The journey of life is very long, what happened at a certain time, when we look back, it may be a trivial moment, some things have passed, we must know how to say goodbye to the past life, in order to better continue the future life.
Life is lost
Xiao Kun, a 34-year-old man, is addicted to online gambling, losing four or five hundred thousand in two years, and he frankly admits that he has been playing regardless of whether he wins or loses, because he feels that he can't find a goal in life.
Xiao Kun's sister Qianqian said that her brother used to be a very good child, since the divorce in 2015, the whole person has changed, and she didn't have the heart to go to work, she cried very badly at that time, and when she returned home and hugged her mother's leg, she began to cry.
Qianqian couldn't help but shed tears when she talked about her brother's past, as a sister, she was both angry at her brother's indisputable anger and distressed by the bitterness in her brother's heart.
Some people say that starting a new relationship can quickly forget the past, but Xiao Kun refuses to find a girlfriend, and the family has no way.
Seeing her brother's sluggish appearance, Qianqian had taken her brother out to work, and she was originally able to get by, but since two years ago, her brother has intensified and lost all his family.
Qianqian said that her parents are very frugal people, they are also very difficult, every day is not willing to eat or wear, are for the sake of her brother, thinking of this, but also makes her cry.
Children are the hope of parents, children in their thirties suddenly decadent, for the elderly, it is not too much to say that it is a fatal blow, but they have no choice but to help him after the fact.
Escape from reality
Xiao Kun said that since his divorce, he would be sad to see anything familiar in the family, and in order to leave this sad place, he chose to go out with his sister to work. Now that six years had passed, his heart was only slightly better.
For the past six years, he has been keeping himself closed off and has little contact with the outside world. Speaking of the situation at that time, Xiao Kun couldn't help but choke up again.
When Xiao Kun divorced, the child was just over a year old, when the ex-wife put the child at home for her grandmother to take, and went to work in a small supermarket in the village.
At that time, everyone in the village knew about it, and their family members didn't know it until the end. Some people kindly reminded his ex-wife not to do this, but in the end, the ex-wife still filed for divorce.
When his ex-wife put the matter in front of Xiao Kun, he directly collapsed. He constantly reflected on himself, although his ex-wife cheated on him first, but Xiao Kun thought that the reason why she did this was related to him.
He is also a very frugal person, his ex-wife has always been at home with children, girls love to be pretty, but Xiao Kun always manages her, he feels that he does not care enough about his ex-wife to cause her to seek warmth outside.
Xiao Kun took the reasons for the failure of the marriage to himself, and it can be seen that he is indeed a very kind person.
And the people who can find reasons from themselves are all more responsible, but for a while there is no way to forgive themselves, they have been closed in the past and cannot come out, go astray, and do a lot of things that hurt themselves and their families.
Therefore, if a relationship wants to be long-lasting, at least both sides must be equal and can respect each other, and when the relationship is mixed with control, then sooner or later the relationship will have problems.
Affection is hard to harvest
It is reasonable to say that Xiao Kun has been divorced for 6 years, why did he not start to indulge in online games until the last two years? What did he go through in those four years?
After Xiao Kun's divorce, because she always felt ashamed of her ex-wife, she always wanted to slowly cultivate the feelings of the two back, hoping that she could return to this family.
In 2018, her ex-wife offered to buy her a car, and she reunited with him. Xiao Kun didn't say a word and directly paid her a down payment.
But the ex-wife did not come back as he expected, and after a while, the ex-wife proposed to break up with him and returned the money for the car to him.
Within half a month, the ex-wife turned around and married another man.
Xiao Kun had worked hard before, fantasizing that one day his ex-wife would return to his side, but this hope was ultimately disappointed.
Since his ex-wife got married, Xiao Kun feels that life has no head, and he has lost his goal of struggle, he began to give up on himself, did nothing, played games every day, knowing that online games are harmful, but still can't help but use online games to paralyze himself.
When people encounter sad obstacles, they will always do something to escape reality, some people borrow wine to pour sorrow, and Xiao Kun chooses online games.
The reason why Xiao Kun is addicted to the game is not how fun the game is, but when people stay in an environment for a long time, they don't know how to get up, and they will only keep indulging until they lose themselves.
In the face of pain, escape cannot make it disappear, and only by facing the problem can it be liberated from the quagmire.
Fortunately, in the face of the reporter's help, Xiao Kun seems to be very cooperative, and it can be seen that he also really wants to change the status quo and get out of the pain.
The call of love
Xiao Kun's mother choked on the side, and her little grandson told her that when he grew up, he would support his grandparents and father. The little grandson, who was only ten years old, said these words, which made Grandma very relieved and very distressed.
Every time I think of my grandson, I feel uncomfortable, my son is so old, but he doesn't know anything yet. It turned out that the debts he owed outside were all repaid by the old two, and they had always said that they were not willing to return to the back home, and this time they also forcibly dragged him back.
Even if there was only one percent hope, she wanted to save her son. Xiao Kun's mother kept wiping her tears, and the little grandson said, if not, the money that dad owes, when he grows up, he will pay it back.
Listening to the mother choking up about her son's understanding, Xiao Kun said that whenever she saw her son before, she would think of her ex-wife. After saying a word, Xiao Kun couldn't stop shedding tears.
The pain her ex-wife inflicted on her was too great, and under these years of escape, the scar grew larger and larger, and it is still untouchable to this day.
However, the loss of a relationship does not mean that the future will not be happy, the past has passed, and the days must be looked forward.
Under the enlightenment of psychological experts, Xiao Kun understood that because his ex-wife left, he had lost too much, which was more important than his ex-wife's departure.
He also understood that he had to make a break with the past, clean, disinfect, and treat the wounds of the past well, let it heal, change himself, and find the purpose in life again.
Under the guidance of psychological experts, Xiao Kun feels that the goal now is to live a better life, start from what you can do at hand, find a job first, pay off your debts, and live a better life.
Xiao Kun took the initiative to delete the game, the past relationship, he also tried to save, has tried his best, is not worth nostalgia for her anymore, the vision should be longer long-term, where is the end of the world, where there is no herb, why love a single flower?
The love of his family gave him a new lease of life
The reporter taught Xiao Kun a little trick, when the mood is bored, find an empty place, shout a few times in the distance, you can drive away the depression in your heart.
Xiao Kun couldn't help but try, and the full of resentment finally drifted with the wind with this cry, and a long-lost smile appeared on his face.
Looking at her son's obviously sunny face, Xiao Kun's mother said happily, this time I really believe in him, I have not given up and finally saw hope, she was so happy that she kept nagging, this son is really very good!
My sister also said happily, hoping that the game would not go up after uninstalling. Her sister's advice made Xiao Kun smile embarrassedly.
Xiao Kun, who opened his heart, looked sunny, and in the face of his family's ardent expectations, Xiao Kun said that he also wished his future life better and better.
In the applause with the reporter, Xiao Kun seemed to say goodbye to his past completely and began to welcome a new life.
epilogue:
No matter what happens, it is the family that can silently care and support behind them.
The care from the family is the biggest motivation for Xiao Kun to get out of the predicament, they constantly look for suitable solutions, analyze the reasons behind Xiao Kun's behavior, empathize with Xiao Kun's situation, and do not blindly catch his behavior and constantly reprimand, or simply let him go.
Xiao Kun has an unhappy marriage, but also has a family that loves him deeply, which is also a great happiness. I hope he understands what he has, shakes off yesterday's things, and smiles at the future life.
As the saying goes, life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten, life can not be smooth, when there is adversity, to correct the mentality, think more about what you have, think more about what you can do, start with the things that you can do around you, only by looking forward, can you better move towards a new life.