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My name is Li Ming, and I am an ordinary housewife. My husband's name is Zhang Qiang, and he is a middle manager in a small company. We have two children, a son named Zhang Lei and a daughter named Zhang Mei. The son is married, and the daughter-in-law's name is Xiaohong. My daughter is still in college and now lives on campus.
Although our family is not wealthy, we are still getting by. My husband and I have been working hard to give our children a better life, even though there are always small conflicts in life.
The cause of this incident was a family gathering after the son's marriage. As a family gathered for dinner, and amid laughter, my son brought up a topic that made me a little uncomfortable.
"Mom and Dad, I discussed it with Xiaohong, and we're ready to buy a house." Son Zhang Lei said excitedly.
My husband and I exchanged glances and both knew it was a big deal. Buying a house is not a small amount, especially in a family like ours.
"So are you ready for a down payment?" Husband Zhang Qiang asked.
"Well," the son looked at Xiaohong with some hesitation, and then said, "We're going to borrow some money from you as a down payment." "
Hearing this, my husband and I felt a little uncomfortable. Although we are not rich, we have been saving some savings for the sake of our children, hoping to give them a better future. However, we also did not expect that they would have such a request after they got married.
"Borrow money?" Somewhat surprised, I asked, "Haven't you ever thought about saving some money on your own?" "
"Mom, we saved, but it's not enough. And we're both working now, so it's okay to repay the loan. The son tried to explain.
"But you're just married, and there's a lot to think about," I said worriedly, "and it's a lot of pressure to borrow money to buy a house." "
"We also know, but house prices have been rising, and if you don't buy now, it may be more difficult in the future." Little Red interjected.
"Yes, but you have to think about it and don't be too impulsive." Husband Zhang Qiang persuaded.
After chatting for a while, although we still had some doubts, we finally agreed to their request. After all, the happiness of our children is our greatest wish.
However, at this moment, her daughter Zhang Mei interjected.
"Then Mom and Dad, when I graduate, can you also help me buy a house?" The daughter asked expectantly.
My husband and I looked at each other, feeling a little helpless. My daughter is still in college, and it may be a few years before she graduates. Can we say yes to her again? This makes me a little difficult.
My daughter's proposal made me feel a little embarrassed, after all, our savings are not unlimited. But I'm embarrassed to refuse my daughter's request, after all, she is also our biological daughter, how can I treat my son and daughter?
"Daughter, this ......" I said with some embarrassment.
"Mom, didn't you agree to buy a house for your brother? I want it too. The daughter said as a matter of course.
"But you're still studying, let's talk about it when you graduate." I'm trying to find a tactful reason.
"But if you wait until then, the house price may be even higher." The daughter said reluctantly.
My husband and I looked at each other and felt a little embarrassed. It is already a big expense for our son to get married and buy a house, and now my daughter has made such a request, can we really afford it?
"Daughter, we do have some difficulties here, don't think about this for now, let's talk about it when you graduate." Husband Zhang Qiang tried to find a slick answer.
"But ......" My daughter wanted to say something more, but I interrupted her.
"Okay, okay, you better concentrate on your studies, and then discuss this with us when you graduate." I tried to stop the topic and stopped my daughter from continuing to ask.
Although my daughter was a little dissatisfied, she could only accept our decision temporarily. I know it might be unfair for our daughter to do this, but there's really nothing we can do about it. After all, a family's savings are limited, and we have to think carefully about every expense.
After this, the atmosphere in the house was a little awkward, and everyone fell silent. My son and daughter-in-law sensed our embarrassment and stopped talking about it. My daughter, on the other hand, was a little sullen and seemed unhappy with our partiality.
This family gathering was supposed to celebrate the good news of his son's marriage and buying a house, but it became a little embarrassing because of it. I am also a little disappointed in my heart, after all, as parents, our greatest wish is to be able to give our children a happy life, but the reality always makes us powerless.
Back home, my husband and I were immersed in an indescribable sense of loss. We sat silently on the couch, all thinking about the same question: what should we do?
"Qiang, do you think we're being too our daughter?" I turned to look at my husband and tried to seek his opinion.
"I don't know what to do," the husband shook his head and said with a wry smile, "We are indeed in some difficulties, but our daughter is our flesh and blood, how can we do this to her?" "
We were silent for a while, our hearts full of helplessness and guilt. As parents, we always want the best for our children, but reality always leaves us at a loss. Perhaps, we should really think about how we can best meet the wishes of our children without putting too much burden on ourselves.
After this family reunion, my husband and I both fell into a kind of thinking. We began to re-examine our lifestyles and philosophies to find a better solution that would allow us to meet our children's desires without putting too much pressure on ourselves. Perhaps, it will not be an easy thing to do, but we will try hard. After all, the happiness of the family is the most important thing.
After that family reunion, my husband and I started thinking seriously about how to solve our children's problems without burdening ourselves too much. We decided to find a time to talk to the children and see if we could find a better solution.
After a few days, my husband and I made an appointment and decided to talk to the children. We had an appointment on a weekend evening and the family got together for dinner.
"Mom and Dad, do you have anything to do with us?" My son Zhang Lei looked at my husband and I and asked with some curiosity.
"Yes, we have something we want to discuss with you." I said, and my husband nodded.
"What's the matter?" Daughter-in-law Xiaohong also joined in.
"It's about buying a house." I said, "We thought about it and felt that we were having some difficulties and might not be able to support all of your down payment. But we are willing to help you partially, and you will take care of the rest. "
Hearing this, both the son and daughter-in-law were a little disappointed. They thought we were going to give them all the support, but now they can only give a part of it.
"So what do we do?" Daughter-in-law Xiaohong asked anxiously.
"We thought about it for a while and thought maybe we could solve it this way." Husband Zhang Qiang said, "We can give you a part of the down payment, and you can take out a loan to buy a house first, and then we will give you a certain amount of loan support, and you will slowly repay us later." "
Hearing this proposal, both the son and daughter-in-law were a little surprised. They didn't expect us to have such an offer, but it sounds like a good solution as well.
"This ...... Sounds like it's okay too. Son Zhang Lei said tentatively.
"Yes, we can take out a loan to buy a house first, and then slowly pay it back to you." Daughter-in-law Xiaohong also agreed.
My husband and I exchanged glances, and we both felt a little relieved. While it may add to our burden, it's also a joy to be able to help children achieve their dreams.
"That's it," I said, "we'll try to help you, but I hope you understand our difficulties and don't put too much pressure on us." "
"Thank you Mom and Dad, we will definitely work hard." Son Zhang Lei and daughter-in-law Xiaohong thanked again and again.
After this conversation, our family's relationship became more harmonious. My son and daughter-in-law also understood our hardships better and began to deal with their own problems more independently. My husband and I are also very happy, and it is a blessing to be able to help our children realize their dreams.
After communicating with my son and daughter-in-law, the atmosphere of our family has become more harmonious. However, our problems did not end there, as the daughter's request remained unresolved.
At a family gathering, the daughter brought up the topic again.
"Mom and Dad, I want to talk to you about buying a house again." Daughter Zhang Mei said, with a hint of expectation in her eyes.
My husband and I exchanged glances, and we both knew in our hearts that this topic was not that simple.
"Daughter, we told you before, we do have some difficulties, and we may not be able to fully support your down payment for the time being." I tried to explain.
"I know, Mom and Dad, I'm not saying you have to support me all." "But I thought, what if you could help me make a down payment first, and then I'll pay you back later?" "
When I heard my daughter's proposal, my husband and I were a little embarrassed. We have agreed to our son's request before, and now we have to face our daughter's request, are we really capable?
"Daughter, we do have some difficulties, and we may not be able to help you make a down payment for the time being." The husband tried to find a tactful reason.
"But I don't need you to pay for it all for me, just help me a part first." The daughter insisted.
My husband and I looked at each other, and we both knew in our hearts that this topic would not be easy to solve. Our daughter is our flesh and blood, how can we ignore her? But we do have some difficulties and are unable to help her fulfill her wish for the time being.
"Daughter, let's think about this matter again, okay?" I tried to find a slick answer.
The daughter seemed a little disappointed, but nodded her head in understanding.
After this family reunion, my husband and I started thinking about how to solve our daughter's problems again. We know that our daughter's wishes cannot be easily pushed away, but we do have some difficulties and cannot meet her requests for the time being. We need to think about it and find a solution that will meet our daughter's wishes without putting too much pressure on ourselves.
After some thought, my husband and I decided to talk to our daughter again to see if we could find a better solution.
"Daughter, we thought about it for a while and thought it might be solved like this." I tried to open.
"What's the solution?" Daughter Zhang Mei asked curiously.
"We can give you a part of the down payment first, and then you can take out a loan to buy a house by yourself, and we will give you a certain amount of loan support, and you will slowly pay us back later." Husband Zhang Qiang said.
"That's ......" The daughter seemed to be a little hesitant.
"In this way, you can fulfill your wishes first, and at the same time, it won't put too much pressure on us." I tried to explain.
"But I'm still studying, I don't have a stable income, and I don't know if I can get a loan." The daughter said with some concern.
"We can act as your guarantor and help you get the loan. And when you graduate and have a stable job, you can slowly return it to us. I tried to soothe my daughter's concerns.
My daughter was silent for a moment, as if considering our proposal.
"Mom and Dad, I understand, thank you for your understanding and support. I will work hard to realize my dream as soon as possible. My daughter finally nodded and accepted our offer.
My husband and I were relieved to know that we had finally found a solution that would fulfill our daughter's wishes without putting too much pressure on ourselves. Although the conversation went through many twists and turns, it finally ended successfully.
In the following days, my daughter began to prepare for the loan to buy a house, as we proposed. My husband and I also tried our best to help her solve various problems so that she could achieve her dreams.
After some hard work, my daughter finally succeeded in getting a loan and bought the house she wanted. My husband and I were very relieved and happy when she excitedly told us the good news.
From this incident, we deeply understand the responsibility and responsibility of parents. Although our journey is not always easy, we can always find a solution to the problem if we have good intentions, equality and understanding. The happiness of a family lies in the fact that each member can work hard for a common goal, support each other, and get through every difficult time in life together.
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