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Yishu wrote in the Indian Ink:
People love some people, and it is others who marry and have children.
Regarding love and marriage, Yishu also once said: Marriage is just a way of life, everyone can get married, it is very simple. Love is another matter entirely.
Yi Shu entered the world with cold eyes, handled things calmly, and had a kind of clarity in his body to see through the world. She clearly distinguishes love and marriage, and most of her characters are realistic and rational and know the trade-offs.
Many girls are influenced by Yishu and are bent on pursuing independence and autonomy, but some girls have deviated from the direction and become delicate and self-interested. Marriage is a solemn thing, but in the eyes of these girls, it has become a trade-off.
After all, real life is not a story in the book, and in the face of marriage's trade-offs, it is not a simple thing to stay rational and sober.
01. The heart after the trade-off is unwilling
There is a sentence in "Blue, Another Blue":
Sometimes people are really strange, those who choose will regret, and those who give up will regret, but perfection can only be an ideal, not a existence.
Choice means giving up, and giving up inevitably leads to regret. Regret is not terrible, what is terrible is that the heart is unwilling after the trade-off.
In the NetEase cloud hot review, I saw a small story:
My friend told me that you were getting married, and I took three days off, drove a day and a night, came to your house, and saw that you looked beautiful in your wedding dress. More beautiful than expected, I kept following the team.
Until he heard the sound of firecrackers, he carried you out of the car and into the hotel, and my phone received a text message from you "Don't send it, I'm here, I'm sorry".
Suddenly I was crying, crying like a child.
When I saw this story before, I felt deep affection.
Now that I think about it, I only feel that there is an unspeakable nausea, since you have chosen to end, why should you be unwilling to disturb people's hearts on the day of other people's big day.
Just like Lu You in those days, since he had already obeyed his mother's orders and abandoned his wife Tang Wan, why did he write poems that confided in old feelings like "Chao Tou Feng" in public when she and Zhao Shicheng and his wife respected each other as guests.
In the environment at that time, Tang Wan, who was already married to a human woman, her situation became even more embarrassing because of this poem. Soon after, she died of depression, didn't Lu You have responsibility?
Fu Seoul once said in "Strange Story": Every qualified predecessor should be like a dead person.
Indeed, since the trade-off has already been made, why bother disturbing the peace of others? Of course, as a woman, the same is true, since she has begun a new life, why do you have to turn back frequently.
02. Break the connection with your ex-boyfriend
Friend Yang Ting (pseudonym) spent 80,000 dowries, but only became a groom for 2 days, and he paid for his ex-wife's unwillingness.
Yang Ting was born in a small county town in the fifth line, and is a colleague of his ex-wife Ding Na (pseudonym).
Before he and Ding Na formally established a relationship, Yang Ting already knew that Ding Na had an ex-boyfriend who had been dating for 3 years.
The ex-boyfriend and Ding Na are in the same town, and for some practical reasons, the two have been separated for more than half a year. However, the ex-boyfriend is unwilling and will come to save Ding Na from time to time.
When Yang Tinggang and Ding Na were together, they were very tolerant and trusting of her, and Yang Ting let her handle the matter of her ex-boyfriend.
Ding Na also assured him that she would never get back together with her ex-boyfriend, because her parents and ex-boyfriend's parents had fought because of the two of them. It is almost impossible for the two families to reconcile again.
Later, Yang Ting found that Ding Na was still in contact with her ex-boyfriend, not only chatting online, but sometimes going out to eat together.
Yang Ting was a little uneasy, he and Ding Na communicated several times, and Ding Na once again promised to completely break off contact with her ex-boyfriend.
Next, the two entered a period of hot love.
During the period, Ding Na did not contact her ex-boyfriend again, but Yang Ting occasionally found that she was quietly paying attention to her ex-boyfriend's news.
Sometimes, Ding Na, who has drunk some wine, can't help but complain that Yang Ting doesn't love her as much as her ex-boyfriend...
03. At the back door feast, the bride "disappeared" for 10 minutes
After dating for more than a year, the two have a stable relationship, and each other's parents and relatives have met. So, the two lived together and began to prepare for marriage.
Before the formal engagement, Yang Ting and Ding Na had an open and honest deep conversation, which also talked about the ex-boyfriend.
Yang Ting told her very clearly what a husband's bottom line is, if she is not ready, or has not let go of the past, then say it in time, no one will delay anyone.
Ding Na's answer was sincere, she said that she was an adult, and since she had made a trade-off, she would be responsible for her own choices.
Soon, the two families set a wedding date.
Yang Ting's family prepared a wedding room, decoration, home appliances, cars, as well as weddings, wedding celebrations, wedding photos, and also gave Ding Na's family 80,000 dowry including three gold.
Yang Ting's family situation is OK, but this marriage still exhausts all the family foundations of his parents.
The wedding went well, Yang Ting looked at Ding Na with tears in the corners of her eyes, and in that instant, he felt that everything he had paid was worth it.
However, at the return banquet, he saw a terrible scene.
In the local area, at noon the day after the man's wedding, the woman's family will hold a homecoming banquet. The return banquet of Dinah's house was held at a restaurant in the town.
According to local customs, at the homecoming banquet, the relatives and friends of the woman's family will deliberately embarrass the groom and persuade the groom to drink, so that the groom knows that it is not easy to marry his wife, and he must treat his wife well.
The groom will be prepared in advance, bring a few friends with good alcohol, and come to "stop the wine".
04. After discovering the truth, the groom proposed to withdraw from the marriage
At that time, Yang Ting was surrounded by Ding Na's relatives to persuade him to drink.
When he broke out of the siege and found that Ding Na was "missing", a bridesmaid told him that the bride had gone to the bathroom. However, Yang Ting waited for nearly 10 minutes, and Ding Na had not returned.
The restaurant is not big, only two floors up and down, upstairs in the bathroom, did not find Ding Na, Yang Ting went downstairs to find.
Downstairs, he saw another bridesmaid standing in front of the restaurant. Then he saw Ding Na in a toast suit, getting out of a parking lot in a panic, seemingly wiping away tears.
Yang Ting had seen the car, and Ding Na's ex-boyfriend had driven to pick her up.
After discovering the truth, Yang Ting's body trembled, and he didn't know if he was angry or some other emotion... In the mud, he drank a lot of wine.
After being sent home, he slept until 9 p.m. With a slightly clearer mind, he directly proposed to withdraw from marriage.
Ding Na burst into tears and didn't say a word.
Yang Ting said that since she was unwilling, she might as well go back to her ex-boyfriend, and after making a choice, she should be firm in her choice.
Otherwise, making any choice is not willing, not only is it irresponsible for your own life, but it is also a kind of harm to your partner.
05. Spent 80,000 dowry, only 2 days as a groom
Ding Na is a proud girl, seeing Yang Ting's resolute attitude, she also threw out a sentence: Tomorrow morning I will go through the formalities.
Yang Ting's house and car are pre-marital property, as for the 80,000 dowry, he decided to leave it to Ding Na, after all, Ding Na is 29 years old and has lived with him for half a year.
Yang Ting said that he spent 80,000 dowries and only became a groom for 2 days, because Ding Na's heart was unwilling to pay the bill. He owes no one, the only thing he owes is his parents.
He doesn't hate anyone, and the unwilling Ding Na, even if the ex-boyfriend didn't come to her, with her mentality, she couldn't manage a marriage well. Stopping the loss in time is also a kind of luck.
There is a comment in NetEase Cloud:
If it goes well, I'll buy an apartment, raise a corgi, and spend the rest of my life alone but contented. What if it doesn't go well? Get married and have children.
Before, when I saw this sentence, I felt that my heart was related; now when I see this sentence, I only feel sick.
If you don't go well, you will get married and have children, so why does your husband take over your unsmooth life?
Marriage is a solemn matter, and it must be treated rationally, otherwise it will only harm others and harm oneself.
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