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Lin Na (pseudonym) married her husband at the age of 24, and when she had just graduated from college, she had a job she liked very much, although the income was not high, but the relationship between colleagues was very good.
In addition, she is young and engaged in the design industry, as long as she is willing to work hard, good opportunities will come.
But in the third year of marriage, Linna became pregnant. She also has a big sister, and unfortunately, the big sister is also pregnant with her second child at about the same time.
The eldest sister has always wanted to have a son, and now she is pregnant again, and her mother-in-law is extremely happy.
Lin Na could see that her mother-in-law and eldest sister had a good relationship and thought of her everything. However, I never thought that my mother-in-law would be so eccentric.
The children of the two families were born three days apart.
The eldest sister was relatively early, and the mother-in-law immediately went to take care of her confinement.
Lin Na's husband's income is not high, and she is not willing to spend money to ask for a sister-in-law, so she can only trouble her own mother-in-law to help. Fortunately, she was an only child, otherwise she would rather spend her own money than let her parents come to the house to help.
Lin Na originally thought that after her mother-in-law took care of her eldest sister's confinement, she would go home to help her.
But who knows, she moved directly to the big sister's house, and has been helping her with the child, taking care of it for five years.
The most excessive thing is that the mother-in-law also asked Lin Na to resign, the attitude is very firm, in the mother-in-law's view, who gives birth to the child who brings, she feels that she has no obligation to help Lin Na take care of her granddaughter.
Lin Na endured all the grievances, quit her job, and took care of the family wholeheartedly.
At that time, she secretly swore in her heart that when her mother-in-law was old, she would not be soft-hearted, and she would not be obliged to give her a pension, and she would let her rely on her daughter in the future.
Because the mother-in-law also expressed this meaning at that time, in her opinion, the daughter-in-law is not a relative at all but an outsider.
However, after the eldest sister's son grew up and could go to school, the mother-in-law lost the value of use and was directly driven back to her hometown.
When the mother-in-law was at the eldest sister's house, like a nanny, she was summoned by her daughter and son-in-law, and she naively thought that the eldest sister could provide for her.
The 65-year-old mother-in-law, whose body is not as good as a year, the eldest sister is very shrewd and does not care about anything.
The mother-in-law has no way out, and can only rely on her daughter-in-law.
Without Lin Na's consent, her mother-in-law moved into the house.
She also righteously said: "Daughter-in-law, it is your obligation to give me a pension, don't be too unconscionable." ”
Lin Na and her husband expressed their attitude, did not agree to her mother-in-law to live at home, and would not give her a pension, but the mother-in-law still came with a thick face.
Lin Na still remembered how her mother-in-law treated her at the beginning, so she did not back down, she said: "I am just an outsider, but this sentence is what you said, so quickly forgotten?" I'm not going to give you a pension and go to your daughter. ”
The mother-in-law knew that she was wrong, and she was not embarrassed to let her son be embarrassed, but in the end she left.
Lin Na is not a cruel daughter-in-law, but her mother-in-law's original approach was too hurtful. Some of the pains are not something that time can soothe, and if the mother-in-law had been able to do the heart-to-heart, she would not have ignored her now.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, the more confused the mother-in-law, the more love to do this
When getting along with their daughter-in-law, the elders with the pattern know how to consider others and will not deliberately bully the good daughter-in-law.
However, the elderly at a low level always find it difficult for them to treat their daughters-in-law as family members, and they do not know how to understand and respect them.
Like Linna's mother-in-law, she rarely took the initiative to care for her daughter-in-law, even ignoring her when she needed help the most.
The mother-in-law helped the eldest sister to confinement, Lin Na did not care, but the mother-in-law's approach was more and more excessive, she did not care about anything, directly moved to the eldest sister's house, helped her bring five years of children.
Lin Na survived the most difficult time alone, and her mother-in-law also made it clear that she did not need her to retire, so she had no obligation to help take care of her granddaughter.
Lin Na has always remembered this sentence in her heart, her daughter was born by herself and needs to be taken care of hard, and she has no complaints.
However, when the mother-in-law was old, she repented, with a straight face, and forgot everything she had said, and now asked Lin Na to give her a pension.
Lin Na did not compromise, she is not a good bully woman, some of the bottom line once touched, the love between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will end.
A mother-in-law is desolate in her later years, only because she has done this, that is, the pattern is too small, and she always treats her daughter-in-law as an outsider.
When Lin Na's mother-in-law was old, she was rejected by her daughter and directly rushed back to her hometown, but she could not get the forgiveness of her daughter-in-law, and her old age was doomed to be miserable.
Most of the old people who can live a full life when they are old are very wise.
Especially when getting along with your daughter-in-law, you will not bully and oppress at will because you are an elder, but you know how to help and respect each other.