Text/Coriander
Two people who love each other, to a certain extent, will join hands into marriage. This is the destination of many loves.
But falling in love is easier said than done. Many people who love each other, after entering the marriage, it is not long before they make a fuss, their feelings are broken, and they eventually lead to the end of failure.
The failure of marriage, both husband and wife are responsible. In this world, there are no perfect people, so it is naturally unreasonable to say that the failure of marriage is only the fault of one party.
Marriage needs to be managed, and it needs to be done with heart and effort together. In fact, a happy marriage is traceable. For example, the following three elements, if two people can do it, happiness is also within reach.
★ Love each other
The basis of a happy marriage is that the initial state of two people in a marriage is that they are in love. Love is one of the most happy factors. People who have love, in marriage, are more willing to pay for each other.
With a loving marriage, the husband and wife will be more integrated in terms of fit. This is because, before marriage, their feelings have reached a certain level, whether it is physical integration or spiritual intersection, there has been a process.
Marriage needs to be run-in. After all, before marriage, the space for two people to grow and live was not the same. In the stage of love, each other only sees each other's good, and ignores those bad aspects.
Even so, two people who love each other, in marriage, even if they quarrel and make trouble, will also care about the existence of love that once existed. After calming down, there will be more introspection about your behavior.
Because they love each other, they are willing to stay together. With this awareness, in marriage, both husband and wife will let love dominate life more, and let life have more love colors.
Marriages that love each other will also have a more enjoyable life than others. This is because love is the best medicine, able to reconcile the various bitter tastes of life.
★ Be tolerant of each other
Love is sweet, marriage is trivial.
Two people who enter the marriage, if there is no tolerant mentality of each other, it is easy to live a life of panic.
Tolerance is easy to say, but it is very difficult to do. But no matter how difficult it is, it must be done. Only in this way can married life be more harmonious.
Imagine if you are stubborn about your own opinions and he or she insists on his or her personality, how can you live this day?
Since two people have entered into marriage, they have gone with the goal of staying together for a lifetime. So, for the sake of lovers, how about letting it go? Between husband and wife, it is not necessary to really compete for a win or lose. Only by being tolerant of each other and forgiving up with each other can we make each other better.
There is a big reason why the divorce rate is so high now, and it is also that the personalities of both husband and wife are too strong, unwilling to pay, unwilling to tolerate. They all feel that they are powerful, what they are doing is right, and since they can't get by, then leave. An overly egoistic gesture, and a sloppy attitude, is actually a kind of blasphemy against marriage.
It used to be easy to get married and difficult to divorce, but now it is easy to become a knot, and it is easy to leave. Isn't it true that the divorce certificate is all red, which also means that divorce is also a good thing.
This shows that people's concepts and mentalities are changing. Whether this change is good or bad is not easy to say. But what I also see is the weakness and lack of responsibility in marriage.
Only by being tolerant of each other and understanding each other can there be a better increase in feelings between husband and wife. Feelings are good, and the days will naturally be sweet.
★ Trust each other
Chatting with a classmate in the afternoon, she mentioned another female classmate from our middle school and said that this female classmate may have suffered from depression.
Together, we recalled the emotional experience of this female classmate and her marital status.
I remember that when this female classmate got married, several of our classmates gathered. Just after eating, her husband called. She told him that several of our classmates were at a party, and her husband didn't believe it, so he had to ask the classmates present who knew him to answer the phone to confirm whether his wife was lying.
At that time, we vaguely felt that this was an abnormal feeling. However, everyone at the scene ridiculed that her husband cared about her, and she was not assured that such a beautiful and talented wife was outside, afraid of being robbed.
Jokes are jokes, but we all see the inside of this marriage.
Sure enough, in these years of married life, this female classmate has lived a very beautiful life on the surface, but in fact, it is very miserable in the mainland. Her husband is doing a good job, and if he has money, he will pretend to be a grandfather. It is said that he went out with friends every day and often did not come home until two or three o'clock in the morning. He asked his wife not to sleep, but to wait for him to come back and talk to him. If she occasionally gets sleepy, or yawns, he's very dissatisfied.
Or play? Or scolding? We don't know. Even if there is, the female classmate will not say it, because she is a very face-saving person. In front of us, she is constantly praising how her husband loves her, how much he cares about her and so on.
But now, she couldn't hold it anymore. That long-suppressed bitterness made her nerves eventually collapse.
How can a marriage without trust and understanding of each other go to the end?
I don't know what will happen to this female classmate in the end, but it is foreseeable that her married life will be even more miserable in the days to come.
Life is really not long! Two people have a relationship together, and the days of staying together are actually not long. If we still have to torture each other in this short life, it is unimaginable suffering.
It is said that a hundred years of repair can be crossed by the same boat, and a thousand years of repair can sleep together. Isn't it better to have a short life and be happy to live happily?
Therefore, whether the marriage can be happy or not, both husband and wife have great responsibilities. If you have the above three factors, I believe that the married life will be sweeter and happier. You tell me?