Recently, it has been very difficult, not to say that we can't lose and complain, but if the environment can't change in the short term, we always have to find ways to choose to face the mentality. The artifact of the recent "self-help" is this decompression healing god work that I treasure, strongly Amway to everyone, a live-action variety show that has been continuously produced and broadcast in Japan for 31 years - "Hatsumi", which can be watched at station B.
The program started broadcasting in 1991, it was really broadcast for 31 years and became popular for 31 years, the idea is particularly simple, that is, it has successively filmed more than 3,000 children, truly recording the process of their first independent outing and completing the errands assigned by their parents.
Speaking of which, the popular "Where Daddy Goes" and other parent-child variety shows, that really have to call "The First Dispatch" an old predecessor. This set of films, each episode is ten minutes, there is no unnecessary interactive design, nor does it tell any big truth, it is just a child with a variety of conditions, but it has the magic of making people "laugh and cry". Resource B station has, from the perspective of duration and content, are very recommended parent-child appreciation, the only problem is that the film dialogue is in Japanese, Chinese can only rely on subtitles.
The little baby needs parents to help translate and explain the film, but the world is a cute baby, the child looks at the child, sometimes it can directly transcend the language barrier, amazing. Get up!
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On the way forward, there is a Japanese proverb that requires a person to walk through, called "sending a son on a journey", which means that if you love a child, you must let him go to independence. Many details in "The First Dispatch" also made me deeply feel the "equal respect" and "calm restraint" in family education.
When a child withdraws because of fear, every parent crouches down, listens carefully, and gently and firmly tells the child the reason why he cannot go along.
Even if he is unwilling in his heart, he still lets go of the child's hand and pushes him forward.
For example, Huan Ai with a bow on the picture is only in his early 3 years old, and as soon as he sees it, he let me substitute for the way Little D was when he was a child. She loves beauty, loves to be spoiled, and is a little timid and shy, and like all girls, she is a little princess loved by her parents. On Mother's Day, Huan Ai received her first mission in life: to buy the ingredients, flowers and cakes needed for the day alone as a holiday surprise for her mother.
Huan Ai, who was originally full of enthusiasm, immediately began to cry after hearing that he was going out alone, "Go alone, you can't do it."
Dad asked Huan Ai, "Don't you want to send your mother flowers?" Don't you want to be a sister? In the end, he always wanted to be his sister's love, and he plucked up enough courage to accept the adventure. In order to cheer up his daughter," the father stuffed a large handful of "courage candy" into his pocket.
Turning back three times in one step, Huan Aiqiang held back tears and sobbed and embarked on the road away from home. Just after the corner, she couldn't see her father's figure, and Huan Ai cried out, but she quickly calmed down, and her footsteps stumbled, but she didn't stop a step.
Until confusedly completed the first task, walked out of the store, Huan Ai collapsed, looking at it as he walked, and shouted "Mom" helplessly.
Seeing this, I really feel cute and heartbroken. Just when I thought the little guy was going to give up, Huan Ai suddenly stopped crying. She took the courage candy dad had given her from her pocket, stuffed it in her mouth, and reinvigorated herself. In the story of Huan Ai, this courage candy is the part that moved me the most, and I instantly remembered when Little D had separation anxiety when he first went to kindergarten.
Every day I would take her to the kindergarten door, hug her like a ritual, and give her a magical kiss. What courage really is, this is a question that we adults, even philosophers, cannot answer exactly, so when we want to tell children not to be afraid, to be brave, to turn courage into something that can be touched, tasted, and felt in a small hand, it is very, very important.
Love, courage, faith, are not illusory, they can all be transformed into entities, just like the bright, spring sunshine outside the window that I and Little D and I saw together at this moment.
Just like that, he cheered himself up all the way and completed all the tasks. For a 3-year-old, going out alone is really a challenge. In Huan Ai, I saw that even if I was full of fear of the road ahead, I could still wipe away my tears and go on, and this kind of effort to face difficulties gave me a lot of strength.
After returning, seeing his father crouching in the same place and waiting, the tears of love finally couldn't be contained, and he cried out completely...
And several times I wanted to get up and hug my daughter's father, but I never took a step forward, waiting for Huan Ai to finish this section of the road alone. Looking at my father's back, my heart also twisted into a mess, from the moment I saw my daughter's small figure, I had to bear not to run up, it was really difficult, so difficult! The road of life is very long, the child is going to go to the end alone after all, parents always have to learn to let go, the child can really learn to be independent.
But this moment of letting go, it is really difficult! Dad blushed and said, "Great, Love," "It's a sister." And then when I saw this, I cried again
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After Dad left, I became a man at the age of 4, and Akira was from a single-parent family, and Dad died. He lives with his mother and brother, and is already a little man who can take care of his brother independently. The task he received was also very moving- his father's death day had arrived, and he had to take his 2-year-old brother alone to buy his father's favorite flowers, udon noodles and coffee more than ten kilometers away.
The older brother who has just learned to recognize the way, the younger brother who can't speak yet, went to such a far place alone for the first time... I can't help but wonder, can these two little guys really be able to do it on their own? The mother, who was looking at the mountainside in the distance, gave an affirmative answer: "He can do it as long as he wants to, and his mother knows."
While completing the task, he also had to take care of his brother, and all the burden fell on Yuya. In the car, the nervous brother, with his small face held tightly, probed his head and stared at the station, afraid of getting off the wrong station.
When he arrived at the station, like a little parent, he patted his face to wake up his brother and told him to walk on the safe "Cave Road". Xiang Ya was also very obedient, following his brother all the way, but because he could not keep up with his brother's pace, the distance between the two people was a little larger, and he did not say "wait", and shouted out the first "brother." In surprise, Sakura turned around and took her brother's hand.
I think in my brother's heart, my brother is a reliable man like my father!
When I arrived at the flower shop, I carefully selected the color of my father's flowers, and the task of flowers was completed here. She also asked the clerk to buy a bouquet of flowers for her mother, "to tie the pink bow that dad likes." And repeatedly told, "to be a little cute about the bag", "a little cute about the bag"
She scribbled on the card one by one, and wrote down her gratitude to her father and mother in his own way.
The return trip has less than an hour to go, and there are still udon noodles and coffee to buy, leaving little time for Yuya. But the younger brother kept walking very slowly, so the brother decided to rush to the supermarket himself.
He told his brother, "Walk along the hole, and when you're done, walk along the bumps and you'll be at the supermarket." "Watching Yuya leave her 2-year-old brother alone on the street, I couldn't help but break out in a cold sweat. But what was very surprising was that the younger brother not only did not cry, but also followed the instructions very seriously to the supermarket! The 2-year-old brother has also become stronger in the back of his brother who is trying to chase him.
After buying something, as soon as she left the supermarket, She looked anxiously left and right, looking for her brother all the way. After hearing his brother's voice, he ran excitedly to his brother, and like a little father, constantly gave encouragement and cheer to his brother, and finally the brothers caught up with the car in the last 5 minutes before the departure.
On the way back, the brother who had completed the task, the tense nerves finally relaxed, and fell asleep with his brother.
After returning home, my mother saw the little surprise prepared by my brother and asked him why he wanted to buy flowers for himself. The brother said, "Because I want to make my mother happy." ”
Seeing this, I was crying a lot again. We always say that maternal love is the greatest love in the world. But I don't know that the child's love for his parents is also so pure and deep. We always worry that children who grow up in single-parent families will lack love, but love is never counted by counting heads. The grief of losing his father will not crush the family, because this little boy has been guarding his mother, becoming her hope, becoming her pillar.
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Faith is strength, and watch is love
I'm a mom and a parenting blogger, learning and practicing every day, thinking about how we can educate a child. I always say, "Think of yourself as a child, see, think, and feel from their point of view"; and whenever I watch "The First Dispatch", I can really be substituted into the world of these children again and again - I seem to have become the child who goes out for the first time.
Watching them step out of the door, the little child in my heart couldn't help but get scared and nervous, and at this time, what kind of encouragement could bring courage? The mother, looking at the child from a distance, replied confidently: "He can do it as long as he wants."
"The father of Huan Ai, no matter how painful he is, he will push the child forward with tears, "I can't turn back, if I look back, I will be lonely." "Oh, I believed it!" The people I love the most in this world, believe in me, so I will believe in myself; the people who love me the most in this world will wait for me at home, so I can happily pounce on the outside world...
Whenever I feel "I can't do it", whenever I look at my daughter and worry about "will she not be able to do it", I will open this variety show "Chu Shu", which is like my "courage candy". The people who produce this courage candy write on its wrapping paper the following line: "Faith is strength, and watch is love."