Many times we and the child have set the principle, but the child just does not abide by it, when we gently and firmly implement, he will lose his temper, throw a roll, and then die not to admit it, is this the case for your child?
Do we still need to insist on this situation? Of course, there is no need to insist, you insist, you win, then the child loses, obviously we agreed on the rules, why can't we insist? With the child in the family, through the family meeting to make rules, and then reach an agreement, but not to make the rules it is reasonable, is to implement, and often many parents make the rules to meet the expectations of parents, without considering the child's current situation.
Many of us have made holiday rules with our children, what time to get up in the morning, what time to read early, what time to start class, if this development continues, this child must become a great person, but in the end it makes the chicken dog restless. Then, once again, the child is proved not to be a good child, once again proves that talking does not count, and once again proves that the child cannot do anything.
Don't set such rules, which are themselves made under our coercion, and the children will not be able to enforce them, these are just to satisfy our fantasies.
Of course, some rules are indeed proposed by the child himself, agreed to by himself, we know that the child himself is an immature subject, if he is a mature subject, then he can put forward reasonable needs. But we look up to our children too much, and he has to do this well, and he has to go through many failures to do it well, so you can't say that the rules made by the child should be done.
Tell you a secret, parents with high emotional intelligence never prove that their children are not good, never prove that their children are procrastinating, never prove that their children do not count when they speak, and only parents with low emotional intelligence deliberately amplify it is your fault. When everything is the child's fault, the value of his life decreases. The value of life is reduced, the mental strength is fragile, sensitive, and we retreat and run when we encounter things, and such results are not what we want.
If you win, your child loses. So. Since the child cannot enforce it, it means that this rule does not conform to the child. Then the rules need to be adjusted. What is wisdom? If we are stuck in this rule, is it called wisdom? That's called a tendon. What is Wisdom Parenting? Wise parents are to see the tricks and then guide them.
Finally, I wish every child a healthy and happy growth.