the age of 3
Children around the age of 3 are generally out of the dependence and attachment stage of the mother-infant relationship. They have been able to tolerate the absence of their mothers for a short time, and at the same time have a certain need to learn cognition, so it is more appropriate to enter kindergarten at this age. However, the psychological development time of each child is inconsistent, and girls are relatively more likely to accept external discipline and have better self-discipline than boys. Because in early childhood, girls are more mature than boys. Hormones last until the age of two in girls and up to eight months in boys. Therefore, at this age, it is normal to send kindergarten.
The impact of entering the kindergarten after the age of 3
Some Nordic countries enter the park around the age of 5. From the perspective of building a sense of security for young children, such arrangements are generally safer, more reliable and secure. Children can better build a sense of security under normal parental discipline. At the same time, the cognitive education and preschool education given by parents to their children can also help children better establish the initial thinking mode, cognitive mode, method of thinking about problems, cultivation of observation and so on.
Through the research of child psychologists in the above countries, we can see that from the perspective of children's psychological development, young children are still in the stage of parent-child attachment before the age of 3, it is best to focus on family support, and the time to leave parents and families should not be too long. 6 months to 2 years old is the special emotional connection stage between children and parents, until the children and peers around the age of 2 years old active social interaction began to sprout, about 2 and a half years old children's logic and sense of order gradually established, in order to effectively carry out organizational interaction and life.
Because the infant stage is the best period for the development of early attachment, early admission to kindergarten will lead to children due to immature mental development, limited language development, and lack of understanding of regulating emotions, resulting in children becoming unwilling to take the initiative to socialize and express, lack of security, which will have an impact on children's future establishment of good interpersonal relationships and high-level emotional development. Therefore, age-appropriate behavior and education are crucial to the development of children, and do not turn the parents' opinions into stumbling blocks hindering the long-term development of children.
Therefore, we recommend that if parents have plenty of time and have basic knowledge of early childhood education, it is best to be able to accompany their children until the age of 5. However, many of us, because of the very busy work, may not be realistic to bring children to 5 years old, but it is also recommended not to be earlier than 3 years old.
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