It is said that the twin households are at the lowest end of the biological chain of the two-child family, so that many families with daughters will be disgusted, either looking for an only child or looking for a "one son and one daughter" family, which is also understandable.
First of all, the daughter married to get along with the concubine, if the mother-in-law a bowl of water is uneven, it is inevitable that there will be contradictions, second, the parents must consider the marriage of the two sons, so the material conditions are worse.
But everything must be said from both ends, the gemini also have their own chain of contempt, especially the eldest son gets married, the parents will also put forward their own requirements, how do they really think?
26-year-old Li Lei is the eldest in the family, the family also has a younger brother who goes to college, he now has a stable job, his parents are anxious about his marriage, he has a family, his parents' hearts are half down, and they can concentrate on their young son.
But Li Lei's personality is more introverted and not good at talking, so there is no suitable girlfriend so far, and his parents simply found a matchmaker and wanted to let others help introduce one.
In fact, to say that it is a matchmaker, it is just a nearby aunt who loves to be a popular bride, she knows many people, and her personality is more enthusiastic, so it has also contributed to a lot of marriages.
On this day, Li Lei's parents invited her to the house, and the aunt made a detailed inquiry to Li Lei, and then asked, What kind of girl do you want to find?
Li Lei couldn't say it, his mother said a little embarrassed, his aunt, you also know the situation of our family, for the two sons to go to college, but also introduced him to work, the family is really not rich, now the younger son is really spending money, we also have to keep some for him.
Therefore, if the girl's family has a house, it must be the best choice, or the family does not want a bride price, and when the girl comes to our house, she will definitely be blessed. If there is really none, choose an only daughter or two sisters, there is no boy in the family, the mother-in-law will also hurt them more, so that buying a house to pay a down payment will be easier.
In other words, the man's family actually proposed three non-marriages:
1, girls do not have a house, do not marry
2, girls have brothers in the family, do not marry
3, the girl's family wants too much bride price, do not marry
So she just finished speaking, the matchmaker's face changed, she jokingly said, cheap let your family to occupy, so I am afraid that a lot of looking, you wait for the news.
After saying that I was going to stand up and leave, I suddenly had a sneer after coming out, and then Shook my head, the family is like this and picked, I really don't understand the current market.
If the family conditions are average, and there are two sons in the family, Dabao's marriage will face more tests, and these problems, parents should best consider well, so as not to leave hidden dangers in the future.
1, marriage hardware problems
The hardware problem of marriage is nothing more than buying a house, many parents only have the ability to buy a house for one son, so the other son has to live with the in-laws, is it to make the boss aggrieved or let the second be wronged?
This point is not well considered, not only is it easy to cause discord between the two brothers, but there will also be problems in the future marriage of the son, and it is necessary to talk about whether the parents are fair and just.
2. Marriage conditions
Just like the above example, parents have two sons, the heart is more eager for the woman to be particularly powerful, if the woman can buy a house, then the pressure on their shoulders will be removed by half, so when picking the object, it will be more picky, invisibly will also increase the resistance of the son's marriage.
3, Dabao is more likely to be discouraged
The big treasure in the twin household, when facing marriage, is more likely to be discouraged, the answer is very simple, his own conditions will make many families daunted, the woman will also consider comprehensively, the big treasure has become the object of selection, the number of times, it is inevitable that it will give up on itself. On the contrary, Erbao's marriage will be much smoother, and the eldest brother is already married, and his resistance will be much smaller.
The family has two sons, don't raise them to be like this
1. Ma Bao Male
Ma Bao male let many women have a common experience, not married to a husband, but more sons, Ma Bao man has no opinion, everything listens to the mother.
Therefore, after marriage, the mother-in-law will also participate too much in the life of the small two, the two families can not hide what the mother-in-law, life is facing transparency, family conflicts will be intensified, and the closest thing to the mother's husband is still the mother, which will also lay hidden dangers for his marriage.
2. Slacker
Marry a man, dress and eat, life is inseparable from chai rice oil and salt and children, when the sweetness is over, the rest is the triviality of life.
If a man is very lazy, all the housework is handed over to the wife, it is bound to be contradictory, the woman has become a woman, education is facing widowed parenting, so the diligent man, more capable of making the family happy, even if the economic conditions are not good, know to understand each other, will also make women particularly secure.
3, nibble on the old people
The most important thing for a man is the sense of responsibility, when he becomes the mainstay of the family, he can undertake the elderly on the top and raise children at the bottom, which is a man who stands tall in the sky.
But many boys are spoiled by their parents, nibbling on their parents at home, getting married and nibbling on their wives and mothers-in-law, getting old and nibbling on their children, doing nothing all day, not thinking of making progress, always thinking about pie in the sky, such a man, even if the family conditions are particularly good, girls should not choose.
So it is not terrible to have two boys, what is terrible is to educate the child badly, let the child have a sense of responsibility, independence, and be able to rely on himself in the future, such a boy is a high-performing stock, he will become more and more powerful, give his wife and children strong protection, such a boy will not be disliked, nor will he be selected, and excellent girls can naturally find the shining points in him.