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There are no rules and no squares, there are rules and regulations everywhere, and people-to-people interactions also need to have an invisible system to constrain.
Two people can't get along hard, it will make things worse. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is harmonious, and most of the family can be very harmonious. On the other hand, if the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very rigid, most of the family will have contradictions.
You are not your daughter-in-law's mother, and your mother-in-law is not your mother-in-law. Some things should not be taken too seriously, there is nothing wrong with taking a step back from the sea and the sky, everyone can solve the problem by taking a step back, why not do it.
Some mothers-in-law always think that their sons are perfect people, and no matter who is their daughter-in-law, they are very dissatisfied. Disturbing the lives of two couples, many marriages are divorced because the mother-in-law mixes too much in the middle. Netizen Liu Xin and her boyfriend have been very smooth all the way from love to marriage, which knows that the mother-in-law is not a good stubble, which makes her very distressed.
What exactly happened? Let's take a look at it today.
01 First acquaintance with a rich woman
Liu Xin and her boyfriend met at the dinner table, when they just came back from work and their friends said they were going to go out to dinner. When she went, her friend did not say that it was a party, and there were many people she did not know in it. Liu Xinxin did not like this lively scene very much, so she stayed alone in the corner and ate silently.
Liu Xin's appearance of eating silently alone was noticed by Zhao Yang, and he took the initiative to talk to Liu Xinxin. Chatting and chatting, I found that the two people's alma maters were together, and the two people saw each other as they were. They began to talk, but most of them were Zhao Yang speaking first. Zhao Yang became particularly interested in Liu Xin because of this conversation. Zhao Yang felt that the two people had the same interests and hobbies, and just now that they were single, he felt that he could try it.
Zhao Yangyang is now starting his own business, opening a clothing design company on his own, and now the company is running well. There are also two branches in Shanghai and Chongqing. Their company is a niche design brand that many people don't know very well. The brand is also just getting started, and together with a few like-minded people to form such a company.
Liu Xin studied economic management, and later her parents sent her to study abroad, obtained a master's degree in the UK, and now works as an HR in a company. Achieving such a position at a young age is a situation that many people envy. There is also no shortage of friends of the opposite sex around to follow, it may be that the fate has not arrived. Liu Xin has not found the right person, and she always feels almost something.
She had been single for several years and felt very good after talking to Zhao Yang for several days, which made her feel that her fate had arrived. The two people chatted very closely, although the direction of the two people's work was not very close, but the two people met very talkatively. Liu Xin is also very interested in wearing, and also likes to try some bold things, which attracts Zhao Yang's attention.
Back and forth, both people are very satisfied with each other. The feelings of an adult are determined very quickly, and once it is determined that the person is him, he seizes the opportunity. This is Liu Xin's inner thought, and she thinks and does this. Friends did not expect that a person who was so thoughtful at work in his usual work was so fierce in his feelings. Within a few days, Liu Xin confessed to Zhao Yang.
Zhao Yang also accepted this confession, and the rhythm of the two people was on the same line. It was also very pleasant for two people to be together.
02 Meet at home
After being together, Liu Xin found that the two people were very compatible in all aspects, one was active and one was quiet, and the two people were also very consistent in spirit. There is not a saying that if you get married, you must find a spiritual fit and a complementary life. Liu Xin feels that she has met such a person now, which can give her enough security and happiness.
The two people have long passed that vigorous time, and now they just want to live a quiet life with each other for a while. Both were planning to get married. The news of getting married reached Liu Xin's parents, and her parents were the first to rush out and disagree.
In the eyes of his parents, Zhao Yang is a tailor, and he is not a local. His parents had a very big grudge against Zhao Yang. Liu Xinxin had a fight with her parents as a result. "I've worked hard to provide you with a study, and in the end I'll marry a poor boy!" Her parents said that they did not agree to this marriage, and Liu Xin had no way. Just look for friends and girlfriends to be lobbyists, one is from childhood to adulthood, especially pleasing to parents, Liu Xin looked for her to be a lobbyist.
After three months of grinding like this, Liu Xin also moved out to live, and the parents finally relaxed their attitude when they saw their daughter so resolutely. This is really too laborious, and the parents promised this marriage and put forward a condition - Zhao Yang had to change jobs.
His parents knew that Zhao Yang did not study this major in school, but studied new media, and later turned to clothing design. Because Zhao Yang has been learning to draw since elementary school, the foundation of painting is very good, and he is particularly interested in clothing design before he has transferred to the current industry.
Zhao Yang agreed to the request of his father-in-law and mother-in-law in order to marry Liu Xin, quit the work of fashion design, and the major decision he could still do. This decision changed to the mother-in-law's side. The mother-in-law felt that Liu Xin's son had no job and had to find a job again.
Before getting married, both parents had to meet, and Liu Xin saw a lot of restaurants and finally chose a restaurant for Zhao Yang's hometown cuisine. Who knows that the in-laws are actually two hours late, and their faces are not very good after they come. Both parties sat together discussing the details of getting married and having a wedding. As soon as the married mother-in-law came, she began to do the next Ma Wei.
"Our children have worked hard since childhood, and they are also very obedient and sensible, and they don't know which tendon is wrong, and for the first time they defied our decision to marry your daughter."
Liu Xin's parents were not happy when they heard this, as if their daughter had climbed their son. Liu Xin is not very happy to hear it, how to say that he is also a graduate of a domestic 985 college, and also went to the world's top university to read a master's degree, feeling that in the eyes of her in-laws she is worthless, how can not deserve their son.
After eating a meal, everyone's heart is not very happy. The mother-in-law wanted them to return to their hometown to settle down and buy a house, but this condition was not very realistic, and Zhao Yang did not agree with it. In the end, Liu Xin's parents relaxed and gave them the house that was divided into units in the early years, and that house was still a big house.
The mother-in-law made various requests to Liu Xin's family, but fortunately, her parents were relatively tough and did not let the mother-in-law succeed. Who knows that the mother-in-law's small action is not over, and even stretched out to the wedding scene.
"When you marry into my family, you have to listen to me": At the wedding, the mother-in-law made rules, and the daughter-in-law's reaction was panicked.
In the face of her mother-in-law's dismounting, Liu Xin was not afraid of danger, and without hurrying to take the microphone from the emcee's mobile phone, she said: "Auntie, it is not yet a courtesy, I am not your daughter-in-law." After saying that, Liu Xin turned her head and left, leaving her mother-in-law alone on the stage in a panic. There was a commotion below, not knowing what to do. Zhao Yang chased after him in the back, and Liu Xin did not give him a chance, directly slapping him.
"Roll me! Take care of your mother first! ”
04 Do not interact with each other
What happened next? Zhao Yang came to her house every day to ask her to forgive him, and after a few months, Liu Xinxin did not let go. No matter how angry she was for such a long time, her anger had almost subsided, and Zhao Yang also understood the point where she was angry. It is that the mother-in-law deceives people too much, and does not regard her as a daughter-in-law, but as a nanny and free labor in the family.
Every day Zhao Yang would bring her a bouquet of roses, and Liu Xin would check them all into the vase. It didn't take long for the two to reconcile. Because after that incident, Liu Xin no longer had any contact with her mother-in-law. The two people also do not live together, and their eyes do not look at each other and their hearts are not quiet. In this way, there will be no contradictions without meeting, and every time I go back to my mother-in-law's house, my husband will go back alone.
Although we often say that marriage is not a matter of two people and it is a matter of two families, parents cannot interfere too much in married life. Three years old a generation gap, we and our parents age gap is too large, the concept is not the same, get along with the problem will appear. All we can do is get along and be kind with our parents, and don't get too serious about it.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has plagued our family life since ancient times, and some people say that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and family and family. The relationship between Liu Xin and her mother-in-law in the above article is like two liquids of different densities that cannot be integrated, each has its own statement, and is unwilling to take a step back. When the child is older, the child has its own life, and the parents should not tie the child to the side, nor should they impose their own ideas on others.
In fact, most of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is inseparable from a strong mother-in-law and a daughter-in-law with a tough attitude, two people hard together will absolutely crack, the scene must be very intense. Why should a woman be embarrassed by a woman? Why not understand and love it a little more?
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