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In a traditional wedding, the bride price represents the man's sincerity to the woman and represents the man's strength. Every girl is the heart of the parents, when they get married, the parents will always have preparations and plans for their future, so the bride price is not only a form, but also to reassure the woman's family and let them give their daughters to themselves satisfactorily.
But the bride price is not much, just the will of one party, but in today's society, the bride price is more and more contrary to his original intention. It seems that in the eyes of some boys, marriage is a matter of mutual pleasure, why they want to pay this money, and even some disputes over the amount of the bride price, resulting in contradictions between the two families of Hemei and Meimei, making a lot of trouble, and a good marriage is destroyed. Perhaps the woman's family never wanted the lion to open its mouth, but the attitude shown by the man's family from the beginning played a decisive role.
Netizen Li Meng encountered such a thing. He Qiang, his boyfriend, has been in a relationship for a long time, and it is time to talk about marriage, but about the bride price, the two always talk about it, and even go to find their mother. Discuss whether you can not give this bride price, which makes it difficult for Li Meng to accept, let's take a look at her story.
A little couple in love
Li Menghe and He Qiang are like many little couples in love, every day you are thick and I am thick. He Qiang's family conditions are also good, so Li Meng has never worried about this aspect when he is in contact.
The time between the two people has been in contact for a long time, and the age is not small, it should be time to talk about marriage, so after correcting the unity of the parents of the two parties, the two people began to discuss the matter of marriage. But falling in love is simple, but once it comes to marriage, it is a matter of two families, the two of them as the parties of the younger generation, just responsible for the middle of the conversation, how much money to take, how much to take, but also have to be discussed by the parents of the two parties.
Discuss getting married.
After all, He Qiang's family is married to a daughter-in-law, so sincerity must be done, but He Qiang's mother feels that Li Meng's family is not as good as her own family, and moreover, her own family has married the girls of their family, they have taken advantage of it, and they have no reason to ask for dowry money anymore. So because of this dowry issue has been talked about.
During this period, He Qiang also consulted with his mother, but his mother still insisted on his own ideas, thinking that he Li Meng married them He Qiang was already a high climb, if he gave them the bride price money, it would not seem that their family was very low.
Seeing that this matter was delayed again and again, and could not be dragged on, Li Meng urged He Qiang to quickly discuss with the family. At this time and the wall material high-speed politeness, it turned out that her mother did not want to give the idea of the bride price, although Li Meng knew that although she was a little sad, but after all, marriage is a matter of two people, these things are not counted, but Li Meng does not dare to discuss with the family, so this marriage is also delayed again and again, and it has not been fixed.
Li Meng knows that her mother is a very traditional, secular woman, the dowry of marriage means the face of her own family, so the mother will certainly not compromise on this level, and her cousin just got married some time ago, the man gave a lot of bride price, his uncle's family is also very faceless, the mother said at that time, if Li Meng can also add a good one at that time, people will also have face, so Li Meng knows that if she does not give a bride price, her mother is definitely unwilling.
Moreover, if you think about it carefully, Li Meng also feels that why doesn't he deserve the bride price? The bride price not only represents a ceremony, but also depends on the sincerity and satisfaction of the He Qiang family with himself, and gradually, when it comes to the bride price, Li Meng is also a little reluctant. He Qiang quickly asked Li Meng what was going on, didn't he say it all before? Don't want a bride price, why don't you want to now?
Li Meng replied: "The bride price is not about how much, it is all some of your family's wishes, but now your family is not willing to give out any points, and I don't know what your parents mean. He Qiang still wanted to confuse this matter, so he continued to coax Li Meng with clever words, saying: "The bride price is a ceremony, when the time comes, my parents will not have to give me this money, they are my son, in the future they will not give us the money in their hands, who will they give them?"
Although He Qiang said this, Li Meng was still a little reluctant in his heart, and seeing that Li Meng's words did not make sense here, he started the idea of Li Meng's mother, and wanted to discuss from his future mother-in-law to see if there was a play, and not to pay this dowry.
Marriage does not want to give a bride price.
So one day, He Qiang took a bunch of gifts and went to visit his future mother-in-law alone. Li Meng's mother was still a little surprised and said: "Suitable for strong pressure, why did you come alone, come in quickly, Li Meng went to work, why didn't you two come together?"
He Qiang did not have a good intention to say a few words of greeting to the future mother-in-law, and then only ran to the subject. He Qiang said: "Auntie, it is like this, my mother said that recently the family has a little bit of money, thinking about whether I can discuss with you about the bride price will not come out, anyway, our family is such a son, in the future all my parents' property is not me and Li Meng's well, so this dowry money, you see if you can get rid of it."
Li Meng's mother slowed down for a while, smiled and asked He Qiang: "I didn't understand what I just said, can you say it again?"
He Qiang also said directly, directly and directly with the future mother-in-law said, Auntie, I and your daughter are truly in love, do not give the bride price line? ”
Li Meng's mother continued to smile and said, "Okay, then marry your sister to my son." Of course, He Qiang understood what Li Meng's mother meant, since they didn't want to pay this dowry money, then his sister and Li Meng's brother were the same age, and the future mother-in-law said so, she must have thought that if Li Meng's brother went to his sister, then he would definitely not give the bride price money at that time.
Li Meng's mother said this, there is no other meaning, just want He Qiang to compare his heart to heart, if it is to change into his sister, marry someone else, there is no bride price, they feel more wronged in their hearts, more is not a taste.
Sure enough, Jiang was still old and spicy, and after He Qiang was educated by Li Meng's mother, he apologized to Li Meng's mother, said good things to Li Meng, and hurried home to discuss with his parents and prepare the dowry money.
To put it ugly, He Qiang and He Qiang's mother, nothing more than want to empty gloves white wolf, but marriage is not a transaction, the bride price is not a child's play, not that they want to give what they don't want to give, if He Qiang and He Qiang's mother continues to insist on this, then it is estimated that Li Meng will not agree to marry them, a good marriage, it is estimated that it will be dispersed when the time comes.
Marriage is not a transaction, he is two people in love, a ceremony for the family, and the bride price is just a tradition, not that the man needs to go bankrupt to pay this money, he has a special meaning. If the man's family is not willing to pay this money, I hope that they can compare their hearts to their hearts, if it is their daughter who wants to marry, the man's family will shirk it and is unwilling to give this dowry money, then what should they feel in their hearts.
So no matter when, don't think about stealing and slipping, avoid this matter, we can't be less than a point, we shouldn't be out, we certainly can't give this money. But whenever you want, think about others with your heart and don't be too selfish. Only thinking about yourself, only according to their own ideas to do things, that is not feasible, in life for others to consider more, think more for others, maybe you will understand the truth of others, so as to better do some things. Instead of blocking your own way or making things irreparable.
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