The five-bar teenager still remembers it, because in the news, Huang Yibo, who had two days more bars than the young pioneer captain, was surprised, and behind this fire, countless people at that time were also interested in him.
According to many media, Huang Yibo began to watch "News Network" at the age of two or three, and began to read "People's Daily" and "Reference News" every day at the age of 7, and has now published more than 100 articles in important newspapers and periodicals across the country.
At that time, Huang Yibo was called the tragedy of the current education model. Time back to the present, Huang Yibo grew up, contrary to the identity of the "prodigy" of that year, the current Huang Yibo only scored 477 points because of his general performance in the college entrance examination, did not override the second line, and finally could only enter an independent college called Wuhan College.
For the current situation of Huang Yibo, in addition to the booing after the end, we must also reflect on a lot of education issues, because what happened to Huang Yibo, at this moment, may also happen to our children.
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Are the "five bars" of childhood useful?
Huang Yibo's childhood was definitely brilliant compared to most children, five bars, and the former deputy captain of the Chinese Young Pioneers in Wuhan. From the age of seven, he insisted on reading "People's Daily", "Reference News", and watching "News Network", and his idols from childhood were not stars, not football stars, but political figures who came and went in ancient and modern times.
He is also a popular figure in school, and he is deeply loved by teachers of various subjects, and he is loved by thousands of people. Such a brilliant childhood, according to the script, how to grow up must be a graduate of a famous school, grow up to become a civil servant, devote himself to the patriotic cause.
But no one expected that Huang Yibo, who was so mature and excellent at that time, did not grow up to have such a smooth life. So are those glories of childhood really useful for children's future lives?
For example, he was born in Huarong County, Hunan Province, and was admitted to Xiangtan University for undergraduate studies at the age of 13, becoming the youngest college student in Hunan Province at that time; Wei Yongkang, who was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 17, was admitted to the Master's and Doctoral Degree of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
Titled a genius, he should have had a bright future, but at the age of 20, he was dropped out of school because his self-care ability was too poor and his knowledge structure was not suitable for the research model of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
In addition, the child star Lin Miaoke, whom we know, sang at the Olympic Games, and the advertisements that he endorsed spread throughout the streets, and was a child star known to almost everyone at that time. Everyone originally thought that Lin Miaoke would not be able to become a big star when she grew up, but at least she could go more smoothly than other art students on the road to art.
But in reality, Lin Miaoke's life is very different from our imagination, Lin Miaoke took the college entrance examination to take the nortel, Chinese opera, Shangju and other school examinations, and finally only passed the Southern Arts.
Nowadays, Lin Miaoke is very low-key, and his fame is much smaller than that year, except for participating in the show in the past of a child star, he is no different from ordinary people at other times.
For the ordinary status quo of Lin Miaoke, many netizens believe that this is caused by Lin Miaoke's parents' excessive consumption of her. After Lin Miaoke achieved some childhood achievements, his parents allowed Lin Miaoke to choose a learning direction that may not be suitable for him.
Whether it is Huang Yibo, Wei Yongkang or Lin Miaoke, in their experience as a modern version of "Hurt Zhongyong", the problems that come out are the tragedy of family education.
There is an old saying: "Those who are yao (yao) are easy to fold, and those who are jiaojiao (jiao) are easy to be defiled." Children who are better than their peers from an early age, parents tend to look forward to their children's future more.
This expectation invisibly determines the future of the child, so that the child has no more choices to do, and finally the child is trapped in a road that is "doomed" from childhood.
Nowadays, family education, there is also a lot worth reflecting on, we tailor the future for children, if it is really not suitable for children, then even if it is talented, it may not be successful.
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Is there anything wrong with letting children become "five bars"?
Schopenhauer said that young people were very early on and knowledgeable about the world, indicating mediocrity in nature.
The "five bars" should have represented honor, but it was so heavy on Huang Yibo's body. At a young age, his behavior and demeanor are closer to those of adults.
If the bear child is the lack of quality education for the parents to the child, then the five-bar teenager is the excess of "quality education".
How many parents' education is to let children learn to observe the color of speech, learn to say different words on different occasions, this kind of education itself is correct, but the premise of all this must be in the case of not violating the child's original heart.
If the child only learns to observe the color of speech and loses the courage to resist unfair phenomena, if the child only learns to judge the hour and size up the situation, and loses the recognition of his own value will only become inflammatory, then all this can only be more than worth the loss.
For many children, they do not have such a mature mind, and the "politeness" of the adult population may be a gesture in the child's world.
Parents' education is determined to make children become a sensible "little adult" if they do not distinguish between situations and situations. Then if there is a problem in the child's future, the parents must not be able to escape the relationship.
Huang Yibo has no problems as a "five-bar" teenager himself, he can get the recognition of teachers, get the school's praise, and his own efforts are inseparable.
However, in reality, most of the situations are not all decided by the child himself, and parents require their children to do everything decently, ask their children to shine brightly, but ignore the children's own wishes.
As parents, we need to be punished in the face of our children's mistakes, and we need to be punished in the face of children's rudeness, but the starting point of punishment is to let children recognize their mistakes and correct them.
There is no way to educate, only children are afraid of these mistakes, mistakenly think that some of their own qualities are not allowed, so as to eliminate them all, so that the child's character is mutilated.
In fact, there is no mistake in letting children become Huang Yibo-like "five-bar" teenagers, but under the premise of all this, parents need to guide their children with correct values.
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The child's goals should be understood
Huang Yibo's five bars have made everyone interested in his current situation so far, and he himself has been affected a lot.
Because of the contrast between childhood splendor and today's mediocrity, he has also been ridiculed and even attacked by many netizens. Huang Yibo's parents also called on social platforms to give Huang Yibo some space.
For Huang Yibo's encounter, everyone instinctively discusses the failure cases that happened to him, thus ignoring that his former excellence was also created by his own hands.
On the day that Huang Yibo was born as a "five-bar" teenager, countless people's spoofs and ridicule made us a little more joking about his image.
If you think about it, Huang Yibo has always been located in a key school in Wuhan on the way to study in addition to the university, and even if the grades are not up to standard, the school is also strongly recommended by the school according to Huang Yibo's performance.
His efforts may not have succeeded in the college entrance examination, but they cannot be regarded as failures.
Huang Yibo's goal at that age seemed ridiculous to us, but fortunately, his parents did not despise his goal.
At that time, the overwhelming pressure of public opinion thought that the "five-bar" teenager was a tragedy, but this view was equally narrow, ignoring that every child's goal is valuable.
The mediocrity of Huang Yibo's current situation is more inclined to pour cold water than regret. This is the real educational failure.
Although the final results of modern "wounded Zhongyong" such as Huang Yibo and Wei Yongkang are not satisfactory, it does not mean that their future will remain the same.
We encourage children to pursue their own goals, but feel that their goals are too absurd and break the cold water, such education is really worth regretting.
For the child's goal, give the child support, help the child to recognize their own shortcomings, the rest, as parents, we must boldly give the child himself.