Many of the leftover girls were actually separated by their parents. Like Dan Dan in the text is a good example of an oral narrator: Dan Dan (31 years old) Many people say that leftover women are too picky to be left.

Many of the leftover girls were actually separated by their parents.

Dan Dan in the text is a good example

Narrator: Dan Dan (31 years old)

Many people say that the leftover women are too picky to be left,

But I'm not picky at all and that's all that's left.

Is there anyone like me?

There was a very strong and picky mom who broke up my two boyfriends!

In my mom's words, my first two terms were not worthy of me.

Now, after I became an older leftover girl, she was constantly urging marriage.

I am 31 years old this year, during the Spring Festival blind date of more than a dozen, are my mother entrusted people to find, to put it mildly, my mother's current standard is: as long as it is a man, alive, single she feels feasible. Now she panicked, thinking that I really couldn't get married if I dragged it out any longer, because there were several female colleagues in my mother's school who were in their thirties and forties who were not yet married, and it was estimated that there was no chance to get married, and they would be alone for a lifetime.

In particular, my mom saw that an unmarried female colleague in her forties had been hospitalized some time earlier, and no one in the family had come to visit her because her parents were gone. She has a cousin, the two usually rarely communicate, two cousins and a cousin also rarely communicate, usually do not come to see her sick and embarrassed to tell people. Fortunately, colleagues knew that they took turns to visit her, and my mother felt that she was particularly desolate.

After she came back, she changed, very nervously urged marriage, thinking that if I couldn't marry out, the end would be very sad, and no matter how I got married, I still had children, right?

So now, no matter what she finds, she feels better than me alone.

Tell me how my two relationships were broken up by my mom.

When I was 18 years old, I was looking forward to love, the most important thing is to get out of my mother's control, my mother is too strong, at home I and my dad have to listen to her, she is a small leader in school, but she brings work to life, often uses the tone of teaching students to teach me and my dad, I really can't understand how my dad can fall in love with my mom so hot woman, my dad is more or less a leader in the unit, but at home it is like my mom's student, sometimes my mom trained to even dare not breathe.

Although my family conditions are good, in the eyes of outsiders is a happy middle-class family, but I grew up often feel that the atmosphere in the home has a sense of depression, not to follow my mother's words, she is not happy, I do not like this atmosphere. I have been studying hard so hard that I want to get into a university out of town to stay away from my mother.

My mom was very angry when she knew I was carrying her to fill out the university, and scolded me fiercely. I feel that I can finally let go of myself, and I don't bother with her anymore.

My first boyfriend was a campus love, although my mother told me not to fall in love during college, and I was going to come back after graduation, but after leaving my parents, the emperor of The Mountain High was far away, she couldn't control it, I said yes on the surface, but behind the scenes I still found a boyfriend.

My first love was my sophomore year, and he was a very good, gentle boy. At the beginning of graduation, I was willing to go back to my hometown with me. But my mother knows that after the big anger, although the boyfriend is very good, but our two cities are separated by about eight hundred kilometers, the boyfriend's family is a working class, his parents are very open, said that if the first love is developed here, the future is also willing to pay for the boyfriend to buy a house here, but my mother just does not agree, do not want me to marry a foreigner, said that it is not easy to go to the family in the future, and even if the future settles here, but the New Year's Holiday will still return to the man's family, not to mention that the first love family is not a rich person, my mother feels that it is not worthy of a family like mine. In my mother's strong opposition, my first love could not stand up and returned to his hometown to develop.

Later, I learned that my mother took a fancy to the son of one of her friends who was an official, and wanted me to develop with the second generation of the official, but I had no appetite for the second generation of the official, and I read a second book and mixed up a relatively stable job under the arrangement of my parents, and the income was not enough to support himself, which was still a sense of superiority, and I thought to myself, what are you superior? You can't support yourself without your parents, and I don't like this kind of person the most, and I feel great because my parents have a little power. I didn't ask him to eat, so why should I be with such a nasty man? After my mother knew that I refused to be an official for the second generation, she scolded me, saying that I was stupid, saying that she had helped me pave the way for a bright future, and if I did not go, I would definitely suffer losses in the future! If you want to have a good future, you can fight for resources, saying that I am too ignorant.

The second boyfriend met through work, he was a civil servant, tall and thin, and was my favorite type. But my parents run a small supermarket in the town and support themselves. There is no house, and if we get married in the future, we will need to provide a house together. After my mother knew his situation, she was not happy, thinking that I was looking for such a boyfriend is equivalent to getting married, not as good as the conditions of the first love, saying how I did it, finding a boyfriend is worse than one, too blind. She introduced that I don't want to have good conditions, I like to find men in the garbage, which is too humiliating for her. This time she objected even more strongly, took out a tougher approach than my first love to treat my second boyfriend, saw that I refused to break up with him, went directly to the door to find her boyfriend, and persuaded him to break up with me. At first, my boyfriend did not waver, who knew that my mother directly scolded him as a toad who wanted to eat swan meat, anyway, how hard it was to hear her scolded how ugly it was, my second boyfriend couldn't stand it, and directly played missing!

In the past few years, I have been preoccupied with my work, promoted and raised, Bought my own house and moved out to live by myself, and I did not see my mother as a net. When I came back from work, I bought vegetables alone, cooked by myself, and did everything alone, although I also felt lonely and lonely, but I was used to it! I feel that this kind of life is still good although lonely, free.

But my mom is now nervous like an ant on a hot pot, going around helping me find a blind date, and I know that it's really not easy to find the right conditions for me at my age. The older you are, the more you see this kind of thing, the more you dare not have great expectations, the more rational you are, the less passion you have to find, just like that, there is a Feeling of Buddhism.

I don't know if there is anyone like me who became a Buddhist system after being separated by my parents?