"My sister gave you a meeting gift, it's normal" The boyfriend was straight, and the woman stopped the loss in time

There is a line in "The New Marriage Era": "Marriage is not just a matter of two people, you marry him, you are married to the sum of all his social relations." "I deeply believe that when a woman marries someone, although it is between lovers, the feelings come naturally and the melon matures. But in fact, life after marriage is far more than just involved with the man of the other party, his relatives and friends, especially his original family, are relationships that you can't avoid.

In other words, whether a marriage can be happy for a long time is very important to the person who marries, but what kind of original family the other party has is actually equally important. In order to avoid realizing that you are marrying the wrong person after marriage, you should be cautious before marriage, as the old saying goes: "Buy a pig to see the circle, marry a daughter-in-law to see the hospital."

Before marriage, knowing the atmosphere of each other's original family, the general disposition of each other's parents and each other's siblings, should be a key step in your decision whether to enter this marriage. We all need to understand that the other parent's mode of getting along is, to a large extent, your future mode of getting along.

The other parent's attitude toward several children largely determines your future weight in the family. Therefore, if you want to enter into marriage with each other, please be sure to follow the advice of your parents, in addition to paying attention to your boyfriend's words and demeanor, you should try to go to the other party's house as much as possible to see, have more contact with each other's parents, and feel the family atmosphere of the future in-laws.

Gu Qian just followed the advice of her parents, not only usually paying attention to her boyfriend's words and deeds on some issues, but also choosing to insist on going to her in-laws' house before talking about marriage and marriage, regardless of the long distance. It was also this time that the ugly daughter-in-law saw her in-laws, which made Gu Qian retreat from this relationship.

Although some people say that she is sloppy and her boyfriend feels very innocent, she believes that her decision is not wrong. Because some things, even if it doesn't happen at the moment, but since it is a concept in the bones, it will basically not change, why should I wait to regret it later?

Gu Qian and her boyfriend Li Hao are college classmates, the two belong to a long-term relationship, the feelings are not how strong, but they are also rushing to get married. Li Hao has a younger sister, gu Qian knows in love. At that time, she was surprised to hear that the future sister-in-law had been working for three years.

But she didn't think much about it, she thought that her sister didn't like to study, so she started working early, after all, she herself had such a situation around her. However, when she casually mentioned this matter to her parents, her parents asked her to pay more attention, hoping that Li Hao's original family was not a patriarchal family. Even if the distance is relatively far, you have to go to the other person's home to feel the atmosphere.

Although Gu Qian felt a bit exaggerated, her parents did not oppose her long-distance marriage, and she did not even mind that the other party's family situation was not as good as her own mother's family. What's so bad about paying more attention to things that are good for you? But it may be that Li Hao is good at disguise, or in the current life, there is nothing that can involve son preference, so Gu Qian did not find any problems. It wasn't until she went to her future in-laws' house that she realized that her parents' concerns were not wrong.

Generally, the first time a daughter-in-law comes to the door, she either goes to a restaurant to eat, or the future in-laws take charge. But the first time Gu Qian went to her in-laws' house, she was surprised to find that it was the future sister-in-law who was busy in the kitchen. A man, covered in sweat, saw her coming and came out to say hello. Gu Qian's heart was vaguely uneasy, she could not explain it with her sister-in-law's cooking level, because no one went to take the handle, and Li Hao's parents were watching TV in the living room.

Gu Qian really couldn't look at it and wanted to go in to help, but was first stopped by Li Hao: "My sister is used to it, this is her job." Li Hao's mother also smiled and said: "Today is the first time to meet, you don't have to work, and it's not that you don't have a chance to perform." The words of the mother and son deepened the uneasiness in Gu Qian's heart. It was hard to survive until dinner, and Gu Qian was surprised to find that the sister-in-law did not come to the table.

In the afterglow of her vision, Gu Qian found that the other party was eating in the kitchen, and it was different from the dishes on the table in front of her, feeling like leftovers. At this moment, Gu Qian was already speechless, but she couldn't ask more, because Li Hao's parents kept asking her all kinds of tricky questions. Just as expected, Gu Qian found that the dishes and chopsticks after the meal were also brushed by the sister-in-law. Not only that, the future mother-in-law also made a strong effort to summon her daughter to cut fruit to entertain guests, and she cut her hand in nervousness, and what she cared about was not her daughter's fingers, but scolding her for being useless.

The most unacceptable thing for Gu Qian was that Gu Qian really couldn't sit still and found an excuse to choose to leave that day. The first time the meeting gift, the mother-in-law actually took it to her from her sister-in-law's bag. Gu Qian looked at the thick envelope, thinking in her heart that the amount should be quite a lot, it seems that the future in-laws should be satisfied with themselves, but why is the future sister-in-law giving herself a gift? Gu Qian finally couldn't hold back and asked Li Hao what was going on, why the meeting gift was given by his sister, and why you had this attitude towards your sister.

Li Hao was very surprised and said, "They are all family, isn't this a very normal thing?" Cooking is for her own good, and she will not say anything when she goes to her in-laws' house later. As for this gift, the money earned by the sister before marriage was originally given to the mother's family, so she took it out to you, and there was no problem? Gu Qian was stunned, what is this not the concept of son preference? She suddenly reacted, and What did Li Hao's mother mean when she said that she would have the opportunity to perform in the future.

Gu Qian was extremely glad that she insisted on coming over this time, if according to Li Hao's words, wait until the wedding to meet his parents, it is estimated that it is not a breakup, but a divorce. After Gu Qian returned, she returned the meeting gift to Li Hao at the first time and proposed to break up. Knowing the reason, Li Hao was very aggrieved and said, "In the future, we will not live with our in-laws, you have nothing to worry about." Besides, my parents are partial to me, isn't it good for you? ”

Gu Qian looked at her boyfriend who still didn't understand where the problem was, which was a little sad. He thinks that his parents are right to treat their sister like this, but in fact, he himself has a problem with his bones. It is foreseeable that when you integrate into such a family, what awaits you in the future is bound to be a woman's business, and you must have a son and other problems that you basically cannot accept. Since you know that your life will be chicken and dog jump in the future, then breaking up now is the best policy. Do you say that Gu Qian's choice is sloppy?

When we get married, we choose what kind of person to marry, first of all, we must look at each other's character, and secondly, we must look at each other's family style. Although the family style ranks second, the character of people with improper family style is basically incorrect. If there is no problem at the moment, but the people who come out of such a family have the same concept in their bones. If you insist on marrying such a person, you must spend more time together, and make sure that the other party is indeed rejecting the concept of the original family, so that it may not affect the future married life.

But if you agree with the bad concept of the original family, but it seems that it will not affect the lives of the two at present, it is better to break up early. Because, sooner or later, these ideas will be applied to you, and there will be no exceptions. Getting married and living a life, the key is to look at the inside, the inside is not good, there is really no need to take the second half of your life.

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