What I am most afraid of losing after marriage is not youth, not money, but losing myself. Many female friends lose themselves after marriage because they live a single life or are too dependent. For example, originally

After marriage, the most afraid of losing is not youth,

Not money,

It's about losing yourself.

Many female friends will live a single life after marriage,

Or be too dependent and lose yourself.

For example, you who originally had a job, for love, became a housewife at home.

Every day at home in addition to taking care of the children,

Just looking forward to the husband and children to come home quickly,

Let you have someone who can talk.

And some people,

I've never been to my own party or do anything of my own since I got married.

In addition to the husband or husband in life,

In addition to children or children,

Completely without a life of their own.

The dependence on the husband is already:

If he dares to leave me, or if he dares to betray me, I will die to show him.

Such a partner is actually the worst in marriage.

Because a lifetime is so long, who can maintain a consistent love for a person who remains unchanged?

Moreover, on the road to marriage,

The other side is always moving forward,

And only you, in the ten years as a day.

The best partnership should be to move forward together.

Two people have intersected in life, and mutual participation is the best state in marriage.

There is a passage in "Jane Eyre": Love is a game, and it must always be inseparable from the other party, evenly matched, in order to rely on each other for a long time, because too strong opponents are exhausting, and too weak opponents are disgusting.

We often hear people advise girls to have their own independent capital and courage.

In fact, it is said that it is to maintain a parity with the other side,

Because only in this way, in feelings, in daily life, can we maintain our true self.

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