On a sunny afternoon, 46-year-old Lao Li sat on a park bench, holding a cheap cup of tea in his hand, his brow furrowed, and he seemed to be preoccupied. Lao Li is a male nanny, but he has recently fallen into an unprecedented predicament. His female employer paid him 8,000 yuan a month, which was quite a high salary in the local area, but he felt physically and mentally exhausted because the female employer always made some excessive demands, which made him feel stressed.
Coming from a rural area, I resolutely left my hometown to work in the city in order to provide for my children's university education. I worked as a construction worker, courier, restaurant waiter, etc., but due to age and physical limitations, I finally chose the nanny industry. I thought the job was relatively stable and well-paid, but I didn't expect to meet such an employer.
The female employer's name is Ms. Zhang, who is nearly 60 years old, her husband has been dead for many years, and her children are abroad. She lives alone in a spacious villa, and needs to be taken care of in her daily life. When I first started to work at her house, Ms. Zhang was very kind, arranged a comfortable place for me to live, and often cared about my life. However, as time went on, Ms. Zhang's demands became more and more excessive.
First of all, Ms. Zhang asked me to massage her body every morning and evening. She said she was getting older, not feeling well, and needed someone to help her relax her muscles. It was a little embarrassing, but I endured it at the thought that it was my job. However, Ms. Zhang's demands became more and more excessive, and she not only asked for longer and longer massages, but also asked me to try various massage techniques and strengths. This made me feel very uncomfortable as I felt like I was being treated like a professional masseur and not a babysitter.
Secondly, Ms. Zhang often asks me to accompany her out shopping, watching movies, or participating in some social activities. She said she was too lonely to live alone and needed someone to keep her company. Although I was reluctant, I reluctantly agreed when I thought that my duty was to take care of my employer's daily life. Ms. Zhang, however, is becoming more and more demanding. Not only did she ask to accompany her throughout the process, but she also asked me to help her choose her clothes, match her shoes, put on makeup, etc. This made me feel very embarrassed and helpless because I felt like I was being treated like a personal assistant or partner rather than a babysitter.
What made me even more unbearable was that Ms. Zhang often verbally humiliated and belittled me. She said that I had no culture, no knowledge, no taste, and could only do some rough work. She even laughed at what I was wearing and accenting, making me feel very inferior and my dignity had been compromised. Although I knew that this was Ms. Zhang's temper problem, I still felt that I could not bear such insults and hurts.
Faced with such a predicament, I felt very entangled and helpless. I knew that the job gave me a stable income and allowed me to provide for my children's college, but I also felt that my dignity and personality had been seriously hurt. I don't know if I should continue to endure such insults and hurts, or if I should choose to leave this job.
By chance, I confided in a friend about my story. My friend was very angry and advised me to leave the job immediately. A friend told me, "Although you are a nanny, you are also a human being, and you have your own dignity and personality. You don't need to endure such insults and hurts for the sake of money. You should go for a more respectful and decent job. ”
After being persuaded by my friends, I finally made up my mind to leave this job. I submitted my resignation to Ms. Zhang and told her that I could no longer endure such insults and hurts. Ms. Zhang was very surprised and dissatisfied when she heard this, but I had already made up my mind. I packed my bags and left the villa to start a new journey in life.
Although I felt a little lost and reluctant to leave that high-paying job, I knew it was a choice I had to make. I believe that in the future, I will be able to find a more respectful and decent job, so that I and my family can live a happier and better life.