Some people say: take what you have, exchange what you want, the world has always been like this, very cruel, but fair.
People get along like this, and marriage is no exception.
If you only want the other party to pay and enjoy yourself blindly, then I am afraid that you can only dream, and in the end you will not get anything, and you can only die alone.
unbelief? Let's take a look at the blind date story of Brother Lai and Sister Liu.
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Liu Dajie, who lives in Tonghua, is 63 years old, divorced, earning 5100, and has 3 suites under her name. The only condition for her to choose a mate is to be good to herself. Red Niang introduced her to the 73-year-old Lai big brother, the two met eye contact is no problem, but chatting, the big brother suddenly said to the red bride: I hope that Sister Liu can't look at him.
Sister Liu and her ex-husband have a son, because her ex-husband does not ask about the family's affairs, and when the child is very young, Sister Liu divorced her ex-husband for more than 30 years.
The eldest sister said that after the divorce, she took her son alone, opened a restaurant to earn money to support the family, the eldest sister got up early and made a lot of money greedily, plus the demolition was divided into 3 houses, it should be said that the eldest sister is not bad money.
After the son grew up, because he loved to play and liked to sing, the eldest sister opened a karaoke hall for her son, which also allowed her son to have a self-supporting rice bowl.
Unexpectedly, after YQ started, the business was not good, and the eldest sister's restaurant and son's business were yellow. The eldest sister closed the hotel to go to other hotels to work, in the back kitchen of the kitchen to adjust the cold dishes, a month can earn more than 4000 yuan, the eldest sister herself bought social security, 1100 yuan per month, so that the elder sister has more than 5100 yuan a month income.
The eldest sister said that these 30 years have been busy, did not think about their own things, now old, want to make up for the emotional deficiencies, want to find a wife to accompany each other.
Her mate selection conditions are very simple, as long as the other party is good to her, cold and hot.
Understanding the situation of the eldest sister, the red lady thought of the same living in Tonghua Lai's big brother.
Lai big brother 73 years old, before retirement was the director, cultured and personable, the big brother pension of 5,000 yuan, housing 120 square meters, the conditions are also good.
The eldest brother said that after his wife died of illness 1 year ago, he felt very lonely and helpless, his two daughters were married, usually very busy, and he could not accompany him at all times, he did not want to be alone at home, because he would think of his deceased wife, and he was very sad, so he signed up to find a wife.
The eldest brother likes to think about health care and read a lot of books, because his wife is sick and goes, and he himself has been weak since he was young, so his standard for finding his wife is: the other party must be healthy, have a positive attitude towards life, and will do housework and cook.
Hong Niang thought that Sister Liu and Brother Lai were very suitable, and the economic conditions were also comparable, so she arranged a blind date between the two.
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After the two met, they had eye contact with each other, and the eldest brother was quite satisfied with the 1 meter 7 tall Liu sister, and felt that the eldest sister looked generous and decent, had a gentle and kind personality, and was very good in all aspects. The eldest sister also feels that the eldest brother is stable and has a sense of intimacy.
After sitting down to chat, it is the eldest brother who asks the big sister, every time the big sister answers a question, the big brother picks up and says that he can't do it, the big sister has too many family affairs, for example: the big brother asks the big sister about the son's son, the big sister truthfully replies that after the son's business is yellow, he owes more than 1 million debts, and the big brother is panicked when he hears it, and tells the red lady that he can't do it.
The red lady persuaded him, saying that the eldest sister herself had the ability to help her son return and would not bother him, and the eldest brother calmed down.
Then the eldest brother hated that the eldest sister could not take care of him when she worked, and the red lady reassured him that if the two became, the eldest sister could stop working and live together wholeheartedly.
But the eldest brother said that the eldest sister did not work part-time, and there was no insurance, which he could not afford. Red Niang explained that the eldest sister has double insurance, so that the eldest brother can rest assured that the eldest sister is not bad economically.
However, the eldest brother is still picky, and said to the red lady, the best big sister can't look at him, the red lady feels strange, ask the big brother why? The eldest brother said that he did not look good at the eldest sister and was ill.
The eldest brother said that he and his wife are not in good health, his wife has died, he can no longer find a person who is not in good health, he can't afford to this heart, he is looking for his wife for the next 10 years, 20 years of planning, not good health.
The red lady asked the eldest sister about her physical health, and the eldest sister said that she was not sick and very healthy. But the eldest brother said that people are sick, said that he would look at his face, whether he was sick or not, he judged very accurately.
He also said that the eldest sister was afraid that the disease would not be easy to clean up in the future, and he could not find a burden on his body...
The eldest sister was originally very modest, thinking that her own conditions were average, and she was not qualified to pick others, as long as the other party was good to her.
Can you know that the eldest brother insisted that she was sick, and would develop very seriously in the future, the eldest sister felt unhappy, unwilling to talk anymore, the eldest sister said that the eldest brother was too disrespectful to people, has hurt her, living in this environment, she can't stand it.
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After watching the blind date story of Sister Liu and Brother Lai, Xiaobian felt that Sister Liu was very wise, thinking thoroughly in finding a wife, and the purpose of her finding a wife was to fill her regrets in feelings, as long as the other party was good to herself, the two could live a good life.
She is financially independent, and she can cook and manage housework, what she wants is affection, since Brother Lai wants to find someone to take care of him, as long as the big brother is good to her, the big sister is willing.
But look at Big Brother Lai, what you want is for the other party to take care of the family and take care of yourself, but you also have to take out your own things to exchange?
There is no free lunch in the world, you want people to be good to you, and pick other people's faults, and even out of nothing, people have diseases, and they will develop into serious diseases in the future, not to mention that others have problems with their character, at least they do not know how to respect others.
Some people are always critical of others for this is not good, that is not good, but they do not think that they are perfect? If you don't give, why ask others to be nice to you?
Love is mutual, since you are not willing to give each other love, it is impossible to get love from each other, the age is too rare, this point is not understood, indicating that this big brother is too egotistical.
Remarriage is a choice, blind dates to find a wife, willing to get along with each other, not satisfied with the friendly worship, do not have to be so picky, find reasons, straightforward and clear on the line, this is the minimum respect of being a person.
This operation of the eldest brother makes the gentle and good-tempered big sister sit still, "can't live in this atmosphere", which is the end of the big sister's blind date, simple and clear.
In fact, the big brother is so picky, the reason behind it is afraid that he will suffer losses, he calculates so much, can not treat each other with an equal attitude, only thinking that the other party pays for himself, it will be difficult to find the right person, and finally can only be lonely and old.
Do you think Big Brother Lai is worthy of trust?