What is the difference between love and marriage?
Some people say that love pursues the consistency of three views, and marriage in addition to the consistency of three views, there is also the stability of three meals a day. Therefore, many people have survived long-distance relationships and survived the opposition of their parents, but they have not survived the trivialities after marriage, and finally lost to reality.
Because love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, marriage will involve houses, cars, property and economy, etc., and will also involve parents, brothers and sisters and relatives of both parties, etc. It can be seen that love can be desperate, but marriage is not OK, because there are too many responsibilities.
Love can not be forced, marriage can not be forced, both men and women, should be cautious about marriage.
01. Couples buy a house before marriage and write the names of two people
Liu Qiang (pseudonym), a 30-year-old veteran, is now very regretful, and he was with his girlfriend Zhang Li (pseudonym) for the so-called love, despite the opposition of his family.
Liu Qiang is a veteran, he and his girlfriend Zhang Li fell in love when he was not discharged, although the two are less and more, but the relationship between the two is very good. Liu Qiang feels that he has found the love of his life, willing to win a heart, the white head is not separated, no matter what his girlfriend wants? Liu Qiang will do everything he can to satisfy his girlfriend, including buying a house.
Liu Qiang and Zhang Li have been in love for more than a year, Liu Qiang took Zhang Li back to his hometown to visit his parents, and his parents were very satisfied with Zhang Li, the future daughter-in-law, and urged them to get married quickly.
In Liu Qiang's view, before getting married, you must buy a house first, Liu Qiang's hometown is in the countryside, there is no house in the city, in order to get married as soon as possible, Liu Qiang looks forward to buying a set of love nests that belong to him and Zhang Li as soon as possible.
Liu Qiang rarely had the opportunity to go out, so the matter of buying a house could only be handed over to Zhang Li, and soon Zhang Li took a fancy to a house with a total price of 1.66 million. Liu Qiang asked his parents and relatives and friends to borrow money, and his girlfriend Zhang Li also took the initiative to give 100,000 yuan to Liu Yuan, and it was not easy to make a down payment. The girlfriend's move Liu Qiang is very touched, not that there is a saying that says well: "Who is good to you, you will know once you fall into trouble", Liu Qiang vowed in his heart that he must be good to Zhang Li for a lifetime.
Therefore, Liu Qiang took the initiative to propose the real estate certificate plus Zhang Li, the house belongs to the common property of the two people, and also witnesses the love belonging to them.
Liu Qiang is very happy, he and his girlfriend finally have their own house, Liu Qiang imagines how warm this home will be in the future, specially get a children's area, let the children play here, just think about it feel extremely happy.
With the house, Liu Qiang proposed to Zhang Li to get married, but Zhang Li refused on the grounds that Liu Qiang had less time, and said that it was not too late to get married after it was more stable.
This wait is more than a year, Liu Qiang's parents have long been anxious, hoping that they can get married early, but when Liu Qiang proposed marriage to Zhang Li again, Zhang Li proposed a divorce to Liu Qiang, the reason is that he can't stand the loneliness of gathering less and leaving more, when Liu Qiang is most needed, Liu Qiang is not around, and he wants to lean on a shoulder. Liu Qiang didn't want to accompany his girlfriend every day, but he must have been a soldier, and he could only do so before, now and in the future, unless he retired from the army.
No matter how Liu Qiang coaxed Zhang Li, Zhang Li always insisted on breaking up, in order to save his girlfriend's heart, Liu Qiang proposed to the army to retire.
02. After the breakup: the house is inseparable, and the mortgage continues to be repaid
In the end, Liu Qiang retired from the army, he accompanied his girlfriend Zhang Li every day, and at first the two had a good relationship, but after a long time, the quarrel began. The two people often quarrel fiercely over trivial matters, and the quarrels between the two increase more and more until the two break up.
Liu Qiang and Zhang Li broke up because of their feelings, in fact, it is a very normal thing for couples to break up, after all, the two did not marry first, the second did not have children, they could not come together, and it was good for each other to break up early, but Liu Qiang and Zhang Li had a house that belonged to both of them.
After the breakup, Liu Qiang transferred the 100,000 yuan to Zhang Li to buy a house that Zhang Li gave him, and after Zhang Li received the transfer, she refused to change the name of the real estate certificate, and Zhang Li also said that the house was the common property of the two of them.
Because of this matter, the Liu family and the Zhang family are inseparable, Zhang Li's family believes that Zhang Li paid for the house, and now the price of the house has risen, why only 100,000 yuan is returned to Zhang Li, the house belongs to the common property of the two people, it takes one person and half to do it, and finally the two sides are unhappy and dispersed.
Now Liu Yuan is very regretful, for his girlfriend, buy a house to write the names of two people, for his girlfriend, he chose to retire, now the two people have broken up, but the house is inseparable, Liu Qiang has no stable job, but also continue to pay back thousands of house payments every month.
Liu Qiang and Zhang Li negotiated fruitlessly and could only sue.
This is the story of 30-year-old Liu Qiang, who once had a beautiful relationship disappear like a bubble, leaving only regret and a bunch of troubles. But fortunately, two people have not really entered the palace of marriage, there is no child that belongs to them, and it is a kind of luck to see a person clearly early and stop the loss in time.
It can be seen that whether it is a man or a woman, it is important to see clearly a person during love or before marriage.
03. See a person's true face clearly before marriage
Lines from "Mr. Love":
"You ruined all my fantasies and beauty about marriage, you made me suffer from the criticism and ridicule of others, you made me lose the most basic trust in people, you made me dare not love anymore, you made me full of negative energy now, let me be full of hatred for the world, can you afford it?" 」
Just like Liu Qiang, all the fantasies and beauty of marriage have been ruined by Zhang Li, if you see a person early, the result may be completely different.
01. How is the relationship between family and friends?
When you are in love, you always like to show the best side to each other, what you see is exactly what the other party wants to show you, and if you want to understand a person, you can start from his family relationships and friends. What kind of person you are, what kind of friends you have around, friends are not lovers, they will not hide their shortcomings, this is the best way to test a person. The second is the parents, the words and deeds of the parents to their children, you probably know what kind of person he is around him, through some small details, it is easy to see.
02. Try a few fights
Two people have a good relationship, there is no way to see what kind of person the other person is, then you may wish to quarrel. Quarrel is the easiest to say the heart, the most "ugly" side to show the other party, at the same time, in the quarrel, those who know how to restrain their temper, must be a good temper, and the final quarrel after the handling attitude, is the best opportunity to test a person.
So before couples get married, it is recommended to quarrel a few times and then consider whether you are suitable for marriage.
03. Arrangements for the future
Two people who really love each other, they are full of fantasies and beauty about the future, so you may wish to ask each other about the future arrangements, if this person has a light in his eyes and says a lot of ideas about your future, then this person must be the person who wants to go to the end with you. If the person avoids talking about the future, or avoids the topic, or says something unrealistic, then you should think, does he have a future with you?
The above three points can help you see a person clearly, and you can try it.
Finally, marriage is to have love for each other, the convergence of the three views, mutual dependence and respect, mutual appreciation, good communication, knowing each other's needs and trying to meet, accepting each other's family, friends and classmates, filial piety to both parents, loving the child wholeheartedly, the same view and method of educating the child, responsible for the family society, the man is diligent and responsible, the woman is virtuous, has common cognitive hobbies and interests, grows and progresses together, and the most important thing is not to lose yourself in marriage.
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