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Yang Jun is 33 years old, he has been in a 4-year relationship before, and his ex-girlfriend wants to get married quickly, but at that time, Yang Jun only had a career in his heart, and he did not have extra thoughts to manage feelings, let alone family. Later, in countless quarrels, they went to break up.
After the age of 30, Yang Jun's career has slowly improved, his life is on the right track, his friends are married, and he has his own children. He was envious in his heart, and his parents hoped that he could find the right person quickly.
Yang Jun had never wanted to go on a blind date before, but he found it difficult to meet other friends of the opposite sex every day in addition to work.
In addition, he has the best brother, through the introduction of relatives, he has the opportunity to get to know his current wife. They have been married for 3 years now and the relationship is still very sweet. So slowly, Yang Jun is no longer so repulsive to blind dates.
However, when he planned to meet with the girl, he heard his colleagues around him talk about some strange blind dates. Some men, who would rather marry divorced women than marry older single women.
In fact, Yang Jun did not understand this.
In his view, divorced women have had the experience of marriage after all, if the girl has children, then the two people are back together, the problems that need to be faced are more complicated. But during this New Year, after Yang Jun successively kissed three elderly leftover women, he finally knew why men did not dare to marry them.
The first and second girls, who are both almost 40 years old, are doing an ordinary job and have no special pursuit of life. Yang Jun has no requirements for the age of the girl, but if they want to be together, the spirit of the two sides must be more compatible.
However, they only met for the first time, in the process of eating, the girls took the initiative to say their mate selection requirements, they asked Yang Jun's income very directly? Is there a room? When you get married, can you give a dowry of 300,000 yuan and so on.
Hearing these words, Yang Jun was blinded at that time, and also determined that they were not the right people.
The last girl, named Sun Ting, is relatively young, only 35 years old, and is a teacher. From all aspects of the conditions, Yang Jun is still very satisfied with her, and hopes that they can get to know each other well.
But later in the process of getting along, Sun Ting showed a very arrogant look, and everything had to be centered on herself. Moreover, she is very picky about men, but Fan Yangjun is a little unpaved, and Sun Ting's attitude immediately becomes very cold.
Yang Jun is already very patient, but in the face of a woman who only has himself in his eyes, he can only choose to give up.
During the New Year, after Yang Jun and the three elderly leftover women went on blind dates, he finally understood why men did not dare to marry them. The reason is that they have too high a vision, do not have a clear understanding of themselves, and have extremely high requirements for others.
Without a clear understanding of yourself, it is easy to take a detour in your feelings.
There is a saying in the "List of Past Stories": "We often take a magnifying glass to observe and evaluate others, but rarely look inward." ”
People who can't see themselves clearly tend to think very highly of themselves.
Why are there so many girls who are beautiful but are left behind in the end? The reason is that they always think in their hearts that they are so good-looking, they must be able to marry a man who is excellent in all aspects, and they will want to climb high with a straight face.
Maybe there have been a lot of pursuits of the opposite sex, so they will have an inexplicable sense of superiority, even if they have lost the advantage of age, but there is still no way to do it, face up to the reality of the problem.
Just like the first two blind dates That Yang Jun met, they had just begun to meet, and the focus of the other party was on his income and how much bride price he could give.
When they make these unreasonable demands, they have never reflected on their hearts at all, why would a member of the opposite sex be willing to pay so much for them?
This is also the reason why men are afraid to marry older leftover women, their vision is too high, they think they are good-looking, and they only want to marry rich men. The requirements for mate selection are very high, but they themselves do not have the capital to match the quality men.
Really good men, who will not marry ordinary women casually, will consider the girl's ability to work, as well as family conditions and so on. If a woman is over 30 years old, but the comprehensive conditions are not good, then no matter how good-looking you are, it is difficult to attract the eyes of the other party.
In the end, even ordinary men dare to marry older leftover women, because if they want to spend so much financial and material resources to get married, it will seriously affect the quality of life after marriage. Instead of putting yourself under so much pressure, it's easier to be with divorced, less demanding women.
After Yang Jun went on a blind date, he really understood why many men around him were so rejective of older single girls.
Hopefully, everyone can have a clear understanding of themselves, and when you want to find a partner, first think about whether you are enough to deserve him.
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