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As we all know, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a common phenomenon in many families. Due to different ideological concepts and different life backgrounds between the two generations, it is also normal for them to have conceptual differences when they get along.
But the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a matter between adults, and when problems arise, they should be resolved by adults themselves, not affecting the next generation.
But in real life, whether it is the elderly or young people, in the process of taking children, it is easy to pass on the contradictions of adults to children, so that family conflicts are more intense.
Not long ago, a bao mom in Guangdong published a video on the Internet, which triggered heated discussion among netizens.
The dialogue between the daughter-in-law and the grandmother, the grandmother's sentence "You have no mother" angered netizens: too angry!
It's a surveillance video of Grandma playing with her grandchildren.
At this time, the grandson asked the grandmother: What about the mother?
Surprisingly, the grandmother did not answer the grandson's question directly, but asked the grandson: Do you have a mother? Then start stressing: You don't have a mom.
And the grandson also learned to repeat the words of the grandmother: I have no mother.
This video obviously made Bao Mom very angry, and after the video was released, many parents also said that if their children were educated by the elderly in this way, they would definitely lift the table on the spot.
This kind of any mother can not stand it, there are contradictions between adults should not involve children, the old man teaches bad children is too angry!"
"Exactly like my mother-in-law, I never said a word of my mother's good in front of my grandson, all bad reviews, but fortunately, my son is very clear about right and wrong, and he has not been successfully provoked by his grandmother."
"Why is it difficult for a woman to be a woman, it is not easy to be a mother, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is resolved, and the child should not bear the pain of adults at an ignorant age."
Although the publisher of the video did not explain the ins and outs in detail, it is clear that in this family, the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law do not get along well, so the mother-in-law will consciously guide the child not to recognize the mother when she is alone with the child.
This situation is not unique in real life.
Netizen @Yuzu also posted "accusations" against her mother-in-law.
Since Yuzu gave birth to a child, she has had a lot of differences with her mother-in-law because of life trivialities and the problem of taking a baby, and Yuzu wants to live separately from her mother-in-law for this reason, but her mother-in-law refuses, and therefore dislikes Yuzu.
Yuzu, who does not want to be a full-time mother, can only entrust her daughter to the care of her mother-in-law, one night, Yuzu cried her daughter because she urged her daughter to study, and her daughter pointed at her mother's nose and shouted: You bad woman!
The words of the 5-year-old child shocked Yuzu very much, and after coaxing her daughter to be well, Yuzu softly asked her daughter why she said such cruel things to her mother, and she did not expect that her daughter would open her mouth and say: Grandma said this.
This sentence made Yuzu freeze on the spot, she and her mother-in-law were indeed at odds, but she never expected that her mother-in-law would pass on her dissatisfaction with herself to her children.
After that, yuzu thought more and more afraid, decisively took her daughter back to her mother's house, and confessed that her husband would divorce if they did not live separately.
Fortunately, after this incident, Yuzu finally lived a family of three.
What kind of impact will the transfer of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to the child have on the child?
For children, mothers and grandmothers are their own relatives, so a large family with love for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very beneficial to the healthy growth of children.
However, there are many problems with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, not every family can achieve happiness and harmony, and many elderly people have no place to vent due to negative emotions, so they can only alleviate their emotions by complaining to their grandchildren that their daughters-in-law are not good.
But this method is very cruel for children, and it is also quite unfair for daughters-in-law.
Adults transfer the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to the child, first of all, it is easy to make the child who is not yet mentally mature to be hostile to the mother or grandmother, which is very unfavorable to the establishment of parent-child relationship.
Secondly, allowing children to digest the contradictions of adults will make children feel insecure and bring greater psychological pressure to children.
Finally, this negative family atmosphere will also make children disappointed in family affection and happiness, and become no longer convinced that there will be good feelings between relatives.
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