Regarding finding a partner, many people always like to ask a question, that is, blind date or free love, which one is better.
For this problem, many people seem to have a common cognition, feeling that blind dates are too utilitarian, it is difficult to have many real feelings, and free love, each other will definitely be more in love.
That is to say, instinctively feel that free love is better, blind dates will have less flavor, so that people have no way to like.
In real life, when it comes to blind dates, many people are indeed quite rejected and are not willing to accept it at all.
Unwilling to accept blind dates, even if they are forced to date with whomever they have to, they will always obstruct each other and refuse further contact.
We always want to love freely, but in life, the circle of adults has always been particularly limited, many people get married, in fact, they are also known through blind dates, and those who love freely and marry blind dates are the same as those who are reliable and unreliable.
At the end of the day, whether it's a free love or a blind date, it's actually no different.
They are all doing screening, looking for the right one.
As the name suggests, free love, that is, naturally, very autonomous to choose their future other half.
Quietly observing everyone you meet, feeling that there is no eye rim, dislike, feel not very good, directly away, choose to refuse, do not have to give the other party any chance.
However, until you meet the one who is very touched and feels very good, and then go closer to see if there is a possibility for each other, if the other party does not like themselves, then forget it, if the other party has the same mind, seriously start a relationship.
Talking about yourself, generally this is the case, and blind dates, there are always people who feel that since it is a blind date, then it should not be too picky, as long as you are willing to accept the blind date, it means that you are willing to be with each other or something.
Of course, this idea is not correct, but it is just some people with ulterior motives who want to be opportunistic.
Being intimate with a person never means anything, but it is just a way to know one more person, a way to know people.
Even if it is a blind date, in fact, it is still necessary to observe each other and make a good judgment to see if they are in tune with each other.
Feeling bad, feeling inappropriate, the same do not have to have any development with each other, only if you feel good, it is necessary to continue to communicate like free love, and enter the next stage.
It all needs to be understood slowly and then determined.
If it is free love, needless to say, from acquaintance to acquaintance, it is natural to have a process.
Get to know each other a little bit, see how it feels to get along with each other, then feel good, then determine the relationship, and finally settle the marriage, and each other into marriage, really become a family.
In this process, each other will have a more romantic period of time, will harvest a lot of romantic memories.
And for blind dates, many people always seem to have a concept, since they have come to blind dates, since each other is a blind date, then do not expect something else, just should be a quick decision, direct marriage.
People who have this view, to be honest, really disrespect themselves, disrespect each other, and disrespect marriage.
What about blind dates, it is also to find a good life partner, the same is to choose parents for their children, that is a lifelong thing, the same should be cautious, there should be no mistakes.
From the first acquaintance to the final marriage, it also needs a process, and it also needs to be slow.
Eating together, watching movies together, dating together, discussing a lot of things together, all of them, the same should not be less, that is responsible for themselves, but also responsible for each other, and only in this way, this feeling will be more reliable.
You have to manage well to be happy.
For some time, we may think that if it is free love, then the emotional foundation of each other must be very solid, each other must know each other very well, and after marriage, we must be very happy.
On the contrary, if it is a blind date, then there must be no emotional foundation, and it must only be very hard after being together.
However, a closer look at the people around us will find that even if some people are married in free love, after marriage, they are just a chicken feather, and their lives are very bad, and some people are very close to each other even if they are blind, they are quite close to each other after marriage.
How to know each other, that has never been so important, the key is who the person we choose is, how to get along with each other when we are together, and how to run this relationship.
Do not know how to accommodate, do not know how to understand, do not know how to tolerate, even if it is free love, it is not good at all, and the little love between each other will only be consumed quickly, and they are very painful.
Can treat each other well, can communicate with each other well, each other is willing to live a good life, even if it is a blind date, but it can also live very well, in the future days, the feelings can become deeper and deeper.
Getting married and living a life, it is never the same as love, in marriage, we will always see the bad side of each other, and it will always be easy to have various contradictions with each other.
At this stage, knowing how to get along is far more important than loving or not loving.
Seriously, we don't have to look too highly up on free love, and we don't always have to be too dismissive of blind dates.
Free love is not as good as imagined, and blind dates are not as bad as imagined.
The key is not the way you know each other, but what kind of person the other person is. If the person is right, then everything will be smooth, the person is not right, and the feelings will not be much reliable.
Therefore, on the road of love, all the ways to know people, we do not have to refuse.
What we need to do is to know how to see people with discernment and to be able to see the essence of a person.
Also learn how to love, how to manage a hard-won relationship.
Text/Tan Meng
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