It is said that it is easy to love each other and difficult to keep each other, marriage is the same, as long as two people like each other, they can enter the palace of marriage. But how to operate after marriage is not an easy task. If the business is not good, then it is doomed to break down the relationship, and even end in divorce.
The difference between men and women is that men can quickly enter the next relationship after divorce, and the past with their ex-wives has long been forgotten. Women are different, after divorce, women will not easily enter the next relationship, after all, there are still many concerns in their hearts.
There are many reasons behind this, such as: if they have children, the other party will not accept the child, if they remarry, will they still be the same as the previous marriage, ended in failure, so that now many divorced women choose to live a single life.
That being said, there are still many divorced middle-aged women who will find a new home, and they have already made marriage a part of themselves. Even if you have a failed marriage, you still believe in love. I believe that there is nothing wrong with love, and we must understand a fact: the way out of the second half of life is not only to remarry.
Friend Lan Yu is a divorced middle-aged woman, her ex-husband divorced her because of betrayal of marriage, and the child returned to her ex-husband. Lan Yu was not depressed after the divorce, she told herself in her heart that my next marriage would definitely be happier.
When she was 45 years old, through the introduction, she met a man who was 10 years older than her, the man's family was very rich, and he was also very attentive to Lan Yu. It didn't take long for the two to establish a relationship, and on the day of the wedding, many relatives and friends came, and the wedding was also held with great momentum, allowing Lan Yu to earn enough face.
Men have also divorced before, and have a son who has returned to his ex-wife, in the eyes of outsiders, Lan Yu has lived a rich life since then, but the pain after marriage is only known to himself.
The man has a mother who is paralyzed in bed, has limited mobility, and relies on men to serve him every day, and the babysitter is not at ease. Since Lan Yu married, at the beginning, her mother-in-law was still good to her, because Lan Yu did not have a job, and her daily task was to take care of her mother-in-law. The mother-in-law always praised Lan Yu's filial piety in front of men, which made the man very pleased.
After a year, her mother-in-law's attitude towards her has changed a lot, either because she is not good at cooking, or because she will not take care of herself. In fact, this can not blame Lan Yu, for more than a year, she had to serve her mother-in-law every day, cook for her, help her carry and urine, which made Lan Yu very painful, I thought that my life after marriage was very happy, I didn't expect it to be like this.
Lan Yu, who was originally cheerful and outgoing, became less talkative, and under the pressure of both mental and physical pressure, she chose to divorce. The man didn't give her a penny when she was divorced, and now that I think about it, Lan Yu is pathetic. As the saying goes, there must be something hateful about a poor person, and if she had thought more about marriage, maybe this situation would not have happened today.
Many women who remarry are nothing more than wanting to live a plain life, but things are always unsatisfactory. Some remarried women, not only to have a good relationship with their current children, but also to let their mother-in-law know her filial piety, a little careless, may become the target of the family's attack. Is this the marriage a woman wants? Or do they like this?
Remarriage is a double-edged sword, and while you enjoy the happiness that marriage brings you, you also have to bear the pain it brings you. For remarriage, we cannot exist in fantasy, but ultimately return to reality.
The reality is that the failure rate of remarriage is much higher than that of the first marriage, which is undeniable, if you are not fully prepared, do not enter the ranks of remarriage. While experiencing a failed marriage, you must also understand that nothing will go in the direction you envision.
Therefore, for middle-aged divorced women, remarriage is not the way out in the second half of life, it may also be a dead end. Women must know how to choose life in order to enjoy life.