The adult world has never been so freewheeling.
If you don't like a job, you still have to insist, and you want to marry someone you like, but you may not be so lucky.
In life, the more we grow, the more we will really understand a truth, that is, there are always many unsatisfactory things in life, far more than imagined.
And when we are at the age when we want to get married, or at the age when others think we should get married, when we have not met a person we like more, in order to complete the marriage, we often have to lower the standard.
At this time, we will always meet some people, the other party's conditions are indeed OK, similar to their own, better than us, the other party is also willing to be with us.
Whenever this happens, maybe we don't hate each other, or even have a little bit of good feelings, maybe we really don't like each other at all, don't have any feelings at all, and don't want any development.
Even if we don't like it so much, we can try it again, and if we really don't like it at all, then it's best not to force ourselves and continue to be with each other.
Reluctantly falling in love, it really only hurts.
Fall in love with someone we like, and our mood will always be particularly good, inexplicably.
Every day, every moment, I always miss it, I want to meet each other, and when I am with each other, even if we don't do anything and say nothing, we will feel very happy.
As long as we are with each other, we will always feel like we have bumped into some great luck and encountered a great good thing.
We will like that time very much, and we will always enjoy it.
And when we don't like a person, don't like it at all, don't have any eye contact, and even have some dislike for each other, even if the other party's family situation, the other party's ability and all aspects of the conditions, that is what we want, we actually have no way to convince ourselves.
His external condition is what we want, but we always feel that he is not what we want.
Maybe because he is really not the type we like, maybe because there are some things in the other person that we don't like very much, inexplicably, we will have some rejection, unwilling to be close, unwilling to get along with him.
For such a person, even if we still start a relationship with each other for various reasons, in that relationship, we will not feel much happiness, but will often feel very troubled, very want to escape.
If you can not meet, you will only not want to meet, it is really inevitable, you will only want to end as soon as possible, you can not raise any interest, and you can not do any intimate behavior with each other.
Will be married, the days will be particularly painful.
Many people, even if they obviously don't like it at all, but they still enter into marriage with each other.
Because of the persecution of my parents, I chose to give in, because there was really no better choice, and I couldn't afford to wait.
We always think that as long as we get married, then everything will be fine, and everything will naturally be fine after marriage, but with such a thought, it can only show that we are too naïve and overestimate each other and ourselves.
If two people who enter the marriage do not have any feelings for each other and cannot talk about any likes, then after marriage, it is really difficult for each other to accommodate each other, and they will not be willing to tolerate each other at all.
They will only be particularly strong, will not be willing to make any concessions, and every day will only be filled with smoke.
And even if the other party has a certain good feeling for us, when we don't like each other at all, and always look down on each other, we may feel that after a long time, we can definitely cultivate feelings, and we can have feelings for a long time, but that is just delusional.
It is true that there are some men and women who do not like each other much at the beginning, but gradually develop feelings in the days to come, but most of the time, the two people who can have a long-term relationship, even if they do not like much at the beginning, must not be annoying and have a good feeling for each other.
When we don't like it at all, no matter how long time has passed, we often don't start to like it, but we will only feel more and more bored, look at each other more and more unpleasantly, and chagrin that we have made the wrong decision.
With that emotion, living under the same roof as the other person, we simply can't stand it, we just feel suffocated.
Getting married, that's a very important thing, and it's often related to what kind of life we will live in the second half of our lives.
Therefore, in order to have a better life in the future, we must consider the conditions of the other party, consider the character of the other party, and care more about whether we can accept the other party and whether we have some preferences.
Don't ask how much you like it, how much you have to do it, but you must not dislike it. Be able to accept some intimate contact with each other, and be able to cultivate feelings and live with your heart after marrying each other.
When we can do this, we can marry each other, and the years to come, it will not be too bad.
If we simply can't do it, then we'd better not force it, just leave it alone.
Just stop the relationship between each other in time, let each other not continue, do not go further.
That is responsible for each other, but also responsible for ourselves, otherwise, a wrong beginning, really will not have a good ending, will only let each other fall into misfortune, regret not the beginning.
Text/Tan Meng
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