Chat with outsiders to be doubly vigilant, after all, people's hearts are separated from the belly, the heart of prevention has always been indispensable, and it is really impossible to take it lightly and lead to not choosing words.
First, don't say how much you have a pension, let alone how much money you have in your family.
Chat with outsiders to talk as much as possible to say only three points, if it is out of show-off, not to say that their pension is high, or that their family's savings are large. Outsiders will think that you not only have a high income, but also have a lot of money in the family, and outsiders will tell more people to know. When you know that outsiders need money, they are very likely to ask you to borrow money, if you do not borrow, it will inevitably affect the relationship with outsiders; if you borrow, it will be more difficult to wait until you ask for money. But when children are in a hurry to use money, they cannot come up with money, and if they delay their children's urgent matters, they will affect their relationship with their children, after all, their children will mistakenly think that you do not want to borrow excuses.
Second, don't say how outstanding and capable your children are, otherwise they will not only find trouble for themselves, but also cause trouble for their children.
Their own children have the ability to be proud and capable, and they can be complacent, there is no need to be quiet. Others may not feel happy, after all, most parents always think that their children are strong. If you open your mouth and face outsiders, you will say that your children have done excellent work and have a successful career. Outsiders are likely to ask your children to help, either by taking advantage of your children's positions to achieve their goals, or by asking their children to help arrange work or participate in your children's business. When you accept the request of an outsider, the child will be in a dilemma, and may indirectly offend the outsider; when you refuse the request of the outsider, it is possible to directly offend the outsider, in short, it will be laborious and unpleasant, and the heavy will not be human on both sides.
Third, do not say bad things about your son or daughter-in-law, let alone bad things about your daughter or son-in-law, and always be careful in your words and deeds when getting along with outsiders.
Getting along with a son or daughter-in-law is inevitably uncomfortable, and the same is true with a daughter or son-in-law. Don't publicize similar ugly things in the family, it is best to solve them by communication within the family. If you say it to outsiders, outsiders will superficially show sympathy for your suffering, verbally will comfort you, but behind your back you will add oil and vinegar to spread it, in case it reaches the ears of sons or daughters-in-law, daughters or sons-in-law, it will not only make sons or daughters-in-law, daughters or sons-in-law feel embarrassed, and family affection will suffer unprecedented impacts and tests.
Conclusion: What can not be said before retirement, even more can not be said after retirement, more things should not be less, only by controlling their mouths, so that they should not say a word, the second half of their lives can be wise to protect themselves.
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