"At the beginning of man, nature is good, sex is close, habits are far away", every child is the same pure and clean when they are born, like an angel, but why in the process of growing up, it has become very different, I believe many parents will have questions in this regard. So today we will explore the #child who was just born is the same, innocent, but why is the ending different? #
We are all accustomed to calling children the flower bones of the motherland, since it is a flower bone, then the growth of a flower bone in addition to its own variety determines the way it blooms when it grows up, on the other hand, even if we are the same variety of flowers in different environments, it will bloom differently, so if the flower bone blossoms what kind of flowers in addition to their own conditions are related to their own conditions, it is also related to the environment in which they grow, such as soil, even if the best flower seedlings, placed on barren land can not produce beautiful flowers.
As mentioned above, the reasons affecting the different outcomes of children are mainly their own internal factors and external environmental factors. External factors involve three levels: family environment, campus environment and social environment.
Family factors, from the moment children are born, the first thing they are exposed to is the family, and the soil that raises them at the beginning is also the family environment. Psychological research has shown that in the process of children's physical and mental development, family environment and education play a decisive role. Therefore, whether the child's physical and mental health is fully and healthy, how high the level of development can be, in what direction can it develop, and whether it can become a talent, in a certain sense, is actually closely related to the family education environment. The ancient genius Fang Zhongyong was talented and intelligent, and he could write poems at the age of five, but because his father was short-sighted and for a momentary gain, he did not let him study, but instead pulled Zhongyong to visit the people in the county all day, and finally made him "invisible to everyone". The existing Olympic champion Gu Ailing, the mother's encouragement and support and correct guidance, and finally help Gu Ailing to win glory for the country, stand on the highest podium, so the positive and negative examples can be seen as our child's first teacher, the impact on them is even greater, so we must lead by example, while correcting ourselves, we must pay attention to our parenting attitude and education methods, to provide children with a good family atmosphere.
Campus education factors, children in the process of growing up will slowly jump out of the family, into a group life, and the first group environment is the campus, whether a school's educational philosophy is advanced will affect the child's perspective on things, determine the child's pattern. In addition, the level of teaching materials in the school affects the learning effect of the child, and in the case of the same students, the importance of the teacher is highlighted, after all, the famous teacher is also a good apprentice.
Social environmental factors, children from birth will learn through imitation, so a good social environment is necessary for the healthy growth of children, we should be close to good people, things, things, in order to learn good habits! Ancient Meng mother in order to let the child have a better education to move the cemetery, the result of Mencius followed the neighbor children to learn to play imitation of the game of funeral, the second migration market, Mencius learned to do business as a businessman, buying and selling things to entertain guests bargaining and learning to learn a wonderful way, and finally three moved schools, the surrounding classmates and teachers understand reason and faith, know etiquette and learn, for a period of time, Mencius changed the past mischievous, became orderly, polite, like to read. Eventually became a world-famous literary figure.
Their own factors, everyone in the initial birth is inherited from their parents a gene, the arrangement and combination of genes lead to our different appearance, growth and development of different, these are what we can not change. But in addition to these innate factors, acquired efforts are more important in the child's growth process. If a person does not argue with himself, even if the innate conditions and external conditions are superior, in the end it will not help, "everyone is lost"!