In the past, when we were young, our families were generally relatively poor, so children rarely had the opportunity to have pocket money, and children were generally relatively poor on hand.
But now, the economic conditions of the family have generally improved, some children have a lot of pocket money in their hands, and some parents never give their children pocket money out of fear of their children spending money indiscriminately. I think that if it is not a particularly poor economic family, it is still appropriate to give the child a part of the pocket money.
Times are changing, if other children have pocket money, only your children do not, it is not good for the growth of children.
Xiao Zhen is a boy in the sixth grade, usually his mother is very strict with him, buying stationery and snacks are almost all bought by his mother, not to mention clothes and shoes, so he basically has no chance to touch money.
In a few days, it was his best friend's birthday, xiaozhen said to his mother: "Can you give me 50 yuan, I want to buy a birthday gift for my good friend." But my mother said, "You don't have to worry about it, I'll just get it ready for you." ”
Her mother prepared a book of essays for Xiao Zhen's good friend as a gift, and asked him to send it to his good friend that day. Xiao Zhen was very unhappy, because he felt that this birthday gift friend definitely did not like it.
So Xiaozhen secretly took 100 yuan from his father's pocket, and he bought a poster signed by a star that his friends had long hoped for.
Although the friends were very happy, Xiao Zhen's secret was soon known to his parents, who were very angry and criticized Xiao Zhen fiercely, and had to ask him to return the poster he sent out, saying that he could remember it for a long time.
Xiao Zhen hesitated for a long time on the way to his friend's house, he didn't know how to talk to his friend, but when he returned home, he couldn't explain it to his mother. So he ran away from home halfway through. Fortunately, his parents finally got him back home.
If the child grows up gradually, we should give him some pocket money, not to cultivate his habit of loving to spend money, but the times are different, and now the child has some pocket money in his hands, just like when we were young, all of us had to participate in labor, and if the child is too different, it is not good for his interpersonal skills.
In addition, children never spend money, which is also a lack of ability, the child's financial management ability also needs us to cultivate from an early age, if we have never spent money, the child's financial quotient will also lag behind other children, and when they grow up, they may be a person who will not make money.
Parents should give their children some pocket money, how old should we give him pocket money?
I think it can't be given too early, there is no need to give during kindergarten, but it can't be given too late, for example, it is too late to give pocket money after high school, which is not conducive to children's socialization, and may also make children have an inferiority complex. So when the child is 7 or 8 years old, it is more appropriate for us to give him some pocket money.
At this time, the child already has some concept of money, and the child is already a primary school student at this time, and needs to have some of his own toys, and the child has pocket money to buy the type he likes.
And children at this age will have relatively stable good friends, and some of the children's pocket money can also be used for their own interpersonal communication, which is conducive to the children and classmates to have a good relationship.
Moms and dads can give their children pocket money, but they also want to give their children pocket money is not casual. Some parents give their children pocket money particularly generously, and children spend it casually, which makes the child develop the habit of luxury and waste, which has played a counterproductive effect.
We pay attention to these aspects of pocket money for our children, so that it is just right.
First, parents give their children pocket money, and guide their children to use it in a suitable place.
It's easy to give your child money, but the hard thing is for your child to learn to spend money and spend it in a safe and meaningful way. We can guide children to spend money on buying some small items, snacks, toys, stationery can be used, so that children gradually understand that money can buy what we need to serve us.
Of course, in the process of spending money, we should respect the child's wishes, give the child the opportunity to spend money on his own, and let the child get exercise.
In addition, we should guide children to learn to restrain their desire to buy. For example, the child intends to buy 100 yuan of toys, but he only has 50 yuan, we can not come by the child's nature, give him money to buy, teach the child to buy things within their own ability is very important.
Second, parents give their children pocket money, it is best to let the children rely on labor to obtain.
We give our children pocket money, not casually. Parents can let their children earn pocket money by doing housework, or reward children when they have excellent grades, so that children know that money is not so easy to come by, and children will plan and cherish when they spend money.
Third, parents should cultivate their children with pocket money to let him learn to share.
My own money can only be spent by myself, and if a child forms such a concept, he may be more selfish. When we give our children pocket money, we can give our children more pocket money at special times, for example, the father's birthday gives the child pocket money to encourage him to buy a gift for the father. For example, when a disaster area needs donations, encourage children to help those in need.
When I was a child, my mother often said that people who spend money will earn money, and now I think it makes sense.