Wen/Director Zhao
Oral /Wang Guizhi (pseudonym)
Some people say that kinship is not as good as friendship.
Relatives are a group of blood-related strangers, and there are all kinds of contradictions and conflicts of interest, and it is difficult to get along well. In most Chinese families, the harm and consumption brought by kinship is greater than the grace and happiness brought!
Today, we listen to Ms. Wang's personal experience and see the strange stories of her kinship:
It is said that borrowing money depends on the relationship, my family's affairs are more strange, my father manages my mother, even the husband and wife can not borrow money. After my mom and my dad got married, my mom didn't get a dime out of the iron rooster. All expenses are available to my mother's mother's family.....
My father was dying, waiting for rescue, I asked my mother to borrow ten thousand, my mother did not agree, said to keep my uncle's children and get married.
This is what makes me extremely broken! At this point, my parents had been divorced for years.
There are so many brothers and sisters on my father's side, none of them squeak, and my father is still the youngest.
When my parents were just married, my mother's Shandong family (several uncles and aunts, my mother is the eldest) came to the northeast to escape the wilderness, lived in my house, and did not even make bed quilts, all of which were made by my grandmother bed by bed.
Several uncles went to school, and their father carried sacks, cut pigs and grass, and provided for them.
The weddings of several of my aunts were all caused by my father Zhang Luo. It can be said that Dad squeezed out his heart and soul for mom's mother's family.
My family's ruin began with borrowing money, because it seemed that only borrowing money could see human nature.
Dad has been tired for many years, full of diseases, high blood pressure, rheumatism, stomach problems... My dad ended up with stomach cancer. At this time, my parents have divorced, I went to manage my mother to borrow money, and my mother said not to borrow.
Two reasons why moms don't borrow money:
First, Dad is terminally ill and does not borrow, and he cannot be cured if he borrows
Second, if it can be cured, but it is expected that Dad will not be able to afford it.
Later, I learned that the real reason for my parents' divorce was because my father had cancer, and my mother was distressed about money and quickly cut off my father.
You heard it right, this is the face of a couple who has been married to my father for decades, I didn't care if she borrowed one hundred and eighty thousand (I know that she can't borrow more), I borrowed ten thousand...
Dad helped Mom's mother's family to gain a foothold in the northeast, uncle and aunt went to school, got married, had children, all of which were done by Dad...
Tell you a classic shot.
My uncle got married, and my father didn't have any money at that time, so he lent money to his uncle to make furniture and buy bicycles. It snowed heavily on the day of my uncle's wedding, and the bus couldn't go.
Dad organized his comrades-in-arms (comrades in the countryside in the northern wilderness) to dig up heavy snow day and night a day in advance. That was the Great Northeast decades ago, when people's noses could be frozen, and you probably wouldn't believe it.
My mother didn't borrow it, so I asked my aunt to borrow money, because my uncle was even more helpless, and he scratched his head when he mentioned the money. My aunt said that children get married with money!
You heard it right, his original brother-in-law was lying in the hospital waiting to die, she had money not to borrow, said to give the child marriage.
At that time, I spat a mouthful of thick phlegm in her face, and my uncle smoked with his head bowed on the side, not daring to say a word.
I said, you are all wolf hearts and dog lungs! You forgot when you two got married, your wedding car was in the back, and Dad was leading people in front to clear the snow.
My dad came home for 3 days without getting up, and the high fever didn't go away!
In the past, it was good that the big family was still like a family, but since my grandmother died, my mother's family seemed to have changed back to the prototype.
My grandmother also came to my father that year. Every time grandma cooked noodles, she would give her father an extra poached egg and warn the whole family that your eldest brother-in-law is the hero of our family.
But after my grandmother's death, the relationship between my mother's family and family immediately weakened.
Let's put it this way, except for the New Year's Festival, when relatives meet, eat and eat, we basically rarely move around and live our own days.
Just because of the death of her grandmother, she gave her house to her father, saying that her father was a hero and that our family should repay him.
Save the emergency does not save the poor, laugh at the poor and do not laugh at the prostitutes! This is what my uncle said when he was drunk.
After my parents divorced, no one went to see my father, who lived in my grandmother's old house (my grandmother died very early), and my uncle and several aunts passed by and did not look into the yard.
In their eyes, the poor are not respected.
I asked my sister to borrow money to see my father (my sister gave it to my mother), and my sister said, in two days, my money is not due yet! This is my sister, Daddy's daughter!
When my sister got married, my father divorced and worked at the construction site, and my father gave my sister ten thousand.
My sister also accepted it politely, at that time my father was still sick, and I was not willing to spend money on chinese medicine. At that time, ten thousand was a lot of money, especially for Dad.
My sister wanted to buy a house, and my mother lent my sister fifty thousand. My dad was hospitalized and my mom didn't take a penny
My mother has always been pestering my sister's family, thinking that her family has money, eats well and dresses well, because my brother-in-law's family has money. My mother felt that my family was poor, and I was disgusted when I talked to my family.
After this incident, my heart also hardened.
I said at that time, Mom, if you were lying in the hospital in the future, I wouldn't have paid more.
My mom said, you don't have any money. My mom and I fell apart completely.
My sister's family wants brands to eat and wear, and what the children want to buy. My children buy a piece of clothing I have bought a seasonal discount, clothes and shoes are dozens of.
I saved so much, just to give my father flowers, I know that my father will not live long, after all, he has fed me... I can't watch him wait for death.
My mother's money, she will only post to her mother-in-law and my sister.
My dad's family was also snobbish.
I remember when I went to college, the tuition was not enough. My dad pulled down his face and asked my mom to open her mouth, but she didn't borrow it.
Asked my two aunts to borrow, I couldn't borrow a thousand pieces. My two aunts were both worth more than 100,000 at that time.
Dad was down after the divorce, and there was no one to take care of him.
My aunt said that my father didn't do anything to them, just busy with their mother's family, they had no obligation.
My third uncle was like that.
Once my grandmother was very ill, my father sent a telegram to my third uncle to let me come back, and the transportation communication was inconvenient at that time. My third uncle received the telegram and came back several days later, and when he saw that my grandmother was well, he complained about my father.
Later, Grandma was sick again, and Dad didn't dare to send it again.
My grandmother died, and that time it was sent after her death. This time my third uncle was reluctant and complained that my father had not sent a telegram earlier.
I actually don't like my dad being too nice to his siblings, and his siblings aren't appreciative.
My dad was dying of illness, so I went home and knelt down for my mom and said you think about it before...
My mom said she didn't want to.
I looked for my sister, and she said to think about it in the morning, and in the afternoon, the next day, the third day, I didn't even answer the phone.
Finally, I begged my grandfather to tell my grandmother, so I sent my friend to kneel down and borrow tens of thousands of pieces.
After dad died, one of my comrades came out of his cell and came to my house, saying that dad had lent him three thousand yuan, saw that I was miserable, and recognized me as his daughter.
He was a son, committed a crime, gone.
My husband and I moved from the rented house to his house and he transferred the house to me... My days changed completely.
My righteous father said that his daughter-in-law had no money for the blood hemorrhage when she gave birth to the child, and it was my father who had snowed heavily and walked dozens of miles to the hospital to send him money.
Later, he had no money to pay back, he went to the cell, and his daughter-in-law found my father and said, "I will use a few old sows to arrive." My father didn't want it, saying that in the future he would come out and have money to pay back, and if he didn't have money, he wouldn't pay it back.
His daughter-in-law knelt on the ground and cried.
As soon as my righteous father mentioned this scene, he burst into tears and said that my father was a good man and should not be this life.
Later, my sister said that my mother had uremia.
At that time, my sister's family was in ruins, my brother-in-law's family had committed an accident, you can think of it, it was the hand of the public family...
The sister lives alone with two children in a rental house. I went out to work to wash dishes in restaurants and make a living. My sister couldn't really borrow any money, so she went to my uncle to borrow it, and at that time my uncle opened a small shop.
My uncle had promised ten thousand, but when someone arrived, my uncle said to ask me to sign it together, and he borrowed it. In the future, my mother, in case not, is afraid that my sister will not be able to afford it.
My uncle knew I had money, so I didn't go. I didn't sign it, I think that's your sister too, I see you can't bear to wait for her to die!
I became extremely cold-blooded at that time, and when I thought of my father dying in the hospital and having no money to treat his illness, I hated them...
It can be said that I am cold-blooded, but I am also forced by life, and when I was at my lowest point, in order to save my father, a woman was on the construction site, working several jobs a day, cooking and moving bricks.
No one helped me at that time!
From that moment I understood a truth, people can only rely on themselves forever, and no one can rely on them!
Try to protect yourself and improve your ability to resist risks! Only after experiencing desperate circumstances can you understand what is most precious.
Later, my cousin of my aunt's family had a drunk driving accident and killed someone, and my aunt came to borrow money and cried.
When I saw her crying, I was soft-hearted, and when I was a child, she treated me really well. My aunt stalled these broken things in her later years, and it was really pitiful, I thought about it all night, and when I got up in the morning, my righteous father prepared all the money for me, and I didn't go.
My aunt called, and I said, if you didn't save your brother, I won't save my brother now.
I'm going to make her remember!
I know that when the article is published, someone must have scolded me for not having a conscience, and can only say that you have not experienced mine...
My aunt died that day, and all the people cried so hard that I didn't cry.
My sister said, why don't you cry, I said it would be good if I could come, my father died, and none of them went.
My mother scolded me for not understanding humanity. I said, it should be your family who does not understand humanity.
Before, my aunt's family had money, my uncle was a trader, all the relatives bought my aunt's house, not to mention my uncle's family, licking is even more.
My aunt died, and they and my uncle immediately drew a line, because they both owed my aunt money. My sister owes it too, which is why my sister is crying.
People are different, and home and home are not the same!
I sent her parents six brothers and sisters noisy, and even did not speak for several years, but really want to encounter something big, scolding and grinning in the mouth, but in the end there is still money to pay, powerful contribution.
But my family is an exception, there is no warmth at all, not even a little human touch.
I concluded: understand whether to be grateful, not to see the estranged, the pro is not necessarily grateful, the sparse is not necessarily the white-eyed wolf.
Director Zhao combed through a few details of Ms. Wang:
1, the real reason for the divorce of Ms. Wang's mother and father is that her father is ill, and her mother is a person who loves money, and she is distressed about money, so she simply draws a line, so her grandmother is sick for half a year.
2. Ms. Wang is now offering her sister's child (serious illness), but she still does not speak to her sister.
Any family can be rich and will encounter disasters, so everyone should save money to resist risks.
If you really encounter a disaster, it is also your own disaster, not everyone's disaster.
Husbands and wives, parents and children need selfless mutual assistance, but other relatives, to be honest, earn more and earn less, it is really just their own business, who will bear it for you?
You can't just let someone else take your disaster by saying that "anyone's family can have a catastrophe."
Just because anyone may need help, everyone will be willing to lend temporarily to those with similar economic conditions and interests, rather than to poor relatives who are poor and cannot afford to pay.
The case of Ms. Wang's family is indeed very excessive, very heartfelt, and there is no family affection at all.
After all, my father had paid so much for their family...
Do you have such relatives?
Director Zhao listened to the fans in the live broadcast room
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