Today, the cousin (daughter-in-law's side) family came to visit the mother-in-law, and at dinner, everyone talked about the education of their children, and more of them were complaining about the bitter tears. Listening to my cousin's recounting,

Today, the cousin (daughter-in-law's side) family came to visit the mother-in-law, and at dinner, everyone talked about the education of their children, and more of them were complaining about the bitter tears. After listening to my cousin's confession, I no longer envy other people's children.

The cousin was born as an only daughter, who grew up to be very sweet and well-behaved, and her small mouth was like honey, often sweetly called "big aunt, big uncle", which made people very fond of it.

From elementary school to middle school, to college, until now graduate school, he has always been the well-behaved child who does not have to worry about his parents. To be honest, with the cultural level of my cousin graduating from primary school, I can't help at all, I can only do logistics service work.

But the cousin is still not satisfied with the child, and often educates the child because of some trivial things. For example, when you get up in the morning, your niece often does not like to fold the quilt strips, messily placed on the bed, which makes the cousin very indifferent, and will criticize the education: girls should pay attention to the cleanliness of the bed, do not tidy like a kennel, so it is easy to make people think that you are a sloppy person.

The niece will immediately retort: why can't your bed be placed at will, if you have to get it neat, where is the warmth and feeling of home, isn't home a place to relax? Why put yourself in disguise and make yourself nervous? If you can't get used to it, then you're not optimistic.

At the end of the conversation, the niece "touched" and closed the door, making the room shake!

The cousin froze, tears kept swirling in the eye sockets, and until today when I talked about this matter, my cousin's eyes were still red!

After the college entrance examination, the niece traveled to Yunnan with her classmates. When the cousin heard that it was three men and three women, and six people traveling together, she immediately began to oppose, euphemistically telling her niece: You are still young, you can't play your boyfriend too early, you must focus on your studies,......!

The niece immediately said: I am in the class, regardless of the relationship between male and female classmates, all play very well and casually, is it true that today I play with a male classmate, tomorrow and another male classmate to eat, then the whole class of male classmates have not become my boyfriend? ......。

The cousin was dumbfounded by her niece, and then flew straight to Yunnan with her classmates, leaving her cousin alone in the wind.

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Seriously, before I heard my cousin's story today, I really thought of my niece as a flawless person, and I was really envious, but despite this, I still felt that my niece was very good and could be a model for the mythical beast that my family was studying in the third year of high school.

It turns out that every family has a difficult scripture to read, and many times, we just see the appearance.

The reason why other people's children are well-behaved and sensible is mainly because we have not lived with other people's children for a long time, and there are some places that we cannot see and discover. After all, no one is perfect, and there is no gold, let alone a growing child.

Of course, many times, we do not hear the complaints of the parents of well-behaved children, because they know how to maintain the image of the child and protect the child's self-esteem. After all, parents complaining about their children to outsiders is a bad thing for children, and it will destroy their own image and reputation. In the long run, their children may become the teaching materials for others to educate their children.

@ visual workplace perception: Children are originally imperfect, so we need the education and guidance of our parents to help them gradually mature. Many times, we are not aware of our duties, lack patience, and suffer from some utilitarian ideas of quick success, so we will often complain about problems such and such problems as children.

In fact, the real problem is not the child, but the problem of us as parents, because we suffer from the impetuous syndrome of quick success. If a child is born perfect, why should we, the "first teacher" of our child, be? #教育听我说 #