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I can't help but surprise people: this is the world, and there is any hades news.
In 2022, there are still people who think that the value of women's existence is to have children?!
In the marriage in the case, both parties have problems.
The woman's sterilization did not inform the man, but the man was overjoyed, and on the grounds that his wife did not give birth to a child for him, he filed a claim of 150,000 yuan to settle, which was also jaw-dropping.
If you are raising a daughter who is not related to you by blood, you can choose to claim that you have the right to divide most of the property after divorce.
Presumably, the word "claim" would not be so shocking in this news.
The final judgment of the court also represents the attitude of Fortunate Knowledge towards women's reproductive rights:
Procreation is not an inevitable consequence of marriage, nor is women a tool for procreation, and women enjoy the right to procreate and the freedom to procreate.
And the divergent attitudes in the comment section also reveal to us the true side of human nature in marriage and childbirth...
01 Whether to have children or not is a consensus that a family needs to reach
The woman in the news is naturally the wrong party.
Otherwise, there will be no two-sided situation of comments:
Obviously, the man claims to objectify the woman, but there are still many people who speak for the man.
One of the reasons for the disagreement in the comments section is that the couple did not agree on the matter of having a child.
In a certain sense, the woman's decision not to have children and the early sterilization, but not informing the man in advance, deprives the man of his right to know.
In a marriage, whether it is Dink or in response to the state's three-child policy, both husband and wife have full freedom of choice.
In the marriage relationship, telling the other party of their own big calculations is also giving the other party the right to choose.
Communication should not be resisted in the form of deception.
The attitude of both spouses towards childbearing is based on the consensus reached by both parties.
The breakdown of this marriage, to some extent, is not because of not having children, but because of the failure to "communicate".
Marriages that are not honest enough to come to an end are only a matter of time.
Negotiation is the essence of marital communication, and it is necessary to fully consider the needs of the other party and their own requirements before making a decision.
After all, the law also guarantees men's reproductive rights.
In judicial practice, if the husband strongly wishes to have children, but the wife is unwilling to cooperate, the husband can find another partner.
If the parties do not agree on whether to have children, the party who is eager for childbearing can advocate divorce.
02Probesion has never been the meaning of marriage
Some male readers have left a message in the background to consult:
"Married for 4 years, the daughter is two years old, and my wife accidentally became pregnant but did not tell me that I had a miscarriage. I think she miscarried without my consent and deprived me of my reproductive rights, can I claim compensation for her when I get a divorce? ”
When asked about the specific situation, I learned that it was his wife who considered the family's economic problems, her husband had no fixed income for odd jobs, and he usually had an alcohol addiction, so he went to quietly miscarry.
Seeing such a message, I also feel helpless.
Based on the physiological structure, women bear 90% of the hard work of childbirth, and the process from pregnancy to lactation will not only affect women's career choices, but also bring irreversible trauma to women's bodies in some cases.
But the husband did not introspect the reason for his wife's miscarriage at the first time, but could not wait to start pursuing responsibility, and hung up his reproductive rights and compensation, which was ridiculous.
Whether a woman loves a man or not cannot be measured simply by whether she is willing to have children for him.
But whether a man loves a woman or not depends on how he views a woman having children.
Fortunately, I don't quite agree: the claim that childbearing is a sacrifice made by women.
Procreation itself is a choice, and the original intention of women to give birth is because: love.
As a husband, you must not ignore the starting point of childbirth.
Wu Jing's wife, Xie Nan, also talked about the topic of women's childbirth in the program, "The child is my next birth, and I have the right to decide, and I must have a greater share of the right to decide."
Women who give birth to children are said to be closed from the ghost door, which is a hard and dangerous thing.
When Xie Nan gave birth to her second child, because of her age, the risk probability was much greater than when she first became pregnant, but she still chose to be an "elderly mother".
She gave for the family, but did not let her husband Wu Jing as an "outsider" in her fertility.
When Xie Nan gave birth, she was issued a danger notice by the doctor, and she asked Wu Jing to sign it instead of asking her parents to sign it.
Because of love, she chose to procreate.
Also because of love, she asks her husband to face the blood, face the risks and consequences that his wife may have when giving birth, and thus understand that women are not easy.
Procreation has never been the meaning of marriage, but when love comes naturally, the melon ripens after reaching a consensus.
03 Whether the marriage is good or not has nothing to do with whether there are children or not
Some people believe that children are the stabilizer of marriage.
Therefore, I feel that in order to have a good marriage, I must have children.
This is a paradox.
A marriage with children does reduce the urge to divorce, because the cost of divorce is greatly increased, it is no longer a matter of two people, and it also means that there are more responsibilities.
It is precisely because of this that many women who want to divorce will seek perfection for the sake of their children and trap themselves in marriage.
However, marriage should not be sustained by children alone.
Marriages with children, the situation of infidelity, are not in the minority.
So don't try to hold a man in the back with procreation, and it's only you who end up trapped.
There is a very interesting sentence: the post-80s are frigid, the post-90s do not want to get married, the post-00s only want Dink...
In fact, it's not just post-00s. According to statistics, there are currently more than 600,000 Dink families on the mainland.
And the first Dink family, the age is not small, such as the host We know Kang Hui.
What about childless marriages?
Some time ago, Kang Hui called his wife on the "Hello Life" program and was coaxed to say: "I love you." ”
Many people sighed: I did not expect that I would one day be sweet to faint from the love of middle-aged couples.
When Kang Hui and his wife got married, they made Dink's decision: "From the first day of marriage, my wife and I decided unanimously without communication: no children, form a Dink family. ”
After more than twenty years of married life, they have never had children, but they live a sweet life.
He would walk hand in hand with his wife after work, as if he were in love.
He would write letters to his wife and put his thoughts into ink: "Letter to His Wife: Thousands of Glories, Not as Trivial as Day and Morning and Dusk".
Not having children is a real no pity for their marriage.
Here, I'm not advocating for Dink, Dink! It is more testing of human nature than the average family, and there are many stories of eventual disagreements.
Just want to prove: rather than saying that children are the chains of love, it is better to say that marriage is good or not, and the important thing is to operate.
04Yes or No！ Women have freedom of choice
Some time ago, my friend was urged to have a second child by her husband.
The eldest treasure of their family is a daughter, and the husband has given birth to a second child, and wants to have a son, so he can put together a good word.
The friend was not disturbed by the urge, and complained, "He didn't even consider whether I wanted to or not!" ”
Indeed, many families often have disputes and contradictions over fertility issues.
The naturalness of the tone raises questions about whose reproductive rights lie in marriage.
People want to cry: is the reproductive right in marriage in the hands of women?
The answer is unquestionable!
Whether it's choosing Dink, becoming a working mom, or having a baby and returning to the family, they all deserve to be respected.
On the topic of female fertility, there are indeed many good sounds:
"What's wrong with giving birth to two?" Never seen anyone as stubborn as you."
"What woman doesn't have children?"
"Procreation is the meaning of a woman's existence."
"A woman who does not have children is not flawed..."
But it is precisely because of these voices that Fortunately, I want to emphasize the proposition that women's reproductive rights depend on themselves.
We're not talking about whether you want to have children or not, we're talking about the 'right to choose' about procreation.
You can choose to be born or not to be born.
We don't see if we can say "yes," but we see if we say "No!" "The right.
Although when you fight, there will be a lot of outside voices.
But learning to let go of outside voices is a lifelong lesson we need to do.
Because of life, no one has lived for you, only the choices you have made, you will not easily regret.
The woman who chooses to have children is great, because she has to go through the ghost door, and she must shoulder the responsibility of being a mother in the process of growing up.
The woman who gives up childbearing is also very brave, and she has to try to resist the flood beast of the outside world' voice, and the waves do not shake.
Whatever choice you make, remember: you can choose to have children for love or you can choose to be free, it's your choice, and no one else is qualified to interfere.
After all, men do not have a long womb, so why should they control a woman's reproductive rights?
You say, right?