The school attaches great importance to this performance of the child, and you must know these key points!

Someone asked:

Children can teach anything, as if only polite teaching will not do what to do?

In the past, children did not understand things, slowly taught, but taught for many years, the truth is understood, but still refuse to implement.

Slowly, we are going to contact people outside the family, how can we guide children to pay attention to etiquette and learn polite language?

Why is that?

When Little D interviewed kindergartens that year, almost every school had a score on the "Manner" item, and some of them were refined into many sub-projects.

Etiquette is important, but why learn it?

Many parents and friends actually feel that their children need to understand politeness, and they are also worried that their children will be said to be "uncultured" by others.

I don't like the "had to do" thing, especially when it comes to parenting.

Many people think that learning etiquette is very important because polite children are "educated", but the positive significance of etiquette itself, I think, is this: etiquette is two-way, when a child learns to treat people and things in a way that makes the other party comfortable, then he is bound to get the respect and love he deserves.

These "likes, welcomes" feedback given by the other party are positive social experiences. "After all, people are social people", a child who can accumulate many positive social experiences from childhood to adulthood will naturally have more confidence in learning, work, life and other aspects in the future. However, etiquette is quite personal, from the code of conduct to the "family style" of each home, which is different.

Today, I will talk in detail about a few of the points to pay attention to, and give you a reference.

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1. Before the age of 3: Personal etiquette

Around the age of 1, the child's self-meaning begins to awaken, which means that he begins to realize that he is an "independent person", so naturally he must also observe personal etiquette, and rights and obligations should be parallel.

Guide your child to use some polite words, please, thank you, sorry, these are common, I believe everyone knows. The use of these words must not be achieved overnight. First of all, we need to use more between parents and repeatedly strengthen it in our daily interactions with our children to form habits.

But often remind children, "you have to say thank you", after a long time, children will also have "reverse psychology", no one likes to be ordered. Share a favorite quote from the Little D Cognitive Teacher: "What's the magic word?" (What is that magic word?) ）。

Do not command the child, but play the child's subjective initiative, let the child realize the magic of these words, as soon as this magical word is said, adults will be the first time to take the initiative to help or recognize the child's performance. This is both a positive reinforcement and a manifestation of gameplay.

2. 3 to 6 years old: Social etiquette

From the age of 3, children begin to have the need to interact with children of the same age, and the etiquette will slowly shift to social interaction etiquette. Let the child learn to listen respectfully, not move his hands and feet, look into each other's eyes, and speak again when it is his turn, rather than interrupting the other person's speech at will. At the same time, teach children to interrupt others in a reasonable way: "Sorry, I want to talk to you."

Establish a sense of property rights, understanding that "everyone's" toys need to take turns to play, and "other people's" toys need to ask for consent to play. Establish a sense of physical boundaries, do not hit people or kick people, can seek help, can express their emotions, but at any time the hands and feet should be placed on both sides of their own body. Learn to express kindness, such as hugging and kissing.

Scenario reproduction

For example, after guiding my child to use the right social etiquette, I will focus on emphasizing the positive social experience that Little D has gained. Thank you for looking into Mom's eyes and listening to me finish talking, Mom feels respected.

Well, now it's Dorothy's turn to say it, and Mom is listening; it's not easy to wait, but you and Anna are waiting, so everyone plays with the toy, it's really fun;

Rather than just telling the child, "You're really polite, you're a good kid," this emphasis is actually helping the child realize that the role of etiquette is twofold. The more this emphasis is placed, the more the child will be able to mobilize the internal drive, because they are real entities.

3. Teach etiquette, what should I do if the child does not listen?

First of all, "teaching by example" is really very important, and parents must first do it in order to infiltrate their children all the time.

Second, it must be implemented to the application. Even if the child can say the phrases "sorry, thank you", the real meaning and use of these phrases may not be clear.

In addition to grasping everyday scenes for practical exercises, it is a particularly good idea to co-play with plush toys or dolls. Taking the initiative to create some possible scenarios and perform them with the child is more conducive to the internalization of the child.

Finally, give the child time to internalize. Learning etiquette, like learning any other skill, children need time to internalize.

Don't go and fight with your children. Once you are your child, it is easy to fall into a power struggle such as I am a mother, I want you to listen to what I say and do. At this time, you may wish to slow down, and give the child a range of emotional buffers. As long as the connection is continuous, there are many opportunities for education, don't just compete for a moment.