Parents are of course extremely caring for their own treasures. Some parents, in order to allow their children to focus on learning, rarely involve their children in housework. Some parents believe that housework is some dirty work, and they have the ability to do it themselves.
In fact, appropriate housework, in the process of children's growth, can cultivate their motor skills, cognitive ability, but also cultivate a sense of responsibility. And studies have shown that housework has a great impact on children's growth.
Harvard University scholar: Children do not do housework, and it has a huge impact on future life
A scholar at Harvard University once conducted a survey on the impact of children doing housework. Mainly, the children who did housework and those who did not do housework were mainly investigated when they grew up.
A number of data were counted, and it was found that the employment rate of children who love to do housework is fifteen times that of children who do not love housework when they become adults, that is to say, the employment rate ratio is 15:1.
Children who do housework are more likely to be accepted by various social positions when they grow up. In terms of crime rate, the crime rate of children who do housework is low, and when children who do not do housework grow up, the crime rate is ten times that of children who do housework.
This may be because doing housework has a certain sense of responsibility for children, which has a greater sense of social responsibility and stronger psychological endurance.
This study, as well as other conclusions, such as children who love to do housework, grow up, the marriage and divorce rate is relatively low, and the prevalence of mental illness is also very low. The study touched on many aspects.
It can be seen that doing housework or not doing housework when you are a child has a certain impact on the child's life, and the impact is all aspects.
If children even wash dishes and wash clothes from a young age, some small housework is dependent on others, life self-care ability is poor, after growing up, the ability to plan things will also have an impact, independent ability is also poor, so it is easy to be hit by various blows in the process of growth, there will be some harm to psychology.
Therefore, no matter how old the child is, they should take on the housework within their own ability.
Parents should also have the awareness of training their children to do housework, and through doing housework, let their children become better selves.
Children who cannot live, life is also easily hindered
Some parents will feel that this study is exaggerated, their children use the time to do housework, study well, study well, and their future life will not be bad. And at present, his own family can completely take care of all the housework of the child, even if the child grows up, he will not do anything, and he can also ask for a nanny.
It doesn't matter if you don't do housework, it's the last word to learn well.
But children who only learn but cannot live may have their lives hindered.
Before that, there was a genius teenager Wei Yongkang, who studied very well, and could even be said to be a genius.
Now many parents begin to learn thousands of words when their children are very young, and Wei Yongkang, at the age of two, others may have just been able to speak for a long time, they learned thousands of words, and at the age of four, they have already completed the junior high school curriculum. He went to university at the age of 13, and later, 4 years later, he entered the Chinese Academy of Sciences for a master's degree and a doctoral degree.
Since childhood, Wei Yongkang's parents have let the children concentrate on learning, and the others have taken care of it all and arranged it all. Children do the same thing: concentrate on learning.
In addition to being responsible for washing clothes and cooking every day, even toothpaste must be squeezed by parents in advance, and even in order to let children read more books, do not let eating delay learning, and feed teenage children.
In this way, Wei Yongkang could do nothing but study, or even have any ability to live, and later, because of this, he was persuaded by the school to retire, and a genius became an ordinary person.
In fact, doing housework is not to make children suffer, but in the process of doing housework, let children know how to support themselves, learn to do things step by step, and cultivate the ability to live independently, which is indispensable for growth.
At different ages, let the child do the housework within their reach
Children do housework, is the need to be equipped with appropriate housework according to age, so that children can do what they can, in the labor experience to grow.
(1) 2 to 3 years old, let the child have a sense of "help"
Children at this time are often self-centered and think that everything is their own. And children are prone to cranial brains,
You can let the child have a sense of "helping" first, not necessarily really able to help do things, but let the child have a sense of participation.
For example, you can have your child finish eating, wipe the table with a tissue himself, and then throw the tissue in the trash. Or ask your child to put his own dishes in the kitchen in a designated position. Or learn to brush your teeth yourself and use the toilet. After playing with the toys, learn to clean up.
When parents do housework, they can let their children set up handles, such as helping to get a towel. This allows children to realize that housework requires the whole family to work together and that they need to participate.
(2) Children are 3-7 years old and develop the ability to complete housework independently
3 to 7 years old is a critical period for children's personality development. At this time, the child has the ability to complete some housework alone, which can be done independently.
If the child does not like to do housework, he can choose, such as "do you want to feed the cat or go to wash the rag", let the child choose one of the housework to do, have a sense of independent choice, it is easier to accept doing housework.
(3) After the age of 7, develop the habit of doing housework
Children after the age of 7, starting to go to school, to develop the habit of doing housework independently, can slowly teach various housework as they grow older. For example, start by folding clothes, turning on the washing machine to wash clothes, and drying clothes. This can be followed by sweeping and mopping, as well as the simple operation of various electrical appliances. Then you can wash your clothes and dishes by hand, and slowly learn to cook.
If the child is not doing well, parents should not take it as scolding.
We need to be clear that letting children do housework is only to cultivate children's independent ability, not to let children do housework to win awards.
Parents can lead by example and let their children understand how to be right and how to do better. Slowly get a sense of accomplishment from doing housework, and make things more organized.
brief summary
Cultivating children's ability to do housework can improve children's ability to live. We cultivate and educate children, not to let children stay with us as a "giant baby".
Instead, when children live independently, they also have the ability to take care of themselves and make their lives better.
So, parents, let your children learn to do housework.