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As the saying goes, "Forgive and forgive." ”
No matter who you meet, you are a person who will tell you something and bring something.
In fact, we really don't have to be generous to all people, and we should turn our faces when we should turn our faces.
You have to figure out, why do you hate a person? You can't be bottomlessly inclusive; by categorizing people, you know how to do it.
Simply because the three views are different, and the other party is not familiar, and the heart is disgusted, you have to endure, maybe you have misunderstood others. But more annoying people, because of conflicts of interest, or the other party hinders your growth, you have been putting up with it, and associating with him will hurt yourself.
Tears of grievance can impress yourself, but you may not be able to impress others. It is better to put away tears, face the problem squarely, and be your true self.
When you encounter the following kinds of nasty people, it is good for both sides to learn to turn the other cheek.
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First, when you meet someone who raises a bar with you, turning your face is "showing your attitude."
Haruki Murakami said, "Not all fish live in the same sea." ”
People can't feel empathy with each other. But most people will choose to tolerate others, think from the other person's point of view, and restrain their own edge.
If everyone has a personality, it will become "sword fighting", and in any place, you will feel the smoke of war. How else can you live such a day?
In Zhihuli, someone asked: How to deal with people who like to raise bars?
The person who asked the question described that a girl next to him, at any time, was ready to refute his words. For example, he went to the supermarket to buy something, and the girl immediately said that the supermarket could not be assured, and there were many fakes.
He said that when buying something, look at the manufacturer and you will know. Girls retort that manufacturers can also fake.
The most infuriating thing is that if the girl loses in momentum, she will play a role, which makes people feel very uncomfortable.
Netizen "little fat" trick: "The other party has no logic at all, really don't waste time." Because a person who lifts the bar is not happy, a stomach full of gas, and it is not worth it. ”
As the saying goes: "You take your Yangguan Road, and I cross my canoe bridge." ”
Since two people are not on the same channel and are not willing to accommodate a little, it is better to turn the other cheek. In the future, I will not interact, but I will be happy and idle.
Turn your face, really keep your distance, otherwise the other party will always stick to you and add all kinds of "uncomfortableness" to you.
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Second, when encountering people who are mercenary, turning the other cheek is to "protect yourself."
When you encounter people who borrow money and don't repay it, you still take the initiative to please, then your money may not come back. After all, it is human nature to be soft and afraid of hardness, and the weaker you are, the more arrogant the other party is.
You have to give those old ladies a little color. Although it offended him, it maintained social order. If there are old ladies everywhere, who would dare to borrow money?
Because of borrowing money, there are really many people in court. Because of this, our money can stand it.
Similarly, when you meet people who calculate their interests again and again, you can turn your face to him and you can get rid of the interest relationship.
Let's say two people who work together to do business make a lot of money. But one person is greedy and tries to swallow it alone; the other person has to stand up and protect himself.
There is no feast under the heavens. It is not advisable to maintain a relationship vigorously and you will continue to be damaged. Breaking up shows that you have the ability to do it alone.
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Third, when encountering people who do not understand gratitude, turning the other cheek is "sincere education."
For a while, a boy named Xiang Haiqing received everyone's attention.
Born in a poor family, he walked into the university campus step by step with the help of actor Sun Li. However, he did not know how to be grateful, and he also developed the habit of spending money in a big way.
He believes that a rich actor who only gives five hundred yuan a month for living expenses is also too stingy.
Of course, all "unasonance" will cause everyone to be angry. Then it will also allow the parties to get the punishment they deserve. If not, then there is really a "white-eyed wolf".
The human heart is warm, but at some point, the human heart will become "fierce".
Don't let "crying children have something to eat" has become a universal rule. Also know that there must be something hateful about the poor.
In life, if children do not appreciate their parents, they still have to eat old age. Should parents always be tolerant? If the parents turn their faces and stop helping from the funds, it is right. Forcing their children to make money, life has a way to live.
There are many ways to educate a person, love, give money, communicate, tolerate... It's a soft way, and turning the face is a tough way.
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Fourth, when encountering people who do many evil deeds, turning their faces is to "carry forward positive energy."
In the twenty-fifth volume of "The Surprise of the Second Moment Shooting", a thief is written.
Take advantage of the night, climb over the wall to other people's homes, and then hide in the boudoir, looking for valuable things. It just so happened that this family had a wedding drink, and the boudoir became a cave room.
The thief hid under the bed and didn't get out until the next morning. At the door, he was seen by the owner and twisted to the door.
The thief said, "I am the bride's nursing doctor." Then he said the bride's nickname, what diseases he had, and so on. The people in the county court, believing it to be true, decided to let the thief go. The master refused to do so, and found a "fake bride" to testify, and the thief did not know the deception, mistakenly thinking that the bride was coming, revealing the horse's feet.
Many people, things have been stolen, but they are not willing to tangle with thieves, so thieves are becoming more and more arrogant. This needs to change.
Whether it is a thief, a bully, etc., we cannot condone it. They are a cancer in society that needs to be uprooted. If you turn your face to him, you may be able to make him repent and convert himself to righteousness.
When all people hate the "evil people", the good people form a circle of good people, and the society becomes more sunny.
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There's a question: "What kind of relationship is most worth cherishing?" ”
The best answer is: "Feelings that are not afraid to turn the other cheek." ”
When a person still has a conscience, he is acceptable to turn his face. After all, "good medicine is good for the disease", from the opposite side of the matter to understand, the heart is also warm.
When a certain relationship needs to be carefully maintained all the time, and a little carelessness will lead to a fight, then under the appearance of kindness, there is a lot of pain hidden, which no one is willing to accept.
As long as you insist on justice and turn your face to those who hate it, it means that you have lived a thorough life.
You really don't have to invite all the people into your life and disguise yourself.
It is worth explaining that the face-turning is not "countering violence with violence", but through "severing diplomatic relations, criticizing, rejecting, and justifying".
Turning the face is not a heartless thing, it is the most ruthless and most emotional.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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