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In love, how to make men love themselves more is a subject that many women have been studying.
Some women think that the biggest advantage of women is that they are tender like water, they blindly obey in love, do small bows, in the hope that men can spend more thought on them.
But in fact, true equal love is not only one-sided obedience, sometimes some of the men's demands, the more you reject him, the more difficult it is for you to extricate yourself.
One: Refuse a man's valuable gift
In the relationship, it is a very normal thing for two people to send gifts to each other, and some men like to send some expensive gifts to express their hearts. Women are usually delighted when they receive this type of gift, believing that the more money a man spends on him, the heavier the weight he has in his heart.
But sometimes gifts can not be received casually, especially some valuable gifts, "The Broken Queen" said: the gifts given to you by fate are secretly marked with prices.
Now that you have accepted this gift, you may pay more in the future
If the feelings of two people have not yet reached that step, rushing to accept some expensive gifts may make some other thoughts in the man's mind. He will think that you are more materialistic, that you are interested in his financial strength and are with her.
No man wants his woman to be the one who values his money rather than him, and if a man has such an idea, your feelings will not go far.
If the feelings of two people have not yet reached that step, it is best not to accept some expensive gifts.
If economic conditions permit, you can also return him an equivalent gift to show your position, if the return of a gift of the same value is relatively difficult for you, then you can simply refuse.
But the occasion and method of rejection must be euphemistic, do not refuse in the presence of others, and do not directly refuse, which can be expressed in some roundabout ways.
Two: Reject men's unprincipled accommodation
Two people together will definitely have some disagreements, and how to deal with this situation can see a woman's emotional intelligence.
Some women love to make small characters, no matter who is right and who is wrong, she must make men bow their heads first, thinking that in this way they can ensure their position in love. Some women do not give in, thinking that if they take a step back now, there may be a bigger concession later.
In fact, two people together is not a war, but a mutual accommodation. If only one side is making unprincipled concessions, then he will definitely feel tired after a long time.
Everything can not be argued for a word, there is a contradiction, it should be based on reason, not rely on emotion. If a woman is wrong, it is not a shameful thing to admit her mistake generously.
If a man blindly accommodates you and gives in without a bottom line, then you have to think about whether your image in his mind is a unreasonable person.
When the feelings are deep, he may still tolerate you, but when the passion of love recedes, can he still accommodate you in the same way?
A man's unprincipled accommodation may be a manifestation of loving you, but it may also be just that he is afraid of trouble and wants to use this fastest way to solve the problem perfunctory, so don't indulge men to form this habit of not using his brain to go along.
No matter what happens, two people sit down and talk calmly, as long as they have each other in their hearts, things can definitely be resolved.
Three: Refuse men financial help
It's hard not to involve money when two people are in a relationship, but if men are used to using money to enhance your relationship, then that's not a good sign.
When you encounter a problem, you can ask him for help, but it is better to teach someone to fish than to teach him to fish, and simply and rudely use money to help you solve the problem, then the next time you encounter the same problem, you are still helpless. If he has the ability, he can ask him to teach you how to solve the problem, rather than just helping you solve the problem this time.
People always like to take shortcuts, when he first helped you with money to settle the problem, you tasted the sweetness, then the next time you encounter the same problem, you subconsciously hope that he will use money to help you solve, once or twice is fine, the number of times men will also feel bored.
As the saying goes, eating people's mouths is short, taking people's hands is short, when you accept his financial help, you will subconsciously lower yourself psychologically, and always feel that you owe him something.
In this way, your position in love will be difficult to equalize, and in the long run you will become more and more humble.
Love is not just blindly obedient, in love also dare to express their true thoughts, have their own principles, so that you can go further and longer in an equal position.