Survey data shows that about 20% to 25% of 2-year-olds lie, about 50% of children lie when they are 3 years old, about 90% of children lie by the age of 4, and 100% of children over 7 years old lie.
Sugar Mom saw a parent complain on the Internet, lamenting that today's children have more pocket money than they hide in their own "private money", both envious and somewhat worried.
Worried that children do not know that it is not easy to make money, spend money lavishly. I am also worried that the child's "heart is too big" and he does not know that he will lose money.
However, losing money is an unpredictable thing, as a parent, in addition to teaching children to keep their pocket money, they must also learn to correctly deal with the situation of children losing money, because parents' practices are likely to affect their children's lives.
The two boys "lose money" together, and the mother's reaction is very different
Little Candy made many new friends after going to elementary school, and every weekend, he often dragged me to their "secret base" to play, so I also know the personalities of those children better.
Children in primary school are in the naughty stage, and it is inevitable that they will occasionally be criticized by parents. But something happened some time ago that made Sugar Mom feel a little sad for that child.
Xiao Candy's two male classmates, Tutu and Junjun, are good friends who have played together since childhood to adulthood. That day they asked their mother for pocket money and prepared to go shopping for snacks together. But in the process of playing, the two boys both lost their pocket money.
When they went to sue their mothers separately, the reactions of the two mothers were completely different. After reading it, Sugar Mother finally understood why Junjun usually only promised.
Hearing the news that the child lost money, Junjun's mother scolded on the street: "Do you have a bad look?" How not to lose yourself, can't find money today and don't go home"! Then turned to leave, leaving Junjun standing alone in the community square crying.
On the other hand, Tutu's mother's first reaction is to crouch down and comfort the child not to worry. Guess that everyone did not go far, maybe the money was lost nearby, and took Tutu to find money together. In the end, he not only found the money he lost, but also recovered Junjun's share.
The reaction of parents to their children losing money has already had an impact
Joon Joon was not happy when he found the money, and sobbed while walking in the direction of home. Just because he lost 10 yuan, Junjun lost his happiness, and his mother's love, and it was very painful to see his lonely back.
It is often said that the way parents educate affects their children's future. After seeing Junjun, Sugar Mother deeply felt that this sentence was correct. Don't wait for more than a decade later, the difference between the two children is now obvious.
In contrast, Tutu has a sunny and cheerful personality and a strong ability to empathize; Junjun is afraid of everything he does, and since that loss of money, he no longer dares to ask his mother for pocket money and has become a liar.
Two children grow up together, but experience a completely different education, which is the current situation of many children. If parents do not handle it properly, the child will make mistakes in the future and will conceal the mistakes.
The fact that the child loses pocket money can be big or small, not to mention the amount of money the child loses. If you want to educate your children through this matter, yelling and threatening are obviously ineffective, and parents should be aware of the following things.
If the child loses money, these coping methods are worth learning from parents
A child's loss of money does not prove that he is not out of the ordinary, and adults also lose their wallets and mobile phones. If you think about it in a different way, you can find the key points to guide your child.
1) The child is also scared and sad
The child may not know the exact meaning of the money he lost, but when the money is missing, he will also be anxious and afraid. If the child dares to tell the truth about the loss of money, the parent must first feel happy, at least in that moment he is an honest child.
The two mothers mentioned at the beginning of the article, the latter is worth learning. Tutu's mother does not treat her child with a sense of superiority, nor does she directly accuse her. Losing money has become a fact, and it is crucial to calm the child's emotions first.
When both sides have calmed down, they can let the child try to recall the details, and the parents can also think of a solution and take the child to work hard to find it. It is lucky to find it, and it is time to learn a lesson if it is not found.
2) In another way, let the child understand how much money is lost
If parents directly say 100 yuan to their children, the child may not have a concept. But if a parent converts 100 yuan into how many toys and snacks he likes to buy, the child will have a number in his mind.
As a small punishment, the child should buy less toys and snacks for a period of time in the future, or earn back the lost money by doing housework and other means.
3) Parents don't keep turning over old accounts after losing money
Tutu's mother did it right, throwing away something like a glass that fell to the ground. No matter how we yell at the child and blame him, the money cannot come back immediately, and the first time the child loses money, it is a good time to guide him.
Parents should tell their children after losing money that it is not easy to lose it next time how to carry money with them, rather than saying that he has made a mistake this time. Otherwise, children will still be easy to lose things in the future, and they will be estranged from their parents.
What do parents do when children make mistakes to create a different life for children
When parents hope that their children will get better and better in the future, but sometimes because of impatience or misconceptions, they unconsciously cause harm to their children.
In fact, children make mistakes is not a bad thing, only miss to know how to do the next time is correct, the so-called eat a long wisdom, will correct mistakes, long memory is good, parents should give their children a chance.
This time Junjun only lost ten yuan, which made his mother so angry, you can imagine what kind of attitude his mother would have if he usually made other mistakes.
Junjun and Tutu already have obvious personality differences during their primary school years, which means that they will have different lives in the future.
Candy Mother's Heart:
Parents are the enlighteners of the child, but also the child's life mentor, people are not sages, who can be blameless, the more important task of parents is to guide the child to correct the mistakes and look forward.
【Today's topic】Have your children lost money? How do you do it?