I have lived with my boyfriend for three years, and the two of them have spent the most difficult time together, but when I did not expect it, our seemingly unbreakable love could not be worth 60,000 yuan of dowry money

I have lived with my boyfriend for three years, and the two of them have spent the most difficult time together, but when I did not expect it, our seemingly unbreakable love could not be worth 60,000 yuan of dowry money...

My boyfriend and I have been in a relationship for three years, and although the two are not married, they have actually lived the same life as a normal little couple, and we have been in love for less than half a year.

But what struck me was that when we were about to enter the palace of marriage, there was a dispute over the dowry money of 60,000 yuan.

My boyfriend and I met when we were working together, and at that time he had nothing, no car and no house, but I still fell in love with him without hesitation.

In the past three years, we have been renting a small room of only a dozen square meters, no heating, no air conditioning, freezing to death in winter and heating up in summer, but I have no complaints about this, I feel that as long as I can be with him in this life, no matter how much suffering I eat, I am happy!

In three years, the two of us have saved money and never been willing to spend money indiscriminately, that is, we only want to save money to buy a house of our own, even if the area is small, it is finally rooted.

However, before we can buy a house, the boyfriend's parents have long been unable to wait, they said that the two of us are not young, or get married first, as for the house after marriage is not too late to buy.

I didn't feel anything wrong after listening to it, because in my heart I felt that I was already a boyfriend's person, and I could buy the house whenever I wanted. But my parents disagreed, fearing that when I got married, my in-laws would drag down the purchase of the house because my boyfriend and a younger brother from high school.

However, the girl was outgoing, and under my repeated insistence, my parents could not help me, so they had to reluctantly agree.

However, the parents also made a request, the man must give a dowry of 60,000 yuan.

In our local area, when the woman gets married, she will generally ask the man for a dowry of 6_80,000 yuan, and my parents ask the boyfriend for a dowry of 60,000 yuan.

But when I told my boyfriend that my parents only asked their family for a dowry of 60,000 yuan, my boyfriend was obviously very surprised, and he said to me with dissatisfaction: "We have known each other for more than three years, and you even asked our family for money when we got married?"

My boyfriend's reaction stunned me, and I couldn't help but stifled him: "Isn't it customary to get married and give a bride price, and my family only needs 60,000 yuan to ask for an auspicious number, and how many years does this have anything to do with knowing each other?"

In this way, because of the bride price, I rarely had a conflict with my boyfriend, and he thought that our family was a lion with a big mouth, and should not ask for so much money.

And I think that the man's bride price is natural, and 60,000 yuan of dowry money in today's society, is already a very low standard, besides, my parents have raised me for so many years, is it more than 60,000 yuan to the man?

The two men quarreled over this, but none of them were willing to give in.

Watching the time pass by day by day, the two people were still unwilling to give in, and both sides felt that the bride price was a matter of principle, but the ideas were completely different.

The boyfriend even said viciously: "This money is an insult to our love, we have loved each other for three years, I never felt that you were a material person, I wanted to get married to know that you love money so much, I already knew that you were such a person, it was better to disperse!"

I want to ask, how can I be good in a situation like this, do I insist on a bride price, or choose to compromise with my boyfriend?

My Reply:

Hello, girl! After reading your description, you can understand the grievances in your heart at this time, and I didn't expect that a man I loved so deeply was not even willing to give out the dowry of 60,000 yuan, which was difficult to accept no matter who it was spread on.

The dowry of 60,000 yuan is really not much, and the average family can take it out. And why doesn't your boyfriend want to pay this money? If you think about it, there are two reasons:

First, there is no custom of bride price in your boyfriend's hometown, even if there is a very small amount, 60,000 yuan is already a very high number on their side, which leads to the subconscious rejection of your boyfriend's heart!

Second, the boyfriend feels that the two of you have been living together for three years, except for the fact that there is no difference between the husband and wife without a license, in his heart that you will not leave him to find other men in this life, since you can't leave him, then why should he spend that unjust money and save the sixty thousand yuan dowry money to do something else?

In short, say a thousand ways and ten thousand, or your two feelings are not deep enough, otherwise you will not be in trouble for this bit of bride price money, personal advice, or good to loose it!

In many traditional marriages, the bride price is an indispensable part, it represents the respect of the man to the woman's family, but also represents the beginning of the official marriage of two people. If two people really want to be together, they must discuss the dowry matter well, money is originally a sensitive issue, but it is really sad to ruin a marriage because of money!