Doing housework gives monetary rewards, you can give, but how to give, in fact, is also pay attention to the method.
Giving the right can improve the child's emotional intelligence, financial quotient and moral character; giving the wrong one, directly send the child to the money eye.
Many parents have not adopted a reasonable method, and the habit of doing housework has not been formed, but they have developed "as long as they do things, they have to give money." "This result, obviously, is not what we want.
A set of survey data from the UK shows that parents of 1533 children aged 5-18 give pocket money in three ways: earn (51%), reward (31%), and buy things (9%). Today, most parents encourage their children to earn pocket money through labor, but this method has been criticized by many experts.
When we train our children to do housework, we are cultivating their children's "sense of belonging and value".
Always tell your child, "You are a member of the family and the little master of the family, and doing housework is also your responsibility." ”
When children are young, they are very curious about the every move of adults, and they will imitate them in a similar way. At this time, it will not be difficult to raise children to engage in simple and competent housework, unless parents deprive children of curiosity and hands-on ability.
In fact, as children grow older, their curiosity and imitation of housework will also develop natural habits.
In their consciousness, taking on household chores is their responsibility as a family member. Unless parents like to overstep their bounds and do nothing, they will not let their children do anything, which will lead to a weakening of the child's assumption of family responsibilities.
When the child is older, he begins to realize the hardships and difficulties of his parents, will put himself in the shoes of his parents, and reduce the pressure of his parents by sharing housework. At this time, the connotation of children doing housework is to understand and support their parents, and we call this interaction emotion.
When parents induce their children to do housework through money, the educated children are driven by interests, and housework will not drive their sense of responsibility, let alone cultivate them to understand their parents, not to mention the future for their parents to die.
Occasionally, through money, children are tempted to do more challenging things than usual housework.
It may play a catalytic role, and then guide the child to experience that there is a reward for hard work.
Money here plays an encouraging (strategic) role, not for housework purposes.
For those parents who are spoiled by their parents and awakened, at the beginning, using money as an encouragement to do housework also has its feasible side.
However, in the process, it is hoped that parents will not raise their children to do housework only for money, but to guide and control principles in a timely manner, cultivate children's sense of responsibility and the ability to put themselves in the shoes of parents and others.
By paying rewards to regulate children's behavior, the effect is indeed immediate, and it may reap good results in the short term. However, it is impossible to fundamentally cultivate the child's sense of responsibility and autonomy, and all the motivation for children to do things is to get paid.
Once doing housework and earning money are linked, because doing housework is stimulated by external conditions, the child will slowly lose the internal drive and creativity of growth.
As they grow older, the stimulus loses its role when pocket money can no longer meet their needs.
Overall, it is not advisable to let children earn pocket money by doing housework.
Parents should adjust the way of giving pocket money in a timely manner according to the baby's personality characteristics, and give the child consumption education and wealth education at an early age, so that the child can control money, rather than being materially restricted in their world.
As the saying goes, "Good medicine is good for the sick, and good advice is good for the ear." ”
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[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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