Do you know about changing relatives? In the 1980s, rural families could be described as prosperous, with not many children of four or five children, six or seven of them, because there were more men and fewer women, and the result was that they were in their twenties and thirties

Do you know about changing relatives?

In the 1980s, rural families could be described as prosperous, four or five children were not many, six or seven were commonplace, because there were more men and fewer women, and as a result, the bare sticks of the twenties and thirties sprung up like mushrooms, and families with poor economic conditions and many brothers were extremely difficult to marry and get married. For a time, changing relatives became a powerful measure to solve the problem of single sticks. The so-called change of relatives, there are sisters' single-stick families to each other, sisters staggered to marry each other's brothers. Usually there is a huge age difference between men and women, and girls in their teens, sixes, and sevens marry men in their late thirties or even in their thirties. Rural people, uneducated, stupid, incompetent, do not know how to cherish their little wives, do not know how to manage marriage, many girls have become victims. If the woman's intelligence is weaker, or if she can't do hard work, she will also be bullied by her in-laws. Some girls really can't stand the suppression of the in-laws up and down, choose to escape, that can't be stopped, the other brother's wife immediately returned to the mother's home, so most of them for the mother's brother, can only endure the humiliation and burden, because of the unfortunate marriage and caused by neuropathy, jumping off the building and jumping into the river and other light life phenomenon in people's eyes and psychology is like a gust of wind blowing, the so-called breeze is gentle, the water waves are not happy, there is no ripple.

Qiu Lian of Digou Village is a woman who was driven crazy by her in-laws after changing her brother's relatives. Qiu Lian's father counted as a "literati", leading the whole family to lead the opera team to sing opera everywhere, and also intended to give his three sons a daughter-in-law in the drama team. Unfortunately, the son is not outstanding in appearance, his thinking is not agile, in essence, he inherits his mother's genes, and his brain shell is not bright enough. Qiu Lian just can't see the look, no eye color, work grinding foreign workers, like to talk about it, her family told her to do a job, she went out to hang out and left the things she did, no matter who criticized and accused it didn't matter, anyway, it was the East Wind irrigating donkey ears, left in and right out, often criticized. No matter what you say, when she is a girl, she also follows the drama class, and can sing a few words such as: take a step, twist a twist, leave a few Ma Yingying on the head; the festival is high, the section is high, the golden bridge is hanging on the high, you want to cross the golden bridge, I don't know if the golden bridge is firm. However, the twist of fate was that when she was seventeen, she changed her twenty-eight-year-old brother. Qiu Lian walked into the family with longing, and at the beginning of the new marriage, she smiled and giggled every day. However, the good times did not last long, the other family hated QiuLian's IQ, talked without a brain, had no way to do things, and began to punch and kick Qiulian. Other people's teenage girls are still in school, but Qiu Lian is beaten by her in-laws to get up early and greedy, and Phi Xing Dai Yue works in the fields and does not eat well. After more than a year or two years of torture, after Qiulian was pregnant and miscarried, she said to herself that she was crazy and crazy, and her in-laws couldn't see this family affair, and her brother's daughter-in-law returned to her mother's house first, and when the change of relatives failed, Qiulian was also expelled from the house. Qiulian later after years of treatment, the situation has greatly improved, and then married to our neighboring village, gave birth to two sons, but she can not move to run to our village, her sister is our village, she sees whose meal is cooked, will take the initiative to eat, my mother gave her the most to eat, my mother said, now there is not even a beggar in the countryside, usually to do good and accumulate virtue has no chance, to poor qiu lian to eat as a good deed.

Similarly, the foals in our village are also elderly bare sticks, three brothers, four walls of the family, and they can't afford to marry their daughters-in-law, and the mother of the foal is blind from crying for this. Sister Jin Bao, beautiful in appearance, outstanding in stature, water spirit eyes, long braids, hair everywhere, people see people love, flowers see flowers. When Jin Bao was sixteen years old, the whole family decided to let her change her brother's relatives, the man's family was close to the Yellow River, the man was thirty years old, ugly, uneducated, vulgar in speech, reckless in behavior, did not know how to pity Xiang Xiang and cherish jade, Jin Bao wanted to die when he saw him. In order to prevent one party from repenting, usually after marriage, the daughter-in-law will be pregnant as soon as possible, and Jin Bao is very resistant to ugly men who are fourteen years older than himself, often three times in the middle of the night, secretly crying. Jin Bao's sister-in-law soon became pregnant, and Jin Bao had a flat stomach, in fact, due to malnutrition, his age was small, and he had not yet come to the menstrual affairs at the age of sixteen, so the in-laws also stared closely, Jin Bao was like a trapped beast imprisoned in a cage, she always wanted to fight against fate, but had to face reality. Jimbo finally gave up the struggle, obedient like a lamb. One day, Jimbo took the opportunity to get rid of his family and rushed all the way to the bank of the Yellow River. As the sun sets, the intestines are broken at the end of the world, And Jimbo is determined to say goodbye to this world, she cries and tears her heart and lungs, and her liver and intestines are broken. The Yellow River rolls, the nine curves reverberate, the current is gentle, and the waves crash on the shore. Jimbo jumped and instantly drowned. I heard that Jin Bao was rescued by Gong Gong.

Years later, The Foal died of illness, his son was a junior, but he had never heard anything from Jimbo, and even if the whole village had organized a female guest to return to her hometown the year before, no one had mentioned her name, as if she had never come to this world.

Older singletons were a common phenomenon in rural areas in the 1970s and 1980s, and changing relatives was a specific measure to solve marriages at that time. Nowadays, the economy has taken off, the times have changed, only children, two female households have become the basic structure of the family, people live a wealthy life, marriage is free, and changing relatives has become a historical symbol.