We were in Pudong, the first to implement the sealing control, the procurement time is not much, and I am too optimistic, not fully prepared, and then often have "I knew that I bought something at that time... " thoughts.
So much so that at the beginning my purchases were panicked and blind, and now that we have been staying at home for more than a month, "impermanence" has become the new "normal". I found that the so-called "hoarding" is nothing more than to sort out the needs of creating a "harmonious family", and then found that there are many things that are worth having even if they do not need to be hoarded, which can make them have more time and live more comfortably.
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Buying Principles
I believe that everyone has seen a lot of hoarding strategies during this time, and I have also seen many friends in neighboring provinces and cities stockpiling canned food and military food.
It is true that the durable, ready-to-eat can be properly stockpiled, but my personal experience, more critically, is to examine the way of life of myself and my whole family. Some things are temporarily gone, it is okay not to eat one or two meals, it is okay to endure for a few days, but if these become "normalization", it will also become "the last straw that crushes the camel".
Our whole family loves to eat, one or two lunch meat with white rice is no problem, if every day this will definitely be "crazy";
I, who can cook but don't love cooking, spend a lot of time in the kitchen every day, I will also be "crazy"; sir, when the pressure is high, I need a little happy fat house water plus junk food at night, which is his self-decompression method;
Little D, always hoping to have a few small surprises of life, makes her feel that there is hope for the day. I know that these are not worth mentioning in the case of "hunger", but if the quarantine is not just 4 days, not just a week, then the best way to resist anxiety is to try to "normalize" life.
So, I will focus on the needs of our family of three, especially to solve the "I am easy to fire" thing, procurement, I hope to give you a little idea reference.
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My hoard list
My hoard list mainly addresses the following three goals:
1. Minimize the time for cooking and doing housework;
2, let yourself be more energetic;
3. Reduce anxiety levels.
First, let's talk about the first category, smart small household appliances.
This time I feel fortunate that there is a direct drink heating water purifier, eliminating the trouble of buying bottled water or boiling water; air fryers and ovens, play a little imagination, everything can be fried /can be baked; dishwasher, less than a lot of family conflicts.
What I regret not buying is the coffee machine and the multifunctional blender that can grind meat and make noodles.
The coffee machine is very personal, I am really difficult to leave the coffee, this time is to hoard the ear, coffee powder and bottled coffee drinks are almost consumed.
The blender wants to make noodles, get some baking, or you can make some egg dumplings, wrap some wontons, so that the diet is diversified, and the happiness will also rise.
Even with these daily equipment, it can save us a lot of cooking time.
This is a recent addition to the shopping cart, ready to unseal after the start
Let's talk about the second category, I confess, I get fat and ugly, I will be unhappy. When the body is not free, people must rely on a little spirit to live.
During this time at home, I wear sportswear every day, because with the psychological hint of clothes, I will be more willing to move.
I've walked more than 10,000 steps for several days, causing many friends to ask, thinking I've unsealed. In fact, it is just to stand up and pace during the conference call, and consciously move around more every day.
I usually need dopamine, and on days when I can't go out, I need dopamine even more.
Of course, this is very individualized, and you can also think about your own source of dopamine and prepare in advance.
Lately, I have spent my days wearing these clothes
The third category is to regulate the mood, when you are bored and anxious, which are your good helpers (except for online shopping, which is impossible), that also has to be hoarded.
I am a highly sensitive person, I am prone to anxiety and discomfort every day, and over the years I have helped me focus on the present moment through smell and meditation.
So there are a lot of scented helpers at home, and this time it also helped a lot.
Favorite flavors of aromatherapy, candles and moisturizers are all good choices
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Little Daddy D's hoarding list
The list of hoarded goods for Mr. mainly addresses three major goals:
1. Decompress;
2, reduce my bad heart;
3. Increase parent-child time.
First of all, the first category, women have pressure is explicit, complain about buying and buying; men have pressure is internal, lying flat playing games and squatting toilet.
Don't overestimate the ability of men to carry things, little D dad usually needs some happy fat house water and junk food from time to time, and watching some dramas at night to relieve stress, this epidemic is even more needed.
We didn't hoard this in advance, but when we had already passed 7 days later, I knew that I needed this, so I bartered with my neighbors. Later, it turned out that my judgment was extremely accurate.
This point is also to remind everyone, it is said that the relationship between husband and wife is higher than the parent-child relationship, so observe the pressure source and solution method of the teammates, and take the initiative to provide him with a little.
I shared above, how I love myself, I might as well take the time to love my teammates in the way he needs to.
We all prefer Coca-Cola, though, and now drinking this one is not just a drink, but joy and hope
The second category, think about what you can't stand to be in the same room with your teammates for a long time, and then prepare in advance.
Reveal a privacy, little D dad loves to throw clothes and socks, this is what I usually can't stand, my later solution, is to buy two more clothes baskets.
According to his activity map in advance, the clothing basket was placed. Then once a week, he urged him to merge the laundry basket himself, and then put it in the washing machine to wash it off.
This time at home, I foresaw that it would most likely become a fuse, so I put a few more storage bags.
More than thirty days have passed, and the personal test is effective, after all, clothes are no longer everywhere.
I know that some things can seem ridiculous to write about, but the essence of marriage is to adapt to the details of each other's lives. If you feel "unaccustomed", it is not to ask the other party to change, but to think about how you can make yourself comfortable.
I have three such dirty clothes baskets at home
The third category, regret not buying Switch, haha.
But fortunately, my family has a lot of toys with babies, rubber sand, Lego building classes, guns/monsters/dinosaur models, car/train tracks, various chess games, and smart apps.
Don't say that there are a lot of picture books at home, other toys, the essence of men with babies is "the simpler the better", anyone who needs them to spend time to learn, they instinctively will reject, and finally it is a pair of hands to say, I will not ah, or you come.
So choose a little "straight male" toys, there is no learning cost, a man will play, which can greatly win us his time with the baby.
After writing these, there must be friends who will say that he will only play with the baby. Yes, I can play with my baby, the child is happy, we can rest, which is also a good way to solve your own needs.
Whether it is usually or isolated at home, avoid "both ... And ..." mentality, grasp the main problem, your own mentality will be better.
I was depressed myself over the weekend and secretly went to unwrap a pack of little D's Lego
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Small D hoard list
The hoarding list for Little D mainly addresses three major goals:
1. Promote efficient learning at home;
2. Improve her ability to entertain herself;
3. Increase parent-child relationship.
In the first category, I was glad that she had a printer, plenty of A4 paper and ink at home, and I was glad that she had a learning table and chairs, a learning machine.
The epidemic is normalized, and the online classes are normalized, and I actually don't like that all the homework of Little D has become "electronic", but this is also a fact that we have to face.
So there are some assignments that I will print out and encourage her to still handwrite and take pictures to upload. Including some e-books, I will also print them out and let her read them.
And a good study desk and chair also reduces the fragments of my thoughts that I have been staring at the sitting posture. These daily routines should be there, and now they are worthwhile long-term investments.
The second category, the ability to be alone, is also the focus of children's education that I feel need to be emphasized in this epidemic If the epidemic is normalized, these are the few things that our children must learn.
This needs to be done to suit, prepare a little toy that the child likes, but it needs to be "new".
Little D recently loves to draw and handbook, when I first started the epidemic, I solemnly gave her a box of new crayons, and played a game with her, that is, sitting at the window, observing the outside world, and choosing the three most impressive paintings every day.
At first I was observing and painting together, but slowly I quit, and now every day when she is bored, she will say, no one pays attention to me, okay, I will go to paint
Every child is different in this regard, and every stage is different. When we quarantined in New York the year before, she was still a rubber sand for her amusement.
In the third category, I am glad that I have prepared a lot of stickers for the handbook in advance, which has become her daily luck recently, and it is also the link between our parents and children. Give her a little new sticker every few days, and she'll be happy. This is also a reminder to everyone, you can also prepare some "gadgets" every day, bring them when picking up your children after class; send one home from a business trip, so that children can definitely perceive our "love".
The recent days have passed and I don't remember what day of the week, but I can only remember whether tomorrow is to test antigens or nucleic acids, and tomorrow to buy vegetables or eggs.
And every now and then, I remind myself that I can't just focus on "eating enough", but also pay attention to the "energy field" of the whole family and the mental health of each member.
We watched "A Beautiful Mind" together at home over the weekend, and combined with our recent experiences, we became more and more emotional.
Uncontrollable environment, at least we parents can build a relatively "controllable" small environment for children, but also for ourselves.
Maybe I missed spring, but I'm still looking forward to summer.