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A poet once said:
Love is just a pastime in a man's life, and it is the whole of a woman's life.
The word love, for men and women, has different meanings.
In the face of love, men are usually more realistic and rational, and he is very clear that love is only an experience of life, only a part of life.
In the world of men, as long as time passes, there is no one who can't forget anyone, and under the chai rice oil and salt, there are not so many soft intestines. Even if there is, it is only time to stop downstairs to listen to a song or smoke a cigarette.
A philosopher once said:
A woman's understanding of love is very clear, not only in devotion, but in the whole body and mind, unreservedly, desperately.
Women often take love as their whole, and once they fall into it, they lose themselves.
In fact, love is only a part of life, you also have family, friendship, career, etc., these are indispensable parts of your life, can make your life colorful.
You can take love seriously and enjoy love, but you can't give up other things because of love, and you can't give up on yourself because of love.
01. Five years in love with a phoenix man
Netizen Ding Na (pseudonym) used to be a girl with supreme love.
During her senior year internship, she met her ex-boyfriend He Dong (pseudonym). Compared with the childish and boring college boys around him, who pounced on the game all day, He Dong was mature and stable, and had some sense of humor.
Ding Na soon developed a crush on him.
He Dong is a college student from a remote township, and the university he attended is a well-known 211 college, which makes Ding Na, who has a degree of worship, very admired.
He Dong is 4 years older than Ding Na and is the eldest son in the family, and in the interaction, he reflects the thoughtfulness, carefulness and tolerance, which makes Ding Na very useful.
He would use memos to record Ding Na's preferences, would take three buses to buy Ding Na's favorite pastries, and would carry her through the flooded streets on rainy days...
After three months of dating, Ding Na established a relationship with him. Ding Na was born into a family of scholars, her parents are college teachers, and they pay great attention to the door to the door.
He Dong was labeled a "phoenix man", and Ding Na was worried that her parents were opposed to their interactions, and had tested her mother's tone.
The mother's attitude is very clear, she opposes Ding Na looking for a phoenix man, not because of discrimination, because the three views are different, which will bury a lot of hidden dangers for future married life.
The mother said that among the students she had brought, there were many phoenix men.
Not all phoenix men are bad, but most of the phoenix men and the three views of the phoenix male original family are incompatible with the three views of the urban family.
If they are reluctantly combined, they will make both parties trapped in internal friction and exhausted for a lifetime.
In the case that you can choose, try to choose a relatively safe option within the range of the door-to-door pair, do not risk, do not fight the probability.
Father also said to her in a serious tone, all living things are profit-seeking and avoiding harm, a tree knows to grow towards a sunny place, how can you, a highly educated person, not understand it?
02. Feelings are not blessed by parents
At that time, Ding Na was completely in love and could not listen to the advice of her parents.
Soon after, her association with He Dong was detected by her parents. In the following days, Ding Na began a protracted "tug-of-war" with her parents for love.
The originally harmonious family atmosphere became tense.
The father was helpless, and the well-behaved and obedient daughter had become so incomprehensible?
The mother also sighed and said to Ding Na, "Have you noticed that the number of times you argue with us in a month now has exceeded the sum of your past 25 years, do you think it is worth it?" ”
Ding Na's perseverance made her parents begin to change their strategy, they retreated to advance, saying that marriage is OK, but He Dong must have a marriage house in the city, and the down payment can also be.
The city where Ding Na is located, a better community, the down payment of the house is seven or eight hundred thousand, and He Dong can't get it out at all.
He Dong's family is ordinary, and part of his monthly income is given to the landlord, part to the original family, part to living expenses, and part to love expenses.
Although He Dong worked hard to live, he simply could not accumulate enough money.
The parents also said that the woman can also buy a house, and the child will follow the woman's surname in the future.
He Dong was both inferior and conceited, and he categorically refused his parents' request. In the stalemate, He Dong asked Ding Na to simply move in with him, and when the wood was formed, his parents would not make it difficult for them.
Although Ding Na was overwhelmed by love, she had a good tutor since she was a child, and under the long-term influence of her parents' strict family style, she did not dare to do such a rebellious thing.
03. After breaking up for half a year, brushed into his circle of friends before the engagement
He Dong gradually lost patience, and he has always been very tolerant of Ding Na, because of some small things, he quarreled with Ding Na, and then quit his job and returned to his hometown county to work.
Before leaving, he bought two tickets, took pictures and sent them to Ding Na, asking Ding Na to go with him. Ding Na burst into tears and hesitated without agreeing.
He Dong accused her of not being independent enough, immature in her thinking, and relying on her parents for everything... Then, blacked her out.
Ding Na was deeply saddened, and in the following days, she often quarreled with her parents at home. The mother's blood pressure was high, and in an argument, she suddenly fainted, fortunately, she was sent to the hospital in time and there was no major incident.
Ding Na was extremely guilty, and during her mother's recovery period, she had been with her.
After gradually calming down, she began to reflect, and she could listen to her mother's advice. However, thinking of He Dong, who has been in love for five years, she is always uneasy.
Half a year after the breakup, when Ding Na brushed the circle of friends, she inadvertently found that He Dong did not know when to release her from the blacklist.
Since it was three days to see, There were only two dynamics in He Dong's circle of friends, one was a wedding photo of him and a girl, saying that he was about to get engaged.
There is also a dynamic, only 4 words and a laughing and crying meme, which reads: Poor do not choose a wife.
Ding Na's eyes were blurred with tears, and it had only been half a year, and the man who had sworn to protect her forever was already going to spend his life with other women.
What makes her even more uncomfortable is the 4 words of "poor do not choose a wife".
04. I feel a little lucky
The so-called poor do not choose a wife, refers to the conditions are not allowed, casually find a person to marry.
Parents have always said that He Dong's character is not good, but they can't say where the specific bad is, and now these 4 words make Ding Na feel that her parents may be right.
Because poor people do not choose a wife, in fact, they treat marriage as a child's play, not only are they not responsible for their own lives, but also they are not responsible for their partners' lives.
Since you have made a choice, you must be content with your own choice, and your unwillingness is a "poison" for marriage.
Perhaps when He Dong sent these 4 words, he had already blocked the other party, but if these 4 words let the other party see, what a great humiliation and harm.
Ding Na remembered that her parents had said that some phoenix men's personalities were affected by the environment, and they were usually inferior and conceited. He Dongfa's 4 words may be a manifestation of conceit.
Parents have also said that in the minds of some phoenix men, survival is the first, love is behind, and even sometimes he is used as a tool to improve the quality of life.
As Jiang Dad said in "Flowing Golden Years", the phoenix man Zhang Anren chose to be with his daughter Jiang Nansun, in fact, he wanted to use marriage as a springboard.
Ding Na looked at He Dong's circle of friends and was a little lucky.
Maybe he Dong didn't really love her at the beginning, but just used her as a springboard or tool?
You take love as all, and the other party uses love as a tool, how can such a marriage be happy?
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