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Xiao Ya is in the second year of junior high school, and every semester is the first grade.
This should have been the greatest pride of the parents, but what worried the couple was that the daughter was usually sullen and worried. Her parents wanted to talk to her about her heart, and she was very resistant, always feeling that her parents did not understand her, loved to be reasonable, and used to shut herself in the room all day, brushing questions all night and immersing herself in her own world.
In fact, Xiao Ya has always been in this state after going to junior high school, before the parents felt that Xiao Ya was introverted, quiet and polite, so it was normal to behave like this, as long as the child could learn with peace of mind.
However, now Xiao Ya has changed her previous gentleness, too sensitive and emotional, as long as she is asked about her academic performance, or her performance in school, she will suddenly lose her temper, crying and accusing her parents of only caring about her studies, never caring about her, not loving her...
When Xiaoya's emotions collapsed, no matter how her parents explained, she could not listen to it, and her thinking was extreme. Parents are very worried about this, but also very distressed, do not know how to help Xiaoya, so take Xiaoya to adolescent psychological counseling for evaluation and improvement.
Adolescence is a period of rapid physical growth, but also a period of gradual psychological maturity.
This period is full of changes and conflicts, also known as the "period of rebellion" or "rebellion", which is a period of high incidence of various psychological disorders.
For most teenagers, although they do not reach the severity of psychological disorders, there are often all kinds of confusion and troubles, they can't get out, parents can't go in, and it is difficult to help their children. However, if the child's inner troubles cannot be solved in time, it will often damage the development of mental health.
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So, in general, under what circumstances does a child need psychological counseling?
1. Mood is persistently low, unhappy, bored; feeling that it is not interesting to live, inferiority; losing interest in things that were originally interested, lazy to move, and not caring about anything. Some will have insomnia, general weakness, drowsiness and other states.
2. Fear of fear, such as exams, speaking, going to school, participating in social activities, etc., and avoidance behavior.
3. Reticence, non-communication with others, withdrawal from behavior, or strange behavior, self-talk, self-laughter.
4. Inability to concentrate in class, difficulty completing homework, significant decline or consistently low academic performance.
5. Significant weight loss and avoidance of others when eating.
6. Difficulty falling asleep, waking up early or waking up at night.
7. There is often interpersonal conflict, irritability, and impulsive behavior.
8. After encountering emergencies, it is difficult to adapt, which affects daily learning and life.
9. There are symptoms of physical discomfort that are difficult to explain by medical examination.
10. Sexual confusion or abnormal sexual behavior.
These ten points seem simple and easy to make judgments, but in fact, in life, these states of adolescent children are often ignored by parents, and children's learning problems, behavioral problems, or irritability when they are manic give parents headaches.
In the face of these problems in their children, many parents initially choose to "counter violence with violence", resulting in a worse state of the child, a more closed heart, and more prominent behavioral problems.
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16-year-old Amon is reluctant to go to school, often shut himself in the house to brush the web page or chase dramas, his parents are worried about his Internet addiction, confiscated his mobile phone, and reprimanded him to study hard.
But the inadvertent sentence "What is the use of you going on like this" made Amon react very fiercely, and he actually took a hammer, pulled his hair, rolled on the spot, shouted and screamed, and was in pain.
The parents took Amon to see a psychologist and was diagnosed with moderate depression, and two years ago, the child already had a tendency to be depressed, and posted in the QQ space:
"I don't want to sleep, I don't want to eat, I don't want to talk, I just want to stay quiet, my weight has plummeted, and I feel that nothing is interesting"
"How painful it is for people to live but not find a little meaning"
"Am I too stupid to do little things well, and I don't have the confidence to do anything"
"Beginning to feel at a loss for the future"
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Knowing the situation of Amun, the mother blamed herself, blaming herself for failing to find the child's changes in time, failing to help the child adjust in time, and often scolding the child for being lazy, unmotivated, and not careful, giving the child more pressure, resulting in the child's depression becoming more and more serious, and losing motivation for learning and life.
Xiao Ya and Amon's situation is very common in psychological counseling. More and more children are coming to seek professional help because of a variety of learning, interpersonal, emotional and adaptation issues.
▎Mainly manifested in the following aspects:
In terms of learning: boredom, truancy, school phobia, test anxiety, lack of concentration.
Interpersonal relationships: poor parent-child relationship, communication disorders, social phobia, low self-esteem, autism, social misfit, social maladaptation, nervousness, interpersonal communication disorders.
Mood disorders: depression in adolescence, mania, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia in adolescence.
Behavioral problems: addiction to games, Internet addiction, running away from home, hyperactivity, stealing money, self-harm and self-abuse, hitting and injuring people, enuresis.
Various neuroses and mood disorders: depressive disorders, anxiety disorders, bipolar disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, phobias, eating disorders (anorexia, bulimia), sleep disorders.
Sexual distress during puberty.
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The emergence of adolescent problems is not only related to their rapid psychological and physical development of adolescence, many internal conflicts, emotional instability, but also related to individual personality characteristics, childhood experiences, and family environment.
Adolescent psychological counselors remind parents that if children have some behavioral changes during adolescence, they must observe the child's emotional state in time to observe whether they are extremely depressed or very irritable.
You can also see if the changes in children's emotions have affected their learning and life. If there is, it means that this is no longer a simple rebellion, and it is necessary to seek the help of a professional psychological counselor.
Professional psychological counselors will use relevant psychological counseling techniques, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, interpersonal relationship therapy, family therapy, sand table therapy, hypnotherapy, etc., to help adolescents improve their state, improve their personality, and obtain a healthier way of thinking and lifestyle according to the characteristics of adolescent psychological problems.