My name is Chen Lu, I am 28 years old and I have been married for two years. I've always had normal periods, but in the last three months, I suddenly realized that I didn't have my period. This worries me a lot because my husband and I have always wanted to have a baby, and irregular periods may affect fertility. So, I decided to go to the hospital for a check-up.
I went to the hospital with my husband. The doctor asked me about some basic conditions and then arranged a series of tests. While waiting for the test results, I was nervous that I would have some serious illness.
Finally, the results of the examination came in. The doctor called me into the office and told me the shocking news: I was pregnant! When I heard the news, I was stunned and couldn't believe my ears at all. Because my husband and I didn't plan to have a child at this time, and I have been menstruating normally all along, why did I suddenly get pregnant?
The doctor seemed to see my doubts, and he pointed to my husband who was sitting next to me and said, "Ask your husband." I turned to look at my husband and saw that he was keeping his head down, afraid to look at me. My heart sank, and I felt that something was wrong.
Under my questioning, my husband finally told the truth. It turned out that he had been secretly giving me birth control pills! I couldn't believe my ears when I heard this answer. I asked him why he did this, and he said hesitantly: "We are not in a good economic situation now, I don't want you to get pregnant at this time, I want to wait for a few more years to have a better financial foundation before having a child." ”
I trembled with anger and felt like my trust had been trampled on. I angrily asked him, "How can you be so selfish?" Did you know I want a baby? Why do you decide for me? The husband was speechless and just sat there silently.
When I got home, I calmly thought about our marriage. I found that there was always a problem with our communication, and he was always used to making decisions for me instead of consulting with me. This incident made me see his selfishness and indifference even more clearly.
I decided to have a good talk with him. I told him that I could not accept his behavior and could not continue to live in such a marriage. I filed for divorce and asked him to leave the house. He listened to me, didn't object, just silently packed up his things and left the house.
After the divorce, I faced this sudden child alone. Although I was a little flustered and uneasy, I knew I had to be strong. I decided that I wanted to give my children a complete home, and no matter how many difficulties and challenges there were ahead, I would face them bravely.
Looking back on this experience, I am deeply aware of how important communication and understanding are in marriage. If my husband could respect my wishes and choices, instead of making decisions for me, maybe our marriage would not have come to this point. Now, I can only hope that in the future, I can find the person who truly knows how to cherish and respect me.
After the divorce, I raised my children on my own, and although life was a bit difficult, I gradually learned to be strong and independent. I began to re-examine my life and values, and tried to find my own happiness.
In the process, I encountered a lot of difficulties and challenges. Sometimes I feel lonely and helpless, but every time I think of my children, I pick myself up again. I knew that I could not let my child see a weak mother, and I wanted to be an example and a supporter for him.
As time went on, I gradually came out of the shadow of divorce. I started to re-engage myself in work and life, make new friends, and expand my interests. I have found myself more confident and optimistic, and more capable of facing life's challenges.