At the beginning, I never understood Liu Xiaomin - although divorced with a baby, Chen Zhuo was really good, no matter from which point of view, Chen Zhuo was a good match for Liu Xiaomin.
First of all, every time he was with Liu Xiaomin, Chen Zhuo could find a lot of topics.
Many people say that Chen Zhuo's temper is annoying, and I don't particularly agree with this.
In my cognition, whether two people are suitable for being together, there is a very important point, that is, two people together to have something to say, after all, living a long time is a long-term thing, if it is always relatively silent, after the initial passion dissipates, the relationship between the two people will also come to the brink of collapse.
Chen Zhuo's broken mouth will become a conciliator of ordinary life.
Secondly, from beginning to end, Chen Zhuo has great respect for Liu Xiaomin.
Before the relationship between the two was not made public, they were obviously boyfriend and girlfriend of Zhengda Guangming, but because of Liu Xiaomin's concerns, every time the two went on a date, they had to be sneaky.
But even if it was such an alliance under the city, Chen Zhuo had never objected, and if it were not for his friend's bad idea, he would not have told Li Ping about it.
The third and most important point is that Chen Zhuo is very careful in this relationship.
According to our popular understanding, the love of middle-aged people cannot be as bold and enthusiastic as young people, either calculating trade-offs or long streams.
But Chen Zhuo is not like this, the beginning of the plot, is the anniversary of the first anniversary of the two love, because jin Jiajun's sudden appearance disrupted the romantic date in the two people's plans, but Chen Zhuo still did not give up, in the garden downstairs of Liu Xiaomin, they drank champagne, they looked at the "stars", so that the days that should have been ordinary had endless fireworks.
Most importantly, every time Liu Xiaomin was present, Chen Zhuo's eyes never left her.
Screenshot of the TV series "Little Min's House"
For an ordinary woman, when she meets such a good man, she will definitely grasp it firmly in her hands and enter into marriage with him as soon as possible.
After all, that marriage certificate brings people not only commitment, but a long-term sense of security.
Wang Sumin opposed their marriage, I can understand, after all, the elderly have the concerns of the elderly, it is impossible to do what they want to do with their nature like young people.
However, Liu Xiaomin also objected, which made people feel a little incredible.
After careful analysis of the causes and consequences, it was found that Liu Xiaomin was also normal to do so, and all of this was actually because of the three men in her life.
In the first place, it is definitely Jin Bo.
Although the two have been divorced for more than a decade, the shadow left by that marriage to Liu Xiaomin has always existed.
As a divorced woman, she naturally knows what the real marriage represents, no matter how beautiful the two people are when they are in love, but once the two people enter the marriage, the days will only be trivial chai rice oil and salt, it is difficult to escape from such a chicken feather life, Liu Xiaomin naturally does not dare to easily walk into such a cage again.
In fact, not only Liu Xiaomin in the story, but also many divorced women in reality are also like this -
Because they have failed, even if happiness is really in front of them, they dare not take that step easily, they would rather spend more energy on making money, and dare not use this mind on personal love.
I remember when I first chased "The Second Time is Also Beautiful", the heroine An An was also like this, obviously she had fallen in love with Xu Lang, and she also felt Xu Lang's deep affection for herself, but she had not dared to accept it.
It wasn't until he really reached the critical juncture of life and death that An An understood what he wanted most and reaped true happiness.
As for the second person, it is Liu Xiaomin's son Jin Jiajun.
When Liu Xiaomin and Jin Bo divorced, Jin Bo got custody of his son, because for various reasons, Liu Xiaomin had very little contact with his son over the years.
When Jin Jiajun took the college entrance examination, he lost touch with the ideal university.
For Liu Xiaomin, these are all obstacles that cannot be passed.
Later, Jin Jiajun came to the city to re-study, staying with his mother all day, at such a juncture, Liu Xiaomin naturally did not dare to disclose his relationship with Chen Zhuo to his son, as for entering the marriage, it was naturally far away.
In Liu Xiaomin's view, it is precisely because she and Jin Bo divorced and did not give Jin Jiajun a complete family that the child was not admitted to college, even if she has the intention of marrying Chen Zhuo, she must wait until after the child's college entrance examination.
On the other hand of the story, Chen Zhuo's daughter Chen Jiajia also continued to re-read because of two failed college entrance examinations, and Liu Xiaomin's reasons like this can also be accepted by Chen Zhuo.
I once read a passage on the Internet that said that the biggest obstacle for divorced men and women to enter marriage is children.
If you think about it, there is still some truth to this sentence -
Once they have children, their lives are not just themselves, to a large extent, they all live for the children, and they will try to prevent any possibility that is not good for the child.
Although we all know that stepmothers are not stepmothers (not all stepmothers are bad people, but with stepmothers there is such a thing as stepmothers, which has long become people's habitual thinking), but it is not a simple thing to let your children manage a father who is not related by blood.
After all, no one can guarantee that the person who remarries will wholeheartedly be good to his children.
As for the third person, it is Teacher Su.
At that time, Liu Xiaomin and Teacher Su were very innocent, but it was a correspondence between Zhiyin, and later Teacher Su's wife saw those letters, she told Liu Xiaomin's husband Jin Bo, and then the whole factory knew.
Because of this incident, Liu Xiaomin divorced, Teacher Su disappeared (although everyone thought that Teacher Su accidentally fell into the water, but the body has not been found, it is likely that Teacher Su has run away from home), leaving Teacher Su's wife alone with the child.
At that time, Liu Xiaomin seemed to be nothing to herself and Teacher Su, but when she looked back at this matter many years later, she was also devastated, and she realized that her actions not only pushed herself into an unbearable situation, but also indirectly hurt Teacher Su's family.
As the text on the Internet says, the interaction between a married man and a woman is not something that can be justified if the person feels innocent.
Liu Xiaomin is very guilty, if Teacher Su is still alive in some corner of this world, he will also bear the harm he has done to his family.
When you are young, it doesn't matter, but after people reach middle age, they will naturally hesitate and hesitate to reflect on the experience they have experienced along the way.
After all, Teacher Su's incident has always been a hurdle in her heart for Liu Xiaomin.
For Liu Xiaomin, Teacher Su is not only a confidant, but also her spiritual belief. However, since Teacher Su disappeared, this faith has completely collapsed, shattering into a slag.
I even feel that in Liu Xiaomin's heart, there has always been a position for Teacher Su, although we all know that this position has nothing to do with love, but with such a person, Liu Xiaomin is naturally difficult to enter the marriage calmly.
I have not read the original work, I don't know how Liu Xiaomin and Chen Zhuo ended in the original work, but it is not difficult to imagine that in the TV series, the screenwriter will definitely give them a happy ending.
Perhaps, Chen Zhuo's breaking of their relationship with Li Ping will also become the biggest assist of their love.
When I talked about love when I was young, I always thought that love was enough.
Therefore, there will be this picture - in the cold and windy street, a stupid boy invites a girl to eat a bowl of rice noodles, although the stomach is not very full, but for them, it is enough to be able to share happiness and suffering together.
So, they smirked at each other and ran hand in hand in the empty street, even if everyone regarded them as fools, they felt that they were the happiest couple.
After adulthood, we find that the so-called love is not love, but also family lineage, wealth, ability... As a result, we have less simple likes and more trade-offs.
The longer people live in this world, the more traces are left to the world, and naturally there are more entanglements.
Wang Sumin said————
"In your case, you are all divorced, you all have children, your children are so old, you all have your own jobs, circles, families, and how to integrate?" easy? I thought, you have to be able to have a companion, be able to communicate, and mentally solve the problem. ”
Although I personally do not talk about Wang Sumin's views, we have to admit that as divorced middle-aged men and women, Chen Zhuo and Liu Xiaomin are much more entangled than ordinary people.
From the perspective of the world of middle-aged people, at some stages of life, love is not as important as we think, and only when we live well will we meet the most suitable person.
If happiness cannot come for a long time, you may wish to wait first, perhaps it is the biggest lesson that Liu Xiaomin has brought to us.
(Originality is not easy, if there is a reprint, please indicate the source.) ）