How old will you consider giving your child pocket money? Different parents may have different opinions.
Some are a little earlier, some are a little later, and some are not even ready to give their children pocket money all the time. Different practices may lead to different results for children.
Pocket money is only a few pieces, a dozen yuan for the average family, which may not be much for parents, but it is very important for children who have grown up to a certain age stage. Because the child's control over pocket money may mean that the child has grown up and matured.
Children may prefer pocket money to New Year's red envelopes and old money. Because pocket money, although not much, is free for children to dispose of and use. However, if it is to press the old money, many times it will be taken away by the parents in the name of helping to manage.
Pocket money is different, the baby can be used at his own disposal, buy a little of his favorite small things or small snacks, to satisfy his appetite, parents generally will not interfere.
If parents don't give their children pocket money all the time, you may find out one day. The child's hands may become a little dishonest, a little petty theft.
Bao Mom found out that her 8-year-old son was petty theft
Bao Ma Xiaoyue once picked up her 8-year-old son from school when she found a strange phenomenon. Every time the son was the last to leave the school, at first he thought that the son was slow, and each time he fell behind, and he did not care too much. But in the days that followed, Xiao Yue discovered some unusual behaviors of her son, that is, sometimes hiding in the corner of the school gate and secretly eating.
At first, Xiaoyue's mother thought that it was a snack given to her son by a classmate, and asked her son, which was also what she said to herself. But then Xiaoyue also found traces of her son secretly eating snacks at home, and these snacks were not bought for her son to eat.
Xiaoyue's mother still thought that her father bought it for her son, but when she talked to her father about it, her father said that he had not given his son pocket money, nor had he bought these snacks for his son.
At this time, Xiaoyue's mother realized the seriousness of the problem and realized that her son may have the possibility of stealing his parents' money. After a period of careful observation by Xiaoyue's mother, she found that her son would sometimes sneak some of his own change, and then go to buy some snacks that were not allowed to be eaten on weekdays.
Xiaoyue's mother found out that her son had stolen money, and she was very angry at the time, and she wanted to teach her son a good lesson directly, but in the end, Xiaoyue's mother did not do it, because Xiaoyue's mother knew that scolding the child was only a way to cure the symptoms and not the root cause. Instead, he calmed down and thought about solutions to deal with it.
Xiao Yue's mother knew that she would now directly describe her son as a thief and criticize and teach him a lesson. Although it may temporarily change the child's petty theft behavior, it may not be long-lasting, and it may also make the child become inferior because of this matter, after all, no one wants to be named a thief, which may hurt the child's young mind.
Children secretly take their parents' money, possibly subconsciously, and do not realize that such behavior is incorrect. Therefore, Xiaoyue's mother is ready to solve this problem in another way.
Xiaoyue's mother did not directly point out the child's theft behavior, but took the child to watch picture books and cartoons about the story of thieves, and let the child realize that stealing was an incorrect behavior.
Then Xiaoyue's mother also realized that now that the child has grown up, she needs to have a certain amount of pocket money. Xiaoyue's mother formulated a pocket money policy for her son. You can give your child some pocket money on a regular basis, and some rewards and punishments are also given. For example, good performance will give a little more pocket money, and poor performance will deduct a certain amount of pocket money.
Not only that, Xiaoyue's mother also slowly taught her children how to save money, plan and manage their own change, and do more meaningful things.
In this way, under the guidance of Xiaoyue's mother, the son did not secretly take money, and there was no petty theft. Although the son will use pocket money to buy some of his favorite snacks, more often the son will also save the pocket money to buy his own school supplies, and on specific holidays, the son will also use the pocket money to buy gifts for his mother and father, which makes his mother Xiaoyue happy.
When my baby is old, should I consider giving my child pocket money?
Giving children pocket money is something that every parent cannot avoid. When the child grows to a certain stage, it is necessary to consider giving the child pocket money, otherwise the child's hand may become dishonest, resulting in some wrong behavior of the child, and eventually may lead the child astray, or even embark on a road of no return.
Generally speaking, when the child grows to 10, the child has a certain purchasing ability, but also desires to be able to dispose of a certain amount of money, parents should consider giving the child a certain amount of pocket money, to cultivate the child's correct view of money. The child has a certain purchasing ability, but also desires to be able to dispose of a certain amount of money, parents should consider giving the child a certain amount of pocket money, to cultivate the child's correct view of money.
Some parents may think that what the child wants, the parents will buy for the child, so they will think that the child does not need pocket money, and after having pocket money, they will worry that the child will spend money indiscriminately.
But in fact, what the child needs, let the parents buy, and the child has a certain amount of money to buy it, which is still very different. Because the child grows to a certain stage, he also has the desire to dominate money. If this desire cannot be satisfied, the child may have some wrong behavior, such as petty theft.
Therefore, when the child is 10, but the specific amount will still be judged according to the actual situation of the family and the age of the child. The amount of pocket money is best disposable by the child, and cannot be given too much, so as to avoid the child's unbridled consumption and the formation of a wrong concept of consumption. However, the specific amount will still be judged according to the actual situation of the family and the age of the child. The amount of pocket money is best disposable by the child, and cannot be given too much, so as to avoid the child's unbridled consumption and the formation of a wrong concept of consumption.
On the child's growth path, parents should not only give their children a certain amount of pocket money at the appropriate time, but also need to cultivate their children's correct concept of consumption, money and values.