To be honest, when Kim JiaJun first came online, I especially disliked this character because of his selfishness and alienation from his mother.
Later, Jin Bo went online, and after knowing the reason why Jin Jiajun developed such a personality, I also began to slowly understand him, after all, over the years, he and Liu Xiaomin had little contact, and it was expected that he would not be close.
Later, when I saw Jin Jiajun as a game sparring partner to pay off his father's debts, I began to feel sorry for this child again - other people's fathers are shielding their children from the wind and rain, but Jin Bo's biggest value in the play is to pit his son vigorously.
As the bullet screen said, every time I saw Jin Bo appear, it made people want to explode every minute.
Thinking about it carefully, Since Jin Bo went online, he has not done a few personnel affairs -
In order to give his son face, Liu Xiaomin opened a room for Jin Bo in the hotel, so that he could find a job with peace of mind, but this guy did not seem to have put into action at all;
Being chased for debts has nowhere to go, simply go to find his son, not only drank Liu Xiaomin's wine without shame, but also slept in Liu Xiaomin's bed for one night (to tell the truth, if it were not for his son's feelings, it is estimated that Liu Xiaomin would have exploded long ago);
In front of his son, Liu Xiaomin had already spoken clearly, but when this guy was leaving, he also stole Liu Xiaomin's key, first went to the park to play games with a group of children, and then sneaked into Liu Xiaomin's house to sleep;
The most disgusting thing is that no matter who was right and who was wrong, now he can't mix, and he actually has the idea of remarrying Liu Xiaomin...
But even so, Jin Jiajun's emotional balance has always been on Jin Bo's side, and after he dropped out of school, he still insisted on returning to Jiujiang to work to help Jin Bo pay off his debts.
At the beginning, I didn't understand Jin Jiajun's psychology, and then I thought that Jin Jiajun's approach was normal.
Screenshot of the TV series "Little Min's House"
The reason why Jin Jiajun is like this is because since his parents divorced, he has been with Jin Bo.
Although we all know that over the years, Wang Sumin has been taking care of Jin Jiajun, but grandfathers, grandmothers, grandparents, even if they are good to their children, they cannot replace their parents.
Some people say that many times, children would rather be their parents' tonsils than be their parents' heart and liver baby. This sentence seems incredible, but in fact it makes a lot of sense, especially when the child grows up.
For Jin Jiajun, although Liu Xiaomin is her mother, she has only been his mother since Liu Xiaomin left her hometown for Beijing.
This is not the case with Jin Bo, the grandfather and son have been living together for all these years, and Jin Bo is not only his father, but also his family.
In Jin Jiajun's emotional circle, the innermost layer is Jin Bo, a little farther away is Wang Sumin, and as for Liu Xiaomin, although he is also a relative, he is the one in the outermost circle.
Under such a psychological effect, he was naturally closer to Jin Bo. After all, in his heart, he and his father are a whole that depends on each other.
On the other hand, according to Jin Bo's temperament, over the years, he certainly has not said anything good about Liu Xiaomin to his son, so that Jin Jiajun is even more alienated from Liu Xiaomin.
Although Jin Jiajun is now grown up, he may not accept his father's statement in full, and may also understand his mother's approach, but the idea of "father is closer" has penetrated deep into his bones, and it is even more impossible to change.
To some extent, in Jin Jiajun's heart, Jin Bo and Liu Xiaomin, one gave birth to himself, one raised himself, and it is better to be born than to raise grace, which is the truth.
As for the second aspect, it is because the shadow left by his mother as a child is too great.
After the divorce, Liu Xiaomin's reputation was ruined, and she left her hometown in a gray and slippery way.
Liu Xiaomin left, but the rumors about her did not stop, and after the gossip of the long-tongued women reached the ears of the children, they became an excuse for other children to bully Jin Jiajun.
There's one shot that's particularly heartfelt —
A group of children chased after the young Jin Jiajun, howling at the smooth words they heard from their parents, "Liu Xiaomin, flower butterfly, wearing a pair of small white shoes", humming while bullying Jin Jiajun.
Even now that Jin Jiajun has become an adult, the shadow of childhood has not faded, the sports meeting, obviously he has run in the front, but still can't help but always look back, and fell down, enough to prove how much damage to him that year.
It is not difficult to imagine that from the age of six to the age of twenty, such a thing must have happened countless times in Jin Jiajun.
For most children, when they are bullied, the most important thing they want is that their parents can stand by their side, and Liu Xiaomin's absence for more than ten years has made Jin Jiajun the only one to rely on.
Although Jin Bo did not have many opportunities to protect his son, even if it was less, it was better than Liu Xiaomin never appeared.
On the other hand, those children know about the "little white shoes" because their parents always talk about it, so that Jin Jiajun must have heard a lot of gossip about Liu Xiaomin, and in this case, Jin Jiajun naturally regarded his father as his only dependence.
Many times, we complain that our children are not close to us, but we forget that the reason why children are like this is because we are absent from their growth, and we are not there when they need us the most.
As for the third aspect, it is still because of Jin Bo.
Although Jin Bo is not in tune, we have to admit that his initial motivation for debt may really be for his son.
After all, after all these years, he has not had any new feelings (of course, this does not rule out that no one can look at him), and it is enough to prove that in his world, the son is the most important.
Even if this is not the case, in Jin Jiajun's view, his father is for himself, so he has not entered into new feelings.
With such a psychological hint, Jin Jiajun has always been grateful to his father, and now that his father is in trouble, he naturally wants to try his best to help his father.
Jin Bo is a very poor person, we know, Jin Jiajun also knows.
But no matter how bad Jin Bo is, in Jin Jiajun's heart, he is always his father, a father who is willing to give everything for him, no matter how reasonable he is, he can't ignore his father.
Of course, this is not an insoluble innings, if Jin Jiajun opens his mouth with Liu Xiaomin, maybe Liu Xiaomin will also help find a way, but such a thing, Jin Jiajun can't do it at all.
As mentioned earlier, although Liu Xiaomin is Jin Jiajun's mother, in his heart, Liu Xiaomin is not his own family (although it is cruel, in my feelings, this is an indisputable fact).
I even felt that although Jin Jiajun said that he was tough, in the depths of his heart, living here with Liu Xiaomin, he always had the feeling of sending people under the fence, and it was even more impossible for him to open his mouth to Liu Xiaomin.
With no external force to rely on, and not willing to see his father suffer, he had to choose to bear all this alone.
From this point of view, Jin Jiajun is still a good child with responsibility.
Of course, the reason why Jin Jiajun will be like this, there are other reasons -
Although Jin Bo was once the son of the factory director, but now he is down, not even a normal residence, on the contrary, Liu Xiaomin, although he fled in a hurry, but now Liu Xiaomin, how to see it, can also be regarded as a middle-class family.
Under such circumstances, Jin Jiajun, as a child, naturally still tilts his emotional balance to the relatively weak side.
In fact, such a situation also exists in parents - for most parents, their favorite child is often not the most capable one, but the relatively weak party.
It is difficult for a clean official to judge housework because there is no absolute right or wrong in the housework.
For example, Jin Jiajun, because we are in Liu Xiaomin's point of view, we feel that this child does not know what to do; but if we stand in Liu Xiaomin's point of view, we will feel that this is what he should do the most.
If Jin Jiajun doesn't ask Jin Bo, he may still be scolded by everyone as a white-eyed wolf.
Just pity Jin Jiajun this child, the brain is so smart, but also has a grateful heart, if he can have a complete family, even if there is no complete family, as long as Jin Bo is a little more reliable, he may have been admitted to his ideal school.
This is the case in film and television dramas, and it is no exception in reality.
Even in a family, when facing parents, the child's emotional balance is not absolutely fair. They will always consciously or unconsciously favor one of them, but such a thing is normal.
However, as children, we still have to try to consider the feelings of our parents and try to make a bowl of water flat.
After all, on our path of growth, they have all given too much.
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