In life, even if it seems to be ordinary to eat, wear, live and travel, different mentalities will also create different experiences.
People who think too much are tasteless when they eat, and they are even more sleepless when they sleep.
Everything that seems simple must also be practiced with a normal heart.
Zhou Guoping said: "If ambition can be reduced to ordinary heart, it will also rise to wisdom heart." ”
Wise people know how not to compete in the face of things.
Not to wrestle with pain, to let go is to have
At President Mandela's inauguration, Mandela invited three jailers who had abused him to watch.
He said that those years in prison taught him to control his emotions and to deal with the pain of suffering, and to stand up in full view of the public to show respect for the three jailers.
"When you step out of the prison gate to freedom, if you can't leave your grief and resentment behind, you're still in prison."
Great souls have a free heart because of forgiveness.
Life is like a long journey, no matter what stage we reach, if we carry too much psychological burden, it will only make us tired and nervous, unable to walk and breathe calmly.
Try to slowly let go and start again with lightness, the journey through the thorns, warm and bright.
Don't compete with others, face yourself
On the road of life, there is always our unfinished strength.
The gains and losses in money make us fall into the vortex of calculation;
Unconscious comparison makes us forget the happiness we have;
The truth of right and wrong disrupts our path to self-determination.
We always unconsciously compare ourselves with those around us, but in the end we find that the happiness we really desire is already in our hands.
In the classic psychological work The Power of the Moment, there is a story of the "beggar and the treasure chest":
There was once a beggar sitting on the side of the road begging for thirty years.
One day a stranger passed by, and the beggar still begged him, and the stranger did not give anything, but asked what the beggar was sitting on.
The beggar said it was just an old box with nothing.
The stranger continued to ask, "Have you ever opened the box?" The beggar shook his head.
Until the stranger insisted that the beggar open the box, a miracle happened, and the box was filled with gold.
In fact, we are all this beggar, already sitting on the treasure chest, but we are still searching and begging everywhere.
As Rockefeller once said, "People dream of a beautiful rose garden in the distance, but they don't appreciate the roses blooming in front of the window." ”
People have their own way of life, and other people's paths are, after all, only references, not standards.
Learning to be satisfied with the happiness you have in the present moment is the best way to live.
Don't compete with yourself, live more comfortably
There is a topic on Weibo: Why do people often feel pain?
One comment put it this way: "Because we want to control everything that we simply can't control."
Deeply.
Many of life's troubles actually stem from competing with themselves.
"Life is actually not difficult, but don't compete with yourself, always use the ideal me to teach the real me." 」
Living is not a war, and there is no need to fight with a sword.
No one can be perfect, but be ashamed.
Learn not to compete with yourself, let go of too much demanding, accept the occasional inability to reach, and try to shake hands with yourself.
Those desires in the heart are blessed; no, the clouds are light and the wind is light.
Life is often not about getting more and more happiness, but about the less you think about, the happier you are.
May we all be good mood herbicides, sweep away distractions, be a "rare and confused" person, do as we wish, and travel lightly.