For many parents, how to educate their children is a headache. Some people like to scold the child, hoping that he can correct the bad problems; some people like to let the child go, so as to liberate the child's nature; and some people like to encourage the child, through continuous praise, strengthen the child's self-confidence.
Recently, a parent in a certain place, in order to encourage his child, posted his child's award certificate to a social platform and posted: My Tsinghua student (future).
Parents post their children's awards
From the awards we know that this child is still in elementary school, but he has already received many awards, and the parents have pasted these awards neatly on the wall. It can be seen that parents are full of pride and glory. But in the comments, we see that many people are not optimistic about the future of their children, because Tsinghua University, as the highest institution in China, is not so easy to enter.
The child wins the award, and the parents are happy, but if the parents show off it, it may have a negative impact on the child's values.
A man deserves pleasure and glory in the work he is engaged in itself. Instead of feeling happy in the rewards you get afterwards.
If this parent pays too much attention to the child's award, the child may strengthen learning to get more awards in the short term to satisfy the parent's vanity. But if the child itself is not interested in learning knowledge, and does not voluntarily drive themselves to learn, the external driving force will become more and more numb, so that it cannot form a continuous motivation.
We have all learned about Wang Anshi's wounded Zhongyong, Fang Zhongyong was very smart when he was a child, he could compose poetry at the age of 5, and his father felt that this child was gifted and took him everywhere to the cave. When children grow up, they are no different from ordinary people.
The ancient examples may have some fabricated elements, which are not enough to believe, but under the current college entrance examination system, there are also many stories of the college entrance examination.
There is a prodigy in Hunan, Wei Yongkang, who went to middle school at the age of 8, was admitted to the Physics Department of Xiangtan University at the age of 13, and was admitted to the Institute of Physics of the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 17. When he was a child, the walls of his home could not be pasted, and his mother often took pride in it, showing off everywhere, and molding him into a genius. However, when Wei Yongkang was in graduate school, he was dissuaded by the school because he could not take care of himself, and finally he could only return to his hometown and live the life of an ordinary person, and the glory of the past, after which he no longer brought glory, but became his lingering pressure, and finally led to his depression, leaving the world at the age of 38.
Netizens have a variety of views on parents posting their children's awards. Some people agree that this is an encouragement to children and will stimulate children's enthusiasm for learning; some people oppose, believing that children are still young, there is too much uncertainty in the future, and should not be too early to expose honors to cause children's comparison. There are also people who believe that even if you are admitted to a good university in the future, it does not mean that you can achieve success. Honor will only deepen a child's frustration when he encounters difficulties in the future.
I believe that it is not that you can't sunburn, but what kind of honor you should pay attention to in order to guide your children to the right path in life. If you post your child's learning certificate, it may lead to your child's grade-based and score theory. Parents should be rewarded with a career that is crucial to their children's future careers, so that their children can grow up under the same value scale throughout their lives.
If you want your child to be an athlete, you may want to show off the rewards he has received in sports competitions; If you want your child to become a teacher, you may wish to show the reward she won in the speech contest; if you want the child to be a singer, show her reward in the singing competition; if the child aspires to be a soldier in the future, he should show his meritorious service medal.
Parents post the right reward and are a beacon for children not to get lost in their lives.
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