After 20 years, the "two-woman family" can not escape these three major problems, which are both realistic and cruel
It used to be said that having a son and a daughter was a blessing, so many families chose to have a second child in order to make a good word.
However, the gender of the child is not easy to control, if you really have a choice, I believe that many parents will choose to have a son and a daughter, which is also the best life choice.
Of course, if there are only two choices, such as two sons or two daughters, it is likely that more people will choose two sons instead of two daughters.
Because there are still some people who prefer boys to girls, will families with two daughters be happier after many years?
Not long ago, I met my mother with two sons and two daughters in the neighborhood.
The mother of two sons said to the mother of two daughters: In the future you will be very happy, two daughters will be happy after 20 years of marriage, you will be happy and happy, you can go wherever you want, unlike me, there are two construction banks in the family, I will make money for the rest of my life to buy a house for my children to get married.
Families with two daughters, although at a very young age, their parents need to worry and take better care of them.
But as their daughters grow older, parents worry more than they do with their two sons, after all, women are still in a vulnerable position in society.
Early love may occur at school, and eventually it will hurt the girl, and after entering society, the situation is still the same, worried that the daughter will meet scum and miss her happiness.
But for families with two sons, parents worry much less about these things, and when parents are old, two sons can still support the whole family.
No matter what happens, the two sons can still bear it together, which is incomparable to two two-woman families.
Netizen Zhang Yi said: My neighbor is eighty-five years old, four daughters, she lives alone in the countryside, last year in the field work is not comfortable.
The other neighbors saw her back home uncomfortable, so they called the four daughters, who arrived in a short while, and they didn't go to the hospital, they had lunch and left.
When the aunt was uncomfortable, the daughter just took medicine and then urged her to go to bed, and no one was willing to take care of her.
There is a proverb that says: To live in your son's house is to live in your own home, and to live in your daughter's house is to live in a foreign country!
It can be seen that having a daughter is really different from a son.
Netizen Aunt Zhang is also complaining to us, I didn't expect that she had two daughters, in the twilight years will be so lonely!
Aunt Zhang married her husband more than 20 years ago, and soon she became pregnant. Coincidentally, she was pregnant with two children at a time, both of whom were also daughters.
Fortunately, Aunt Zhang's family also has no prejudice against her daughter, and her mother-in-law is also very fond of her granddaughter.
The two children were also pampered after birth, and the two little princesses also had very good personalities, beautiful and considerate of their parents, which made the neighbors very envious.
But twenty years later, many problems also arise.
Both daughters are now older, and when they go to college, they leave home one by one to study in other provinces and cities.
As soon as the child left, Aunt Zhang suddenly felt very lonely, usually there was not even a person to talk to, and sometimes the daughters were very busy and did not contact for several days.
Neither child seems to have the consciousness to return to their hometown to develop, and if they marry people from other provinces and form a family in the future, they will not have much time to visit their parents.
This made Aunt Zhang very sad, who can accompany her to take care of her in the future?
This situation is very common for Aunt Zhang, and many families with two daughters have to face these troubles after 20 years.
In addition, there are several situations that are also a headache.
1. The problem of providing for the elderly
Because the traditional Chinese custom is that the son is the main productive force of the family, the elderly are generally supported by the son.
The daughter who leaves the house is not in line with people's traditional concepts, so once the daughter leaves the house, the support of the parents becomes a big problem.
In families with only daughters, usually the elderly need to set aside a certain amount of pension funds for themselves.
Two daughters will marry in 20 years, and the first problem is that the parents have no alimony.
Parents are always ignored due to family reasons, after all, if you have a family, it is difficult to consider your parents.
And if you marry a foreigner, it is even more difficult to visit your parents, so parents who have given birth to two daughters have to feel lonely in their later years.
2, the daughter married far away, the parents are very lonely
Daughters usually don't come home much, and daughters who are far from married may come back even less often, so the average parent may have to endure the loneliness of the family.
It would be more uncomfortable if there was no boss, and when the parents were old, the inconvenient activities required the care of relatives, but at this time the daughter was not around, which was really sad.
3, two daughters are difficult to take care of each other
When the two daughters got married, due to distance, time and other reasons, the feelings of the two sisters began to fade.
Although their childhood was inseparable, when they both had a new family, everything changed.
After all, most women are more traditional, mainly with a family, taking care of their own small family is already very busy, it is difficult to take care of other relatives.
But as a mother, I think that whether you have two sons or two daughters, your biggest capital is not that you have a few children.
And you have a healthy physique, a good attitude and habits, the right values, and constantly enrich yourself, so that you will also live a very happy life.
Every parent and child wants to get excellent results, but there is always a gap between anyone, what to do?
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