Author | Fan Deng Reading · Small slip of paper
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
The famous novelist Maupassant said:
"Life can't be as good as you think, but it can't be as bad as you think."
Everyone's life is their own choice, and happiness or not depends on the wisdom of the individual.
And every high-class lifestyle will give back to life at some point.
Today, I would like to share with you the 8 ways to improve the happiness of life recommended by People's Daily and cultivate it to benefit you for a lifetime.
There is a saying:
"The most important thing in life is to have a good body, a good mood, and a good attitude."
And movement, just happens to give us all that.
Bella McKay, a contributor to the British newspaper The Guardian, suffered from divorce and mental health and suffered from severe depression and anxiety.
In Her Book Running Saved My Life, combining her own experiences, psychological knowledge, and interviews with people who have had the same experience, she found that exercise can beat anxiety and depression.
Bella noted: "Pain relieves pain. ”
Exercise, such as running, has a distracting effect, and when your body is experiencing pain, it relieves the functioning of certain parts of the brain.
When you are irritable because of things like lost love, loss of a loved one, or excessive stress in life, stepping forward and diverting your attention may bring your life back on track.
Every drop of sweat you shed will give you back the best possible condition.
Confucius said, "Do not move if you are not polite." “
If you want to do things well, you must follow the "etiquette" and keep a clear mind at all times.
In a state of unconsciousness, not only can things not be done well, but it may even hurt oneself.
In order to avenge Guan Yu, Zhang Fei, the fierce general in the "Romance of the Three Kingdoms", ordered the production of five thousand sets of white flag white armor within three days, and the generals Fan Jiang and Zhang Da bluntly said that they were powerless.
The drunken Zhang Fei was furious and asked the samurai to whip both of them fifty times.
The two learned that if they could not complete it, they would be beheaded and paraded in public, so they sneaked into the account in desperation, killed Zhang Fei, and took the first rank to defect to Sun Quan.
Poor Hero Zhang Fei I, rather than saying that he died at the hands of his generals, he died in a state of unconsciousness.
Man is not a sage, and nothing can be done perfectly.
But we can do it with our hearts in a sober state, even if it is not comprehensive, at least it will not hurt ourselves, and the results obtained can be accepted.
If you miss something because of confusion, you can only regret it.
The Harvard University laboratory has scientifically quantified, statistically analyzed, and analyzed human anxiety, and the results have been astonishing.
Statistics found that 40% of the worries are from worries about the future, 30% of the worries are from the past, and only a small part comes from the problems of the present.
Instead of dwelling on the past and future that you can't grasp, you should summon up the courage to face the status quo that can be changed.
Matt Hagrid said:
"If you want to conquer the anxieties in life, live in the moment, live in every breath."
First "do your duty", and then "obey the destiny".
We can't be anxious about things that can't be changed, and we shouldn't stop at existing problems, and when we encounter problems, we must bravely take the first step.
Always worrying about gain and loss, it is possible to produce worse emotions.
Living in the moment and doing whatever you think is a cure for anxiety.
Think a thousand times, it is better to act once.
Xin wrote in "He Bridegroom": "Sighing life, unsatisfactory things, ten often eight nine." ”
No one can go smoothly, and ups and downs are the norm in life.
Be calm to reduce damage.
Qi Bangyuan, a professor of English and American literature in Taiwan, was born during the Northern Expedition.
As the child of the Kuomintang elite, she could not escape the fate of following her father for politics and war, so there was almost no time for quiet study.
But Qi Bangyuan never was overwhelmed by the ups and downs of fate, but calmly faced frustration, put aside her inner distractions and external influences, and devoted herself to British and American literature.
In his later years, when he was in a car accident and was seriously injured and hospitalized, Qi Bangyuan silently recited Dante's "Divine Comedy" in his heart:
"When my soul rests, I have no earthly fears."
It is precisely this calm and uncomplaining attitude that has led her to write such a classic masterpiece as "The Mighty River".
Failure and tribulation are not terrible in themselves, but terrible to be brought down by them and crumbled.
Frustration is bitter, but people who treat it calmly can always be happy in pain and face it strongly, so as to obtain a wonderful life.
There are many opportunities in life, and everyone has a time to succeed.
But few people can remain calm in the face of honor and interests, and they do not know that indifference is the wisdom of life when they are proud.
People who are blinded by the flowers of success are often prone to failure.
Fang Zhongyong in the famous "Wounded Zhongyong" has a poor family and is illiterate. One day, he suddenly wrote a good poem, showing the qualifications of a child prodigy.
I thought that Zhongyong could break through the world with his talent.
However, his father took advantage of Zhongyong's name to obtain benefits, and every day he took him to everywhere in the city to show off, and did not let him study.
A few years later, Zhongyong's talent was "lost to everyone".
Being complacent and oblivious often does not last.
On the other hand, those who are indifferent when they become famous, they do not take fame and fortune as the only pursuit, but it is easier to not change their original intentions.
We need to know that success is not the end, but a new starting point.
In this world, only by being indifferent to temporary success can people go further.
I have seen a saying that says:
"I found that books do have a lot of magic, no matter what kind of problems they encounter, or worries, they can be gently resolved through reading."
When confused, books are the best companions.
A book review writer once told such a story.
For a while, he wasn't too happy and was thinking about the same question every day:
How can we live happier?
After much thought and fruitlessness, he chose to read.
As it happened, he read a book about happiness that made him suddenly enlightened.
After tasting the sweetness of reading, he insisted on this good habit for ten years.
In life, we will be more or less confused, rather than always entangled, it is better to calm down and read a book.
Reading can heal the body and mind, so that a person becomes bright-eyed, no longer wrestling with trivial matters, no longer clinging to insignificant troubles.
Reading is like lighting yourself a light and illuminating the way forward.
Fu Lei wrote in his family letter to his son: "The naked son is lonely and will create a world. ”
When people are alone, they can often burst out unexpected energy.
In the mortal world, there is a lot of noise around us.
If you want to avoid being like everyone, you must insist on independent thinking.
Because only when people are alone can they quiet themselves and listen to their inner voices.
Through such thinking, we can make a summary of everything that happened before, change it if there is a mistake, and encourage it if there is no mistake.
At the same time, it can also combine the actual situation and make a reasonable plan for tomorrow's work and life.
I've heard a saying that says:
"True practice is not to identify oneself in the hustle and bustle of interaction, but to reflect on life in quiet solitude."
People tend to be sharper and more creative when they are lonely, because no one bothers us.
Stop at the right time, calm down and think, in order to find the direction of the heart.
There is a hot topic on Douban: "What are the reasons why you have entered middle age and begun to understand?" ”
There is a very heartfelt comment:
"Every day I was lucky enough to hide when I was young, I doubled down on my offerings after middle age."
Those seemingly easy times are actually laying the foundation for the future.
In the late Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan worked in the Hanlin Academy when he was young, and he was relatively idle at that time, so he ate and drank with people every day.
My father asked Zeng Guofan, how do you think your life is now?
Zeng Guofan thought about it carefully and felt that such a day was mixed eating and waiting for death. So he thought bitterly and decided to find something right to do.
Without such ideological awareness, there would have been no later "Wen Zhenggong."
Every moment in life is valuable, and in your free time, when you hide your future appearance, you may wish to learn a new skill or develop a hobby.
You can gather your strength in silence in your spare time and amaze everyone.
I've heard a saying that says:
"A man's future is hidden in his way of life."
A good lifestyle is great for personal growth.
Exercise when irritable, divert attention, bring yourself a good mood;
Do things when awake, improve the efficiency of action, and improve the quality of life;
Act when anxious, instead of thinking a thousand times, it is better to act once;
Be calm when frustrated, let the past pass, and keep calm;
Be indifferent when you are proud, not arrogant and impatient, and continue to work hard;
Read books when confused, regard books as good teachers and friends, and find a way forward;
Thinking when alone, calming down, examining yourself;
Accumulate energy in your spare time, work hard every day, and never fail to live up to life.
In 2022, may you learn these 8 high-end lifestyles, enhance your happiness in life, and continue to move forward with hope.
I wish you all that you have received and a smooth journey.
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Author | Little Note: Loves literature, especially modern and contemporary literature. Love to write, favorite writer is Lu Yao. Love football, the idol is Messi.
Typography | Zheng to the north
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